when I was 4 yrs. old my parents immigrated to the US and dragged me with them ofcourse. I had no choice. should we be held responsible for our parents actions?
2007-11-01 10:51:27 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
I can not move back because I don't know anything about my country of origin just only what I've seen in movies and t.v. or read about. I think if I move back they will see me as an outsider and I would not be able to adapt to that environment. I'm like an animal taken from my jungle and placed in a zoo. You don't know who you truly are until you know where you came from. To those who have never felt what it's like to be looked upon as an outsider or foreign invader you will never understand.
2007-11-01 11:00:31 · update #1
I can not move back because I don't know anything about my country of origin just only what I've seen in movies and t.v. or read about. I think if I move back they will see me as an outsider and I would not be able to adapt to that environment. I'm like an animal taken from my jungle and placed in a zoo. You don't know who you truly are until you know where you came from. To those who have never felt what it's like to be looked upon as an outsider or foreign invader you will never understand.
2007-11-01 11:03:46 · update #2
Nope. But there will always be horrid people who are hateful that will call you all sorts of terrible things because they are afraid of people who are not white, right and uptight.
Sorry about that!
2007-11-01 10:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I sympathize.
When I was 12 I was uprooted from my comfortable social life and home because my parents decided to move to a city across the country. At first I wasn't thrilled with it but I quickly learned that they didn't just do it for themselves but they also did it to improve the quality of life for us kids, not to mention the opportunities that became available because of it. I don't think it's a matter of being held responsible for our parents actions though. As children our parents are responsible for us and that means that if they move away we generally have to follow. When you are 18 you will be able to decide for yourself whether or not to stay in the US.
Edit: as a matter of trying to discover who we are based on our roots, you could always go back to visit and learn about what life is like there. I know it's not ideal to be treated as an outsider, granted you'll likely fit right in appearance-wise so I don't think people will be so quick to pass a judgement on you. Don't let it stop you from discovering your roots. Travel to your country of origin and learn as much as you can.
2007-11-01 11:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by JD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your additional comments reveal you meant "country" where you put "city". So I'll answer accordingly.
If my country became so unlivable that I feared for the life of my family, couldn't find work or sufficient pay, business prospects were nil, and education was non-existent...BUT... I have a toddler whose life is in my hands, WHY WOULD I BREAK THE LAW WHEN ADOPTION IS POSSIBLE?!!! That would be love with sacrifice.
What your parents did can best be termed, "Selfishness with some concern".
If they had any kids AFTER they realized the mess they were in and STILL refused to offer them to loving, more-established homes, that is criminal negligence against a child.
Nothing is more grotesquely immoral.
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2007-11-01 11:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
would you rather be all alone in the world at 4 yrs. old? Your not responsible for your parents actions, but no you shouldn't get any say in it either. Trust me a kid should not raise theselves. If you're complaining about being "held responsible" because you're here illegally then you should try to apply for citizenship. Or go ahead and go back to wherever you came from all on your own
2007-11-01 10:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Keiko 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, would you rather they left you behind then?
I think this is a silly question to ask. A 4 year old can not make the same infomative decisions an adult can. So yes, it's perfectly 'fair'. If you don't think so, I'd talk to your parents about their motives behind moving. Besides, once you're of legal age, you're more than welcome to move back.
2007-11-01 10:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by kwazy_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is part of childhood. When you are a grown up you will be able to make your own choices, but until then yes it is fair for your parents to move. They are trying to do what is best for them and you. You may not like it but I sure there are several very important reasons why your parents decided to move, and I am sure that they gave it a lot of thought and they took you well being into consideration. Parents love their children and it is hard for them to make a move like that as well, but they did it for a good reason I am sure.
2007-11-01 10:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by allspells 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's fair for parents to take thier child wherever they go, prettymuch. Of course, it's very unfair for them to force thier kid to engage in breaking the law, so I hope they immigrated legally.
Parents are responsible for thier kids, afterall. If your parents take you somewhere you're not supposed to be - like, say, they take you camping in a mine field in Afghanistan - then, when they leave, they should definitely take you with them.
The same goes for parents who force thier kid to break any law. The kid doesn't realy deserve to be punished for breaking the law - but he does have to stop breaking it.
As to going back, there's no reason you shouldn't - you are presumably still a citizen, afterall. Besides, if your parents were able to adapt to life here, you can adapt to life there.
2007-11-01 12:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by B.Kevorkian 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should feel lucky to be here in the US... your parents can do what ever they want and yes drag you along for the ride.. sometimes it sucks but I believe we are on a path.. this is your path.. you were meant to be here for a reason and where ever you end up you will look back and be thankful!
2007-11-01 10:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by lostnlove 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depends what age you are now. if your old enough to have your own life away from your parents then you should become a citizen (the legal way) or move back from where ever you came from.
2007-11-01 10:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL i know its hard but alot of kids hate moving well i cant wait to move lol i hate where i live ihave friends but i will make more and i hate my house and really you have no choice whether you liek it or not your legally theres lol until you hit 16 or 17 yoou can leave ... be happy though dont make a big deal trust me :)
2007-11-01 10:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Renee M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ummm, you were four years old, I doubt you cared at the time. And it's not like they could have left you...because you were 4... and not an adult. Which is when you gain independence. Understand?
2007-11-01 10:56:32 · answer #11 · answered by annziemarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋