I know a Matron of Honor is married. A Maid of Honor is not. The person that I always thought would be my Maid of Honor is married now, so she will obviously be my Matron of Honor. None of the other girls are in my bridal party are married. So, do I also choose a Maid of Honor as well or does the Matron of Honor take the Maid of Honor's place? 'Cause I've been thinking about having a Matron of Honor AND a Maid of Honor. I guess it's my wedding and I get to do whatever I want, but I just want to know what's common and what you think about it? Thanks! :)
2007-11-01 09:20:41 · 14 answers · asked by Daisy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I couldn't decide between my sister and my best friend of 20 years. So I had both.
My very married sister was my Matron of Honor and my best friend was my Maid of Honor. You will still have to decide who stands next to you at the alter and who will sit next to you at dinner.
Word to the wise, to avoid fighting within your bridal party make sure everyone knows that only 1 of them has the final say. It was not easy having 2 people who thought they were in charge.
2007-11-01 09:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Chris10L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right it's your wedding & you can do what you want. But as you said technically Maid & Matron are the same position in a bridal party just out of respect for the person if she is married she is called a matron instead of a maid. Everyone else in your party would be considered bridesmaids. But you do what makes you happy don't let anyone dictate "your day" to you. If you have two best friends & you felt you just couldn't choose & one is married & one not then by all means have both. Good luck & God Bless!!!
2007-11-01 09:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Independent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Congratulations, In my case I had a large wedding party so my solution was I had 5 best friends that I've known since grammar school (they were like my sisters) so I chose (1) to be the Matron of Honor (the one that stands by your side) and the other four where my Maids of honors and then the brides maids. Our theme color was Blue so Matron wore Royal Blue Long Dress, Maids of Honor wore Royal Blue knee high dress and the brides maids wore baby blue. The men were Groom's men, Best Man and Ushers. My top 5 friends still felt honor and actually they helped the Matron of Honor in her duties (which was a relief in it self) LOL --- Best of Luck:)
2007-11-01 10:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lidi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding. Have as many maids or matrons of honor as you want, or none. I was the maid of honor in my best friend's wedding, and she also had her sister as her matron of honor. I would probably just have her as an "of honor," so I would have a matron but no maid. You don't need one of each. You can have more than one of either.
2007-11-01 12:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats a cool idea a matron of honor and a maid of honor then a couple of brides maid and a flower girl . .I have never heard of it that way but I think it sounds good. And as you said it is your wedding and if tha is what you choose to do then go for. Don;t let anybody tell you that you should do different.
2007-11-01 09:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by dollbaby2407 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most common is to have 1 person - - Maid or Matron - - however I have heard of a few people having both.
You got it right - it is your wedding you can do what you want.
2007-11-01 09:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way...The Best Man and the Maid/Matron of Honor sign your marriage license. Does that help you decide ?
2007-11-01 12:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by Carol K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so happen that I'm a wedding planner and I have all that a MOH does. The most important job is to be the bride's main emotional support. The fun stuff is to plan and organize the wedding shower (usually with help from the bride's mother), if the couple does not have a wedding planner then the MOH helps address envelopes, mail out invitations and organize the guests' RSVP, spreads word to guest about where to couple has a gift registry, plans the bachelorette party, organize the bridesmaids, give out friendly reminders thought out the wedding process, helps assemble guest favors for the reception, attend dress fittings, hair and makeup appointments, helps the bride with her hair, makeup, and getting dressed the day of the wedding, makes sure the bride eat something before the ceremony, helps the bride pack for her honeymoon, Is the Keeper of the train," before,during,and after the ceremony. Holds the groom's ring, holds the bride bouquet, acts as a messenger for the bride, makes a toast or a short speech in honor of the bride and groom, collect gift envelopes for safekeeping, helps transport gifts to he home
2016-05-26 22:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by dona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tradition shmition. If you want a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor....go for it.
I've been to many weddings where they had both, and I didn't think anything of it! (Then again, I'm not one of those anal, etiquette-must-be-perfect people LOL)
Good luck and Congrats!
2007-11-01 10:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by kiki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think it would be silly to have a maid and a matron. Just pick one and be done with it. Regardless of who gets what label, whomever you ask to be in your wedding should be honored that you are asking something of such value.
2007-11-01 11:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋