Okay i met this guy about two months ago, he stopped me while i was leaving the doctors office and asked me for directions. We both exchanged numbers, he's very sweet and well always telling me, how cute i am and how he enjoys my company. We have seem each other only a few times, though we live 20mins from each other. We're both very busy working and well only have time once a week to see each other. I've asked him numerous times to meet my mom and he keeps finding excuses. He said he had a bad experience with his ex mother, so i give him time, then asked him again. Now he's still saying no! I do really care for him, when i am around him i feel like nothing else in the world matters. However it's difficult to be with someone who rarely calls you or texts you. He's always so busy. I really like him, there is so much chemistry between us, it's unbelievable!
Now I’ve met another guy, whose very lovely as well. He treats me like a Queen, introduces me to his boss and all his friends.
2007-11-01 09:23:06 · 14 answers · asked by Playful~Beauty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He tries his best to see me when he's not working. He said he really like me and when he's not working his spare time is to spend with me. He's even inviting me to go home with him in March. He always tries his best to make me happy and he always call me, even after work at nights, he call me before he goes to shower and stuff like that. However the only problem is he smokes and curses alot and i dislike that alot! Other than that, he's lovely. I like both of them, however i'm not sure whose the right guy to be with. Please help me guys, girl what do you think also. I'm not the sort to be playing with two guys at once, that's why i need to make a decision soon.
Thanks in advance for your help.
2007-11-01 09:29:40 · update #1
look, dont worry too much about "picking" the right guy. you have to know that either one you choose will treat you well and you will be happy, its a matter of who will make you happier. Is it important for you to be pampered and to be introduced to friends, or is it important how the guy makes you feel perfect and content when your with him, even if he is hesitatnt to meet your family. Look, the holidays are quickly approaching, introduce him to thanksgiving dinner with your rents. Thats hard to get out of, and if he says he has to eat with his parents, then ask him to stop by for a bit before he goes to his parents. exress how important it is to you. as for not spending tim eiwth eachother, i dont know how old you are, but my bf and i never see eachother because our schedules clash so much. you jsut find a way past it if thats what you really want to do. as for guy two, he seems really nice, but you dont know a lot about him yet. Get to know him, and basically keep both guys at bay. one will obviously be right for you in a week or so. youll have a better idea. no decision needs to made asap...
2007-11-01 09:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by 00000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a better chance with the smoker, although he's a smoker and curses a lot, if he really likes you as much as it sounds then all you have to do is say the word and he'll stop doing both. Now when us women do that you have to be very careful on how you say it. The cursing you can tell him is not polite, very like you don't care but like he's a bussinessman and he shouldn't talk like that. The smoking is not healthy, period, plus it damages your skin, your lungs and ages you so much faster. As for the other guy, I'd say he's not looking for anything serious right now, there might be a lot of chemistry between you but it might not mean anything more to him. If you want a serious relationship, the smoker sounds way better than the chemist. In the end, is your choice. Good luck!!!
2007-11-01 16:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by schedar21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The biggest mistake women make is just decide on love/attraction based on looks and the way they flirt. I see so many women, who just ignore highly educated, talented, polite guys for the players who seduce them. And then they cry out loud wondering why they always end up with Jerks. The reason why you immediately get attracted to a man is the reason why he also will be a jerk. They know they can attract anyone by talk and seduction with no real achivement or honor in their life. They also know, that leaving one for another is a not a big problem. In a man if you look for the right things (talent, achievement, character, education, success) with decent looks, talk to him even if he's a bit shy. We are not in the 17th or 18th century anymore. These days guys like women taking the initiative. I have seen many times in online dating ads, that 90% of the women care about only looks /ethinicity than most important things in life that matters (like I said above).
I'm in no way saying that you should date ugly people. That's up to you. But come down from your dream world into reality and make wise decisions. You'll never regret it.
And once you have him, give him some space to breathe if you want your relationship to be growing.
And, do not multi date. Guys hate that. That tells you're not respecting the person you're with. Think about if a guy who you like does that to you, will you be happy about it?
2007-11-01 16:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by thewiseone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know that answer, because you know what you like, but I would say either could be Mr. Right, or at least a stepping stone in that direction. My opinion is that since you are only seeing the one guy once a week. Start seeing the other guy as much as you want the rest of the week and decide which you are into. If they haven't met your parents they can hardly be your "boyfriend". What you have going on now is more like dates so I would treat it as such and date all you can. If either really like you they will likely try to take it to the next level.
2007-11-01 16:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by OuT BaCk KiD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say in my opinion the second guy since he's open to meeting your side and letting you meet his friends and bosses and such. trust me that's a big thing cause generally if a good friend doesn't agree with the decision or the girl, we will get rid of you and move on. So he obviously want's you to be apart of his life in a whole, where this first guy no matter how great he is, Doesn't seem to keen on fully being a part of your life, and seeing as how it's because "he had an issue with his ex's mother" he's clinging onto the past and referencing it to your relationship, which is just gonna cause problems.
But in the end, it's up to you.
2007-11-01 16:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Twzted Love Photography 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
$5 says the first guy is married or in some other committed relationship. I'm guessing he always meets you in someplace neutral and never brings you to his place?
2007-11-01 16:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Fester Frump 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chose the second guy. u need someone who is reliable and wants to spend time with u and ur family. the first guy makes excuses and just obiously doesn't care.
2007-11-01 16:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by miya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The choice is not mine to make. Either one may change (good or bad) once the relationship solidifies. I don't envy your choice.
2007-11-01 17:17:41 · answer #8 · answered by Don't look too close! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy number one is probably married. If he's not he has problems you don't need to be a part of.
Choose guy number two.
2007-11-01 16:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by John r 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like he could be cheating i dont know the hole storey so maybe not but the newer guy seems like he is more into being with you long term and being there for you.
2007-11-01 16:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by Kia 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋