Shes going to a dress up party as a "sailor". the costume is basically a white mini skirt that pracically shows her butt, and the top is a button up shirt that shows A LOT of cleavage, and a little sailor hat. She says its cute but it looks so slutty. The party shes going to has alcohol, and no adult supervision (shes 16) and she plans on drinking and possibly getting drunk. I figure a drunk girl who is so scanalty clad around horny guys at a party will get taken advantage of or raped and she wont listen to me so I said ill tell her mom and she said she wants to leave me! I'm so worried about her weve been together 2 and a half years (i just turned 18) and i cant go to the party becasue of work. Why would she wanna dress like this? and why wont she listen to me about it? I didnt tell her mother but should I appologize about how I acted or stick to my guns?
2007-11-01 10:22:34 · 23 answers · asked by Sebastian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She said even if i got off work I couldnt go with her because "I wasnt invited".. whats going on with this?
2007-11-01 10:36:08 · update #1
Dude, if she's going to a party without you looking like that, then she's going fishing for other guys. Which means you're getting replaced as soon as she finds something better. Worse yet, she could just be staying with you and cheating on you.
Get rid of her, find someone that deserves you.
ADDITIONAL DETAILS: Are you kidding me? You're her boyfriend and she's not letting you go with her to the party. Let me repeat that: You. Are. Her. Boyfriend. The reason she doesn't want you going is because she's going to be doing things with guys that she doesn't want you to see. I understand you want to trust her and she may even beg you to do so, but the fact of the matter is that she is not acting like she wants your trust by going out looking like that. Actions speak louder than words my friend, she does not want your trust, nor does she want your commitment. Leave, now, you deserve so much better than her.
2007-11-01 10:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by Takfam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns and tell her you care that much about her and you don't want her to get hurt because you obviously do. If you explain why you do not want her to attend rather than telling her in a way if she can't she might understand better. As for why she wants to dress like this, it's the style this season... the skimpier the more popular. Maybe the best thing to do is to tell her mother to protect her or make a compromise with her that you can have a party between the two of you another night and do whatever she wants to do. If she really cares for you she should make a compromise, she wants to go to the party but would most likely still have more fun with you. If she does make a compromise and doesn't go to the party be prepared to owe her. This is something she wanted to do and didn't for you. And hearing stories of the night will make her wish she had gone.
2007-11-01 10:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by heythere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know why she wants to dress like this. She knows why too. You liked it when you were the guy she wanted to attract, right? Now she wants attention from other guys and you're standing in her way. Don't tell her mother. You think her mother will get involved now? It's probably her mother's old costume. Don't offer an apology. Just be polite and thank her for the time that she was happy with you and let her go. Be glad you didn't get her pregnant. The costume probably won't fit her long at this rate.
2007-11-01 10:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by noshaymatall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. You are absolutely right for not wanting her to dress this way and go to a party. She is asking for trouble. I would go talk to her mother, despite the fact that she says she is going to leave you if you do. She has already decided to show her butt and see if she can pick up someone else at this party, so essentially, she left you already. I wouldn't want to be sen with someone that dresses and acts like that. Tramp is the first word that comes to mind.
2007-11-01 10:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. You're not being rude or derrogatory, just caring. You have the right as a boyfriend to input your opinion on this type of thing. If she can't see how much you care, that's two bad for her. Because if you apologize, and something happens at the party, you'll know you could've stuck to your guns and made more of an impact, possibly preventing it.
2007-11-01 10:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a boyfriend just like you. I know deep down in side of you don't want other guys looking at your girlfriend. But if she feels great in side then that should matter to you. On the other hand she needs to know that when guys get druck they tend to what to do stupid things. She need a to talk with her mother about that and knowing what could happen to her. I think that it is best that is hear from her mother or friend because it might up set you. yes you should appololgize to get her on your side then explian why you told on her to let her know that you care about her and don't what to see her get hurt.
2007-11-01 10:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing the right thing by telling her not to go. I know being together for 2 years means alot but so does understanding one another and caring about how one another feel, if she can't wear something else when its making you anxious then she should respect that and be happy that you care for her. If she was honestly worth it she would understand, i would do whatever it takes to get her to go as something else or tell her parents.
2007-11-01 10:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by flugy98765 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she dresses like that cause she is either a tease or a little slut, which ever it is dont be a baby and tell her mom. dont worry about her because she doesnt care much about herself either. usually the problem with girls that want to dress like that is they shouldnt cause they really arent much to look at in the first place so they pick this one day a year to show there stuff so in their mind they were hot once in there life time.
2007-11-01 10:35:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are probably correct in your assimption, although it sounds like you may have presented in an unflattering way, probably made her pretty mad Huh? unfortunatly when young girls, or women get mad about something like that, they tend to rebel.
Maaybe you could explain to her that you were worried, because you care about her, and don't want to see her in any danger, if she didn't mean something to you, then you wouldn,t care what she did. Good luck
2007-11-01 10:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by okimreadynow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend would deff not let me go but thats cuz i lied to him if u trust her totally then it doesnt matter how she dresses cuz she loves u n she wont do anything stupid although there was alcohol theere jus tell her not to drink 2 much n b serious but yea apologizw to her but next time try 2 go with her she most likey realli wanted u to go but dont leave her ull regret it
2007-11-01 10:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋