How do I approach this with my dad?

Question

In a nutshell- my step-sister on my dads side molested me for 7 years. I finally told about 2 years ago and after a trial they put her on probation and told her she could not be within so many feet of me.
NOW- I work for my dad and while I was walking around the office she showed up.
Everything in my body froze up, and all the emotions that I'm really great at hiding all came bubbling out.
my dad was in a meeting...but even when he got out I tried to ask why she was here and he shooed me away.
what do I do?

Answer 1

If shes no longer on probation and theres no order in force anymore you cant do anything. I do suggest you get counseling though so you can learn how do deal with it. You will be running into her sometimes.

Answer 2

If she was knowingly in your presence, then she was violating her parole and you have every right to report her to the police.

Your high emotions were triggered by her presence, and that is totally understandable. She had no business being there, and your step dad is an enabler.

I think there needs to be a couple of consequences here.
1) She goes back to jail for parole violation, and
2) You stop working for your step dad because he has failed to protect you, both then and NOW!

I know you are kind of shooting yourself in the foot, if you do this but I really really hope that you quit your job in the family business,(without notice) and tell your step dad the real reason why you are leaving.
In the long run I truly believe you will be better off. Especially if he isn't going to protect you from your attacker.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

She has no right to be there. You should've just called thew police and reported her being there.... You DO have a current restraining order, do you not? I'm figuring with something like that the restraining order would be permanent .. but regardless.. you have to have a copy on you. and there should be one with your father too.. if he is indeed the owner of the company. She should not be allowed to even be on the property while you are employed there.

If it happens again, i say you dont even think twice, just call the police and report a restraining order being broken. I'm pretty sure also that if you father insists on her staying then they could arrest him too.. so if he has any sense he will send her away.

I actually have a story of my own on the same topic.. if you want, go ahead and email me and I'll tell you about my incidents.. and how i deal with them.

Answer 4

Well if she is still under orders to stay away from you, call the police.
If you can, try and find another job since your dad obviously doesn't seem to care about your feelings.
Also, if you haven't gotten counseling, I suggest you look into some now as its never too late.
My sympathies to you for having to go thru all this crap.

Answer 5

well I can tell you that this feeling will never go away. all you can do is learn to deal with it in your own way. as far as your dad is concerned I think that if he knows what happened to you and tell him how it make you feel. HE NEEDS TO STEP UP! Or maybe its time for you get mad and tell both of them to *uck off!

Answer 6

Wow umm
Well ur dad cares **sarcastic**
I totally agree wtih nml..u should of called the popo and mayb you should get your dad's attention and tell him how u feel and stuff...is your mom around?

Answer 7

call her probation officer as she has violated the terms. then tell your dad to find a new employee as she seems more important to him than you. what an *sshole.

Answer 8

You could have called the cops right away and she would have been sent back to jail.

Answer 9

He needs to know how that made you feel!!
You need to find time to sit with him and relay this important message to him!

Best wishes!

Answer 10

GET A NEW JOB. IM SORRY TO ADMIT IT BUT THAT WAS A DEVISTATING SHAFT. LET YOUR DAD KNOW HOW YOU FELT ABOUT THAT BUT STILL CHANGE YOUR JOB.