bridal gift registry?

Question

I registered at Bed bath and beyond for my bridal shower but there is still alot of things that were not given to me. Will it look bad to put that little paper that they give you when you register in to the wedding invitaions

how is this being greedy? if its being greedy then why do people register anyways?

Answer 1

set up a wedding website and put the registry info on there.. then send the web address to everyone to tell them about the site.

no one wants 10 sets of corningwear!!

but really most people give money for wedding gifts so you can go get what you want or put it towards the wedding/honeymoon. and if someone wants to give you a gift they will often ask where you registered.

Answer 2

I don't think it would be appropriate to put the registry notices in the wedding invites. When we were planning our wedding, we registered at BBB as well, but I only out those little notices in the shower invites. As for not getting all of your registry stuff at your shower, it makes sense that you wouldn't. Not everyone will buy off your registry. Plus, you still have the wedding coming up. Chances are good that people will go back to the registry for gift ideas. And, if you are concerned about people knowing where you are registered, tell your bridal party and family to pass the word.

Answer 3

"how is this being greedy? if its being greedy then why do people register anyways?"

I agree that "greedy" isn't the best word to use here. But let me try to explain why it's not appropriate to put these imformative papers into your wedding invitations even though it's perfectly alright to put them in shower invitations. I'll even give you some hints for telling people where you're registered in a way that even Miss Manners approves. This might take a few paragraphs, so please be patient with me.

Showers and children's birthday parties are the only social events where gifts are REQUIRED. You bring a gift for some "needy" bride or expectant mom, and in return you get punch, cake, and silly games. It's all about the loot.

Gifts are NOT required for a wedding ceremony or a wedding reception. True, almost everyone gives some sort of gift, but it's not an "admission price" like a shower gift is. It's NOT "about the loot" at all, but about wanting people that you care about to be with you on this special day. If the invitation gives even a hint that you expect a gifts, it sends a message that it's "about the loot" -- not about your fond feelings for the people you invite.

They way you get around this is by maneuvering your guests into ASKING you what sort of gift you'd like. You can't bring the subject up yourself, but if they ASK then you're free to tell them. The most mannerly thing is to give them several options. Some people like the convenience of registries, some people hate them, and some like to just stay home and write a check. So say something like "We both love scuba diving, we're registered at Target, and money is always the right color."

Now the question is HOW to get them to ask. We didn't have this problem in "the old days" before RSVP cards were invented. We did our RSVPs by phone, so guests always had an opportunity to ask what to wear, what sort of food we were serving, whether there would be booz, how to get to the place, could they bring their kids, and what sort of gift would we like. Since you've already printed invitations, it's probably too late to include a phone number, but you can still call people. Make excuses like wanting to be sure that the invitation wasn't lost in the mail or needing to "firm up" your head count. Dollars to donuts, many of these people will ask you what sort of gift you'd like. (You don't have make every call personally; it's OK to get friends and family to help.)

Congrats and best wishes.

Answer 4

According to ettiquette the only time you mention where you are registered would be in your bridal shower invitations, not your formal wedding invitations. You can always have your parents or close family spread the word for you, or you can always use the money you get as gifts to buy the stuff you really want from your registry!!

Answer 5

That is extremely tacky! Take the money you get from the wedding and buy the rest of what you need--or--wait and buy one thing every payday until you have what you need. A gift registry is nothing more than a list to give people an idea of what you like/need for a shower not the wedding. If guests call your parents to ask which gift to offer, maybe you could suggest to your folks which directions to guide them....

Answer 6

No, you do not include registry information.
Let people choose the gifts they want, and be gracious in accepting them! If someone were really stuck as to what to choose, they would ask your family members who could then give registry information.

Answer 7

Yes it will look bad. People dont have to even give gifts to the newlyweds if they dont want to (and yes i've seen it done)... they do it out of kindness and love. I guarntee that you will get alot of money as a gift from people, so just go and get what you didnt get from your shower.... simple! Congrats on the wedding by the way.

Answer 8

In this day and age, I don't think that it would be a big deal. That way the guests know where to look to find you a gift. If they don't want to give you one then they don't have to. If you are doing a formal wedding the I would say leave it out. You could always set up a wedding web page such as www.theknot.com and have your registrys on there. That way you are just including the web page address in your invitations and they can go there to get your registry info and maybe learn a bit about your history, meeting, proposal etc. Good luck. Remember it is your wedding let it be what ever you want it to be.

Answer 9

a ideal budget for a marriage present registry is there extremely isn't one. regardless of if, soliciting for persons to purchase you a $500 or $one thousand present is amazingly intense, notably in case you be attentive to your visitors have not got that form of money. common wedding ceremony presents fee everywhere from $5 or $10 as much as $250 or $3 hundred. human beings will purchase presents from those registries no longer in common terms on your wedding ceremony, yet your bridal bathe as nicely. register for what you % first and then some products which you actual need, yet would on no account oftentimes purchase your self. fundamentals comprise: pots/pan set, coffee maker, toaster, mattress linens, knife set, glasses, linens for the washing room... stuff like that. a familiar registry consistently blanketed high quality china. in case you have or are making plans on procuring a china cupboard or would have someplace secure to save china, then register for it. If no longer, then register for common dinnerware. or you would be able to additionally register for the two. different products to splurge on in case you so % to attain this are crystal bowls or candle holders, sterling silver products and different high quality china. a fashion the form of the fee of the presents you're soliciting on your visitors to purchase for you is, is your wedding ceremony going to be a huge stylish wedding ceremony or a outdoors bbq? If it extremely is a outdoors bbq, then do no longer register for the crystal bowl. Your registry gadgets the tone of the form in an offset way. on no account comprise the place you're registered on or on your wedding ceremony invites. it extremely is cheesy and against etiquette regulations. visitors will touch the two you or a kin member to make sure the place you're registered at. it extremely is blanketed in a bridal bathe invitation if % be. a clean way of registering is for persons who're into outdoors activities at the instant are registering for camping out equipment. or you would be able to additionally set up an account on your honeymoon and somewhat of registering for products in a save, register for persons to place money in the direction of your honeymoon. elementary places to register at are: Macy's, aim, mattress tub & previous and Linens 'n' issues. don't be afraid to register for what you %, yet consistently remember to register for what you % first. And consistently comprise a brilliant array of costs on your visitors to % from. you could consistently only register for present enjoying cards too.

Answer 10

Don't do it. It'll make you look like a gold-digger. It'll look like you only invited people to get presents. You'll offend people.

If I got an invite with a copy of the registry, I might not go. It's just such a turn off...