This person is always volunteering information that I don't care to hear about and it annoys me to no end. I try to be polite and listen, but several times (in a single day) I really just want to tell that person to shove it and get out of my face. I want to let them know that it's not in my job description to listen to all their personal woahs and sob stories. Wow!
I just had to get that out. So, yeah - anybody deal with that?
2007-11-01 09:42:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hey thanks for answering my question... Cool answer!
The problem with people at work is that you can't really get away from them, and you probably have to spend more time with them than your own family so you cannot afford any hard feelings. Also, they can trip you up on that promotion.
Having read your answer to my question and now this I can see you are not far away from that promotion either.
What I do is validate the person first, "That is really interesting..." (even if it is not). "Unfortunately, this project, person, etc... really needs my attention. Let me get back to you about that."
Usually, they never get back to you. If they do, ask them what their thoughts are on the matter? Then, say, "I never thought of that... Good thinking... Excuse me, I need to take care of...
But, hey, good thinking." and walk off.
The important thing is to give them praise where everyone can hear it, this is what they are really after... validation that they are true valued as a human being.
Also, if you cannot say something nice about a person, you can always say that they like to eat (not for girls), they are at work, or they are a real human being. The thing is to keep it positive... grace under pressure.
Good luck.
2007-11-02 10:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Wrong Answer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I work with someone that never stops talking about her kids!!! (they are grown and out of the house) It does get very annoying. I am usually "saved by the ring" when the phone rings I answer it and she goes away. In your case you might want to make something up like your boss noticed that you have been chatting a little to much lately.
good luck!
2007-11-01 16:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by my2cents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be polite/friendly but, tell her that you are busy and need to concentrate on your work. The boss doesn't want you to have "idle chit chat". Then leave it at that. If you don't want to be friendly with her ask to be moved or relocated. Then remember your rant next time you're "annoying" someone with your chatter... Good luck
2007-11-01 17:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not the only one annoyed. Enlist the help of a co-worker.
Next time, give a signal and have your co-worker buzz you to a phone call.
2007-11-01 16:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lighthouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell them that as much as you would love to chat, you have wayyy too much work to do, that you don't have time for personal stories. Then get busy!
2007-11-01 16:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by txworker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooooohhhhhhh yeah. This is how I've dealt with it: "yeah" "uh-huh" "hmmm" . Keep doing this and eventually they'll find another sucker that will fill their attention starved egos.
2007-11-01 17:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah totally. I've had coworkers like that...and because they are so forthwright in what they tell people, I am really wary of what I say...
2007-11-01 17:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋