then why doesn't He help me when i feel sad and numb, why do i have no friends and a life full of personal hate and despair. Where was my Father when i needed him?? It just doesn't make sence believing in God and hoping when you get nothing in return from Him, why is life so unfair, why is that guy cooler than me while he has done nothing more than me to deserve it. Doen't God helps us because he hates us, not any loving God whould give people who are sad nothing but self- hate, destructional behavior. It is mostly the people who are sad and hope that God will help them go insane and start killing themselves or other people, where is our Father when all this happens, he could've prevented it if he gave some guidance to that sad person. I just can'tbelieve that their is a God helping us when we feel hopeless.
2007-11-01 10:13:20 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am so sorry that you are going through so much depression! I have felt this way before, but I got help and I'm better. God is there for you, always, but you have to truly trust Him and have faith. Also, you have to do a few things for yourself, while you're at it! Do you remember the story of Jesus giving the blind man his sight? He made a "mud paste", put it on his eyes, then told the man to go rinse his eyes. The man did, and was able to see. Many times, we want God to just step in and make things right, but we don't want to make the effort to do our part. You may not have friends because of your personal hate and despair. Did you ever think that maybe you've turned away from people who wanted to be your friends? Or might have wanted to if they could see who you are underneath it all? As for your self-hatred, that's something YOU have to work on! Go to a pastor, or other counselor and get some help, that may be all God is waiting for you to do, but you won't know if you just sit around feeling sorry for yourself and blaming God because you won't get up and do anything! God gives us guidence all the time, but we have to listen for it, and act on it. Remember, He doesn't always go through the burning bush, sometimes it's that still, small voice. I will pray for you, but you have to make some effort yourself if you want to see some change in your life. God bless you.
2007-11-01 10:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear the phrase "seek and ye' shall find" ?
God doesn't "give" people destructional behavior - as you described. There aren't really miraculous events occurring now-a-days. He gave us JC - for forgiveness of sins, and he gave us the Bible - a guidebood for life. And he gave you the ability to think for yourself.
I think- if you do believe in the Bible and in God- that you need to meditate on the actual origination of all these things you mentioned - why do you feel numb and sad? Is it JUST because you have no friends? Then what do YOU need to do about it? Make friends. If it involves a little change - like bathing daily, brushing your teeth, and leaving your basement(I really mean comfort zone) once in a while, then it might be worth it in the long run. God doesn't "help you feel hopeless"....when you're feeling down, just flip open the bible - contrary to what many believe, it's full of hope.
You also need to meditate beyond yourself. What makes you think that you are the only one out there who's sad? There are billions of people living on the earth today - do you think every one of them have it easy-peasy? Millions are starving and living on the streets in the USA alone - not to mention Africa. Then there's the people with illnesses - AIDS, cancer, even people with lost limbs. You obviously have something going for you - you have access to a computer and likely have at least one working hand. There are people who wish they could be numb who live daily with chronic pain. You just need to learn to be optimistic. Think about what you've got that's good. That's all everyone else does - and can do. You work with what you've got and if you don't like it, you make it better for yourself. No-where in the Bible does it say that God is a magic wish-granting fairy.
I think a great place for you to start is the book of Job. See what happened to him and how he dealt with the pain.
Learn to see the glass half-full.
2007-11-01 10:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by CHRISTINA 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He promised to let the sun shine
on the just and the unjust
and to let it rain on the rich and the poor
the only difference with having God's love
is like those of us that have a cloud or tree for shade,
so when the sun shines, it does not burn us,
or having an unbrella, so that when it rains
it does not dampen our spirits.
God is love, an dhe cannot love one person more
or less than another one. He loves freely,
without condition so you cannot earn more love
than you have right now, and you cannot ever
loose his love...
the thing about this life journey is,
how do we respond to his great love,
and what do we choose to do about it when
the sun shines or when it rains.
We decide how it will affect us,
we are swayed by wind and emotions...
when really we should never fear
or murmmur or complain...
for not one of us has it rougher,
or easier...we are all in this trial together.
I hope you can find some comfort and rest,
a place of peace or joy of laughter and light.
there may be great hardships, great losses,
but again, wait a week and find great treasures
and great discoveries.
Life is ever moving, twisting and changing.
and so we are not stuck in misery for long.
Soon enough a butterfly will catch out attention,
a shapely cloud will get us to daydream...
and then we will soar off again on another goose chase.
Hang in there. and know...
God is love...and that is all we really need.
Hug.
2007-11-01 10:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by dancenshout2002 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey! God does help us! But it is very far and few between that you see those "spectacular miracles" that convince and convert people in a moment.
Mostly God talks to us softly. By using our instincts, or "gut feelings". But it never hurts to keep praying for a miracle.
Just from my own experience God can only work if we truly admit our faults. But that can be done quietly in your head. And admitting our faults is harder then you think. But once you do it your whole life will change.
Even though I'm only a new Christian I still struggle with this very issue. I spend most of my days simply repeating in my head ALL day long "your will be done" and that's all I can think about.
Good luck
lb
2007-11-01 17:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Shel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not like some referee in a game that can call time out on a foul.
Two things you touched on that may be the problem. First, how do you go to God, if you do at all. God will not intervene if you do not want Him to. So if you truly don't want a relationship with Him, He will not intervene. If you do, than humbly give yourself to Him and sacrifice your worldy desires for the spiritual ones you were created for. Second, you need fellowship. Sounds odd i know, but hear me out. Jesus stated that Satan is a lion, lurking in the shadows, waiting to pounce. If you are alone, than just like a lone Zebra you are lion meat. Fellowship provides strength. It doesn't mean you won't be attacked, rather that you have a better chance of fairing the attack. What I find interesting is those who walk away from that fellowship are quickly attacked...then they wonder what to do and when advised to go back, their first inclining is not to. Once you are snared, it is hard to escape the lion's jaws.
2007-11-01 10:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kiker 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
God is not the blame for anything... God is not the blame for your father not being there, your father made that decision. We human beings have a free will, and your father chose not to be a father to you. But you don't have to make the same mistake your father made. Have you truly turned to God and cried out to Him? The hate and despair that is in your heart is blinding you from seeing and understanding the Truth about who God is, and how much he loves you. His love is uncondtional, and His mercy & grace is beyond human understanding. Regardless of what you feel or what you see, start by trusting in Him, and allow Jesus to come into your heart and change you.
2007-11-01 10:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by unknown 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Life is unfair because we have made it unfair. Injustice, hatred, despair are all our fault. God gave us a choice: live for Him or live for ourselves and we chose ourselves. Now we are living with the consequences. If God intervened to stop injustice hatred and despair then he would be stopping free-will. If however we decide to turn back to God, injustice, hatred and despair will still exist but God will help us through everything, life won't suddenly become really easy but He will go through it with you. God does love you and everyone else, He came to Earth and died for you, so you can't say that he doesn't love you.
2007-11-01 10:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gods love is unconditional and no matter what you feel or think about God he will always love you but you need to trust in him and believe in him. I want to tell you something about what I used to think about God. I used to think that he didn't love me because of things that I have done in the past n at times all I could ever think of was killing myself but with the help of my youth pastor and God I got through it all. I know more than ever that God loves me and he always will. My suggestion is that you should talk to a person that you trust that could also help you get through this
2007-11-02 05:17:11 · answer #8 · answered by FuTurE SolDieR 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey bro. What God has shown me is to learn to be happy with less. Sometimes your situation is all about your perspective. Have you ever heard the saying: We see things not as they are but as we are. If the world seems angry and hateful, maybe that's coming from within. I used to joke that God created me to be short because if I was tall, I'd have left dozens of bodies in my wake.
We don't get to know and understand God's reasons until He's ready to show us. And that might not be until Jesus comes again. It's not up to us. God does work through His followers. You may be surprised who God places in your life to help you through your tough times. Have faith in Him. Keep asking Him for guidance and relief. Keep Him in your thoughts and the world will look better to you. I thoroughly believe that. May God be with you and lift up your head. Rob
2007-11-01 10:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by chinmusic851 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All believers face tough ordeals. Look at Christians in Africa. Look as Muslims in the world. No god that I have ever read about gives his creation an easy road to take. I personally have suffered great losses, and find comfort knowing that life will not be all bad - as long as I believe.
2007-11-01 10:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by TexasTrev38 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋