He's a freshman and im a senior,(high school) and i never ever feel comfortable with older guys. but usually, i never feel comfortable with any guy. Except with him, i put my head on his shoulder (which is something i can never do) and i just felt real comfortable. I've been thinking about him a lot too. And i don't know if i like him or not, i've always had trouble with guys i assume cause i was raped when i was a child, but he just seems different. Only when im around him though, when im not i always think of that bad things about him, but when he's around, i want him to stay with me. So what should i do? is this normal?
2007-11-01 09:24:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it is OK, but be careful about having relationships with minors if you are not one. There are laws about that.
2007-11-01 09:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I honestly believe that you need to talk to someone about your childhood experience. Whether it's a doctor, therapist, or school counselor... talk to someone. There are underlying issues that need to be resolved before you venture into any relationship. Chances are, if you don't, you will have a continuous, life-long cycle of destructive relationships.
As far as you being more comfortable with a younger guy... I would assume this would be a result of your "fear" of older males because of the rape. Clearly you are trying to fill a void in your life and in your heart but doing so right now should be avoided. Think about it like this: If you were to build a house on a lot, but the lot was unstable and full of rocks and mud... the house would collapse due to the lack of a solid foundation. So in other words, unless you are able to be that solid foundation, you're inviting all of the walls to close in on you.
Please consider what I've said and take care of yourself. Good luck.
2007-11-01 16:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Shellbus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't matter. As long as there's not some huge age difference like you're 18 and he's 10, then you're okay.
You obviously have developed feelings for this guy, since you're always thinking about him and wanting him to stay around you when he's there, so I definitely think you should talk to him about it! If he's allowing you to rest on his shoulder, he probably likes you too.
It's hard to let yourself develop feelings for someone, when you go through something as traumatic as rape, but you really seem to have become comfortable with this guy, so I think you should give it a shot.
Let him know you'd like to take things slow, so you can make sure you continute to be comfortable and that you don't want to rush anything and good luck.
2007-11-01 16:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's Ok. But be careful. If you want this to blossom into a real relationship, you need 2 give the guys some time and thin about whether he wants this or not. Sometimes, a guy feels awkward dating an older gurl. So.
2007-11-01 16:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by Foxygurl123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it's okay as long as you can decipher your feelings for him.i liked a guy who was only in 6th grade when i was in 9th and that's how i felt...i'm not saying i went through what you went through but it is okay.just don't mess with his emotions,head hart,whatever.dont make him THINK you like him and then turn around and break his heart.you have to know you like him before admitting your feelings for him to him.so just think about for a little while,just go through everything mentally and you might just be able to find an answer deep inside yourself for your question.trust me i had the same dilemma a few years ago(above) but i thought about it and realized i didnt like him like that and now he is like the little brother i never had.i love him to death but dont want a relationship with him romantically...do you understand what im saying?if you need any further help,just email me...
2007-11-01 16:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That woulda been nice if I had this problem in High school. Go for it, why not. Nothing you do in high school is permanent except your grades. Just do whatever you feel like. Wish I did.
2007-11-01 16:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ya ur normal follow ur heart DONT let age hold u back ur just more mature about that kinda stuff its okay cuzi am too ask him to ask u out in a letter tell him how u feel that hes different my parents had that age difference
2007-11-01 16:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i a frosh in high school and i would date a senior girl
u might be made fun of for dating a frosh but if u like him giv it a try
good luck
2007-11-01 16:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by sportswizofthefuture 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age is nothing it may seem alot he is Alot less experanced than you and becuase you had that experance when you were younge that is probly why you feelt hat attraction becuase he is safe.
2007-11-01 16:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel sorry about your childhood. go on, nothing wrong with that. there are so many relationships in the world,that are built on age difference. if he feels the same about you then are a lucky girl.
2007-11-01 16:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋