I broke up with him April 2nd, 2007 at exactly 7:13am..... but now I'm missing him. and we were talking last night [both a little intoxicated] and decided to have a "secret" relationship.... because his girlfriend is off at college 2 hours away. what should I say???
2007-11-01 09:15:49 · 26 answers · asked by Demeter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is how STD's get passed around. Very bad idea. My piece of advice is don't answer the phone when you are a little intoxicated.
2007-11-01 09:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Steve is cool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll let you decide on what to do after hearing this, you broke up with him for a reason. Yes you do miss that person but is it worth continuing a relationship as the second person. What will happen when she comes back, remember she will be getting a break soon and that will last threw all the holiday seasons. I would focus on finding someone not attached to someone. And a major question I would ask myself, would I like this done to me, remember this person is sneaking around. I would have a little more morals about myself and I also would think I'll be right back in the same spot when she return. I would find someone else to fill those shoes. Remember your feelings are still wrap up in him and you can get hurt. But if none of this bothers you go ahead.
2007-11-01 09:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by deneansmith@att.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first you have to be sure that he meant what he said and it was not because you both were a little off. I think you should tell him that if he wants a relationship with you he will have to leave his girlfriend. I mean, do you really want to be the other woman? Don't you love yourself a little? For goodness sake girl!, if you think he is the right one for you, then tell him and make him choose, you deserve much more than being his second helping.
I mean, the way I see it he is taking advantage of you, and, have you thought about his girlfriend? how do you think she would feel if she finds out? And do you really want to be with somebody who is willing to cheat in his girlfriend? I mean it would be impossible for me to trust in somebody who is willing to cheat on his girlfriend with me. Can you be 100% sure he won't do it to you?
Good luck, I hope you do what is best! =)
2007-11-01 09:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Arda K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no! To protect yourself and make sure you don't get any bad karma. If he isn't happy in his current relationship then let him make that decision on his own. And how could you, in all good conscience, be the other woman? It's not fair to his girlfriend or to you because you won't get what you need from him.
I can tell you right now that your secret relationship would be based solely on sex/fooling around. Next time you talk to him, tell him that you thought about it and your answer is no. If he wants to be with you then you want him and don't want to share. good luck
2007-11-01 09:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by nyalley85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accepted? No this is not accepted. could she opt for you to maintain a "platonic" relationship along with your Ex?? She would desire to be focusing all her interest and time on the relationship she has with you. he's "old information" or would desire to be. in line with possibility you will desire to re-examine this relationship. appears like she isn't over this man or woman and this would at last have an exceptionally unfavorable impression on you. And in simple terms how plenty will she be seeing this man or woman? is this lady worth each and every of the potential and soreness she is inflicting you? re-examine this relationship. It sounds bleak, at maximum suitable. solid success!!
2016-11-09 23:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way... not matter how you put it, it is cheating. If you want to be together he needs to break up with his girlfriend. The secret relationship will only hurt you in the end if he decides to stay with her and leave you behind and noone will know!! Save youself the pain
2007-11-01 09:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by sportsfan22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no- why would you settle to be his secret when you should be his #1? Why would you want to devalue yourself like that? He just wants to have his cake and eat it too. Tell him if he wants you he has to dump the other girl first. Why would you want to get back with someone that wants to cheat on his current girlfriend? How do you know that if you get back with he he won't have a "secret" relationship with another girl behind your back? This guy is a JERK
2007-11-01 09:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by ♪♬ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok let me just tell you I was in a realtionship with a guy who was in college 2hrs away we were together for two years madly in love. we were picking out wedding cakes when I found out about the other girl. just because she is 2 hours away doesnt mean that you dating her bf is not gonn ruin her life. believe me when she finds out about you her life be completely turned upside down and you'll be responsible for that....you will always be the girl who ruined it for her always. Damn if you could have gone with me to return my wedding dress you would see exactly what this will do to her.
do you wanna be the person who does that to someone? ask yourself that question
Im not even gonna mention the fact that clearly that guy is an a**hole
2007-11-01 09:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by ... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. This will only lead to trouble. Do you want to have a 'secret' relationship with a guy? Relationships shouldn't have to be kept a secret. Plus, he would still be dating his girlfriend... do you really want to be in that kind of 'relationship'? If he's willing to cheat on her, there is no guarantee he wouldn't cheat on you too. Good luck.
2007-11-01 09:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by JenAg06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know this is wrong and you should say good bye . this is bad mojo and it could come back to haunt you in the long run cause what if the girlfriend comes back into town and finds out and she starts stalking you then you have major problems . Tell him no way and move on . good luck .
2007-11-01 09:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋