we have been together for 5 months, and agreed to be exclusive. I found out he was setting up a meeting with another girl on the internet so I broke up with him immediately. He said he truely loves me and did want a life with me and he didnt plan to cheat on me, he was concerned our relationship may not last long(several reasons). He wouldnt purse another relationship nor had sex while we were together. He said still what he did was wrong and he was sorry for hurting me. He didnt ask me to take him back but took down his profile and said he was going to be single for a while and do some serious self-evaluation.
today I found out Im pregnant, I havent told him yet.
do you think what he said is sincere? should I keep this child? Im 26, he is 35
2007-11-01 08:42:18 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i would love to adopt your child!
do not give the pig another chance...c'mon people!
2007-11-01 08:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by love2dance 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, YOU SHOULD KEEP THE CHILD, no matter what he decides he wants or doesn't want!!!! A baby shouldn't have it's life taken before even being given the chance to live. That's spoke from my heart. I have had a miscarriage before, so know what it's like to lose a child with someone I love. I am not with him anymore, and am now married and have 2 beautiful babies by my husband. We were not married when I got pregnant. We were living together & having hella problems and I thought we weren't gonna make it. I moved back in by myself. That was almost 3 years ago. We are still together & have had another baby since. We have our ups and downs. Sometimes I dont know what I would do if we split because I am a stay at home house wife....But I know I am a strong person & will make it without him (as much as I love him). And if I were to get pregnant again, even if I found out after we split, I would be sooo happy, even with all the pain from him not being with me anymore. The baby deserves a chance. I have 2 babies, 10 months apart. For some people, if they got pregnant, that would be enough of a reason to have an abortion. For me, it's nowhere near close enough. If you really feel like you can't handle a baby (or another baby, if you have any), then consider adoption. There are so many people out there that CAN'T GET PREGNANT and it would be a miracle to them! Or consider allowing your family to have custody. Even if the baby isn't born, it's still murder, whether it's 8 days or 8 months in your stomach.
Now, as for me telling you if he is sincere or not...I dont know him. He took his profile down, so thats a start. (or did he just change it?) You should definately tell him and talk to him about what you guys plan to do. Tell him how you feel. And just play by ear. He may be sincere. Ask him again how he feels. Obviously you can't tell when he's lieing. Psychologists say when someones lieing, they fidget or move around, avoid eye contact, etc. It's the truth. I am damn near dead on when it comes to telling if someones lieing or not. Just listen & watch when he's talking. Follow your instinct. Wish I could have helped you more...congratulations & goodluck! ;)
2007-11-01 08:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal opinion... yes you should keep the child. It doesnt matter that the relationships over, thats not the childs fault. As far as him being sincere... thats all in your judgement really. I would have broken up with any guy if he was persuing or planning on meeting up with another woman. If you're together, you should be enough for him... he shouldnt need anyone else. You need to tell him and sit and discuss what you both want to do. You can try giving him another chance or you can go it on your own. At this point though you probably want to decide whats best for you and whats best for the child.
2007-11-01 08:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. N™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I do not know your ex I cant tell you if he is being sincere.
It is your choice whether to keep the child or not but I would advise you to tell your ex that you are pregnant - he may be delighted by this news on the other hand he may tell you where to go. This may help your decision in whether of not to keep the baby.
I am going to guess that this is your 1st pregnancy however, am going to tell you this to make you think:-
Years ago a friend of mine got pregnant by a one night stand (it happens) she had a termination and got pregnant years later and lost the baby - complications mean thats the end of the road for her having a family. Harsh tale but true!
If you do go ahead with or without your ex only you can choose and I for one wish you all the very best in the world
2007-11-01 08:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Moxymoomoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That is a very complicated question. As for keeping the child, no one can make that decision but you. You have to assume that you will be doing it on your own and cannot expect this guy to take responsibility.
Whether to take him back. At 35 he should be better at having a relationship then he has demonstrated. I think you are probably better off without him.
These are two separate issues. Do not take him back because you are pregnant. That will lead to a very long and miserable life for all three of you.
2007-11-01 08:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to tell him first of all and decide what to do together. you are not too young to have a child and he is not too old. The best answer would be to talk it out with him. Give it time, maybe take a break for a few weeks then get back together and see if any sparks fly. If worst-comes-to-worst, and the two of you do not stay together you will have a gorgeous child from him and a bi-weekly check from him for child support when you prove it's his child.
2007-11-01 08:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by Demeter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my story: He was 30 and I was 18 ........... Honey let me tell you that you have to become stronger than I was and care for your unborn child , first. You will need to get your emotions under control for the baby's sake. Now, would you ever trust him again? The stress of not ever knowing whether he was doing someone else would make you the most miserable mother in the world. I KNOW! So, I thought, I'll marry him and show him real love/devotion and how wonderful it is to be with one woman and have a family ---- WRONG. Move on with your life and the life of your baby. lYou are the only one who can make these decisions not any yahooer. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-11-01 09:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by missellie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
on the tip of the day, you could desire and everybody can do is grant their opinion and journey in this occasion. in my view, i does no longer abort as i do no longer see Down's syndrome as a severe adequate incapacity to justify it. In yet another 2 weeks, your toddler is practicable and stands a sturdy danger of survival exterior of the womb. various toddlers have survived in neonatal in intensity care gadgets from 22 weeks gestation onwards. at the same time as there are some wellness problems at times linked with the syndrome, assorted Downs little ones stay incredibly happy lives. i've got favourite various in my existence and that i will rather say that they have been a lot happier than assorted the unaffected little ones i understand. they're additionally very loving. My mum knows a Downs woman in her previous due 1920s who's genuinely an actress and has her very own residence. i could advise you discuss with a counsellor in the previous doing something drastic as they're impartial and can grant some rather sturdy advice. to boot to this, you're able to go and spot your wellness care expert and discover out what looking after a baby with Downs genuinely consists of. on the tip of the day, this continues to be your toddler. Abortion isn't something to be taken gently and can reason you everlasting psychological injury. in case you make certain to proceed inclusive of your being pregnant, in spite of the fact that if it fairly is confusing or no longer, you will adjust to having a baby who desires a splash better care. i'm hoping you have the capacity to attain a decision which you're happy with and need you all the suitable for the destiny.
2016-10-03 02:57:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am still a teenager, so I dont know how valuable Id be as an asset to you. But first definately keep the child. If you are not going to be able to raise it, (and I dont mean to sound harsh) it can be adopted. I do not agree with children not being with their parents, but if you must then you must. Secondly, if the thought of having an affair crossed this guy's mind once, it could happen again. I am not trying to sway your opinion, but merely show you my thoughts.
2007-11-01 08:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by JMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is totally up to you if you want to keep the child or not. But I think maybe you should give him some time and if he doesn't ask for you back or anything then maybe it is really over as for telling him that you are pregnant i believe that would be the best thing for you to do and see what his response is.Good Luck and hopefully everything turns out.
2007-11-01 08:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by moringurl20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just set a meeting with another girl... It doesn't mean that he'll do anything with that women... Most man are flirty... If you really love this guy.. Tell him about the child and get married... That case you'll tie him to you forever... And i bet after married, he won't do anything of that sort behind your back again.. At least not for a long time..
2007-11-01 08:47:55 · answer #11 · answered by Sephiroth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋