I am dating this girl for about two months now and we go out, dinners, clubs and enjoy our company. How long should I wait before having sex with her? how should I approach that subject? should I directly ask?
2007-11-01 08:48:28 · 56 answers · asked by sdfsdf s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait until you BOTH are ready.
You shouldn't talk about it. How old are you anyway??
2007-11-01 08:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
On your wedding night is ideal.
BUT....remember something before you thumbs down this post....Sex is still a committment. What if she gets pregnant or either one of you get a sexually transmitted disease? Are you just going to suggest an abortion? Or worse yet...rush into a quickie marriage because you didn't take sex seriously? (I know a couple that dated for 4 months, she got knocked up, they got married...and now they are divorced..total time together = 1 1/2 yrs)
Don't have sex until you're ready to deal with the consequences. Especially if either one of you are virgins. It's an emotionally important event in a person's life and it shouldn't be so casually considered.
2007-11-01 09:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Sunshine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone has to start a conversation about it but if you're getting signals that she isn't ready in two months, you may have to bring it up. Start out with your story of your relationship with her and about your feelings for her.
Then tell her how much you'd like to take this to the next level. Then you can ask her,"So, what about you? Wanta try that? Would that be alright with you?" and then kiss her on the cheek.
And then what ever comes up becomes the outcome and the opportunity for positive change. Without this level of honesty, your relationship is just about playing and not being real. You have to know what's going on beneath the surface at any rate.
2007-11-01 08:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no right way to answer this but I will say that two months isn't a long time to wait. If you feel strongly about her you should wait a little longer. You don't want to scare her off thinking that's all you want from her, unless that is all you want. There's no time frame of when it's right to have sex, it's all about the two people involved and how they feel about each other and when you BOTH decide it's right. Just chill, two months isn't long.
2007-11-01 08:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by dakota s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, all these answers about waiting for marriage are sweet and conform to religious ideaology but ultimately not practical.
The odds of two people meeting, both being virgins and only giving of themselves to each other until they die are infinitely small. Maybe in our grandfathers time (or great grandfather depending on the readers age) but not now. All that will come of it is an eventualy affair due to wondering what it is like to be with someone else on one or both people's part.
As for you the idea of approaching it. I guess it depends on the level of intimacy that you two are currently expressing. I dont suggest going from 1st base to 4th base in the same setting but you can progress and take it from there. If you start kissing and the passion arises in both of you, move to touching. If she appears to be comfortable or urging of more, take it further.
But Im going to reinnerate...do not go from 1st base to home in the same setting.
A huge attraction for human beings is the feeling of wanting more than what they are left with. Taking a woman to the point where she wants more but denying it for future activity is a huge turn on. It leaves them fantasizing and thinking of you more and more. Anticipation is 9/10 of the game my friend. Make them feel like they are working to get YOU not the other way around.
2007-11-01 09:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by catfish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to hate this answer and may even disregard it but I say wait till marriage. Just looking at things socially and relationally.... sex is a huge commitment. I don't know how old you are (I'm young myself) but when you hit a certain age you begin to realize that you need to love before becoming that intimate with someone. And most times to prove things you need to make a commitment, in this case marriage, so proving your love would be not only making the commitment of marriage but also abstaining from sex. Sex changes things, it changes relationships and makes things get a lot more deeper than you could expect at only 2 months of seeing her. Wait a year, if you love her... and can see yourself spending the rest of your life with her, marry her first and then you can get intimate physically.
2007-11-01 08:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by lupajunhee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
.Do not ask direct. but bring your idea,sex, in conversation and measure her mood. If interested, she will take interest in the subject. If not ,she will just ignore the subject. Never ask straight forward, most of the women think this an insult. because they surely enjoy the final act still they want it with the one who loves her not infatuates her. Women is not an instrument for sexual apetite. She should be loved and brought to bed even without herknowing that .
2007-11-01 08:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by vasudevanrknair 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, part of being in a relationship is being about to talk about that stuff, as in what your feelings are. Make a game out of it and talk about differnt things that you have feelings about like religion, children ect.
As far as when you do it, I think it shold be natural. If you plan the first time you will do it, sex will become a chore. Let it come natural, and it will be perfect for her and amazing for you.
2007-11-01 08:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how physical you two have already been. If your still at the kissing stage ...then no...don't ask about having sex. If you guys are well beyond the kissing stage and that would be the next thing to do...approach her with it ...not words though...
2007-11-01 08:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you've kind of left it off a while now. For me after that long a time I'd be wondering if I even wanted to. Don't ask her. Just come on to her. Send her obvious signals with your body language when you're in the same place or talking to her. And try to kiss her. If you haven't kissed her already actually after two months then sorry to be the one who has to break it to you but you haven't been dating.
2007-11-01 08:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by garion b 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't ask her directly, no way! During one of the romantic evenings, give a passionate kiss and eventually go from there.
Every time go further until eventually you both will be ready. Don't expect to have sex the first time you fool around. Be patient. The more you wait, the better it will be because of the built-up anticipation. And you don't want to freak her out anyway. At first a girl might be afraid that all you want from her is sex, so take it slow and let her decide when she is ready.
2007-11-01 08:50:42 · answer #11 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋