If so what happened and how did you get over them? It has been almost 4 months and I still think of her a lot. I want to move on but I feel like we are meant to be and that we might get back together one day. She has called me some throughout the break up and she said she hasnt ruled out us getting back together, but she doesnt want to be with me right now. What should I do?
2007-11-01 08:32:18 · 20 answers · asked by zarro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What should you do? Move on.
Here are some things to consider:
1. There is no "meant to be". Nothing is written ahead of time...things work out, or they don't work out. Meant to be is a sweet little concept, but it's just something people say when things are working out as they desire.
2. She may be the 'love of your life' so far, but that doesn't mean there aren't several others out there that you could love as much or more, if you were just open to meeting them. Don't assume just because you were super crazy, head-over-heels about one person that you'll never feel that strongly about anyone else.
3. Her saying you "might" get back together some day is just a way of keeping your hopes up, but it means nothing. If she wants to try again down the road and you happen to be available then, then check things out if you want to. Don't wait around for her to decide to try again though.
This life is too short to waste it waiting for someone who doesn't know what they want, or who wants to string you along while they check out other options.
Good luck to you! ☺☻
2007-11-01 08:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I ever got after my EX of 13 years said she wanted to be with the neighbor and not me anymore was:
LET IT GO
There are things you can change in this world and things that you cannot. If you pine over what you can do nothing about, you're just wasting time and energy.
You may still be on her list of guys that she wants but you're not on the "A" list anymore. My advice is to move on. Even if you do get back together, it won't be the same. Maybe at some time you'll see each other and you'll both be without a mate and you can start over but you can't go back.
There's no reverse in the car of life.
GOOD luck
2007-11-01 08:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by Dan Bueno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost who I thought was the love of my life. He was my best friend for 6 years before we started dating. We were talking about marriage, moving in together, etc.. He cheated on me with his ex and got her pregnant. It's been 2 1/2 years I just started talking to him as a friend again recently. He is happy and to tell the truth so am I. I am engaged to a wonderful guy who truly is the LOVE OF MY LIFE. If my ex wouldn't have done what he did I never would have ended up with my fiance. It took a long time to get over but in the end it was the best thing to happen.
P.S. his fiance (the woman he cheated on me with) and him are planning to attend my wedding in 2009. We have become good friends as well. All has been forgiven and forgotten.
Good luck with your adventures.
2007-11-01 08:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Meggie Smalls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated this guy for 5 years and we broke up so that he can live out his single life before we talk about marriage.
So I say, its okay if you aren't as strong as you want to be, and since she hasn't rule out a chance for you two to work things out again; you should be patient with her needs. But let her know you still love her and care for her. For the mean time keep yourself busy, and catch up with her or call her to see how she is doing (once or twice a week). In time she and you well either grow stronger or apart, and that's how you know if it is meant to be. But if you really want to get over her, the healing process begins when you let it.
2007-11-01 08:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I've had that happen, i thought he was the one but he thought otherwise, it's been 4 months for you so i believe that you can keep having hope, but i think once you pass the 6 month mark hit... you should begin to think about other people... I was with my guy for 5 years and it takes a long time to get over people, i still think about him and it's been 1yr and some months but i hang with friends and draw and listen to music go to movies and do exactly all the fun things i used to do with him by myself or with friends... i just live and i know that I'm going to be someones soul mate... the phone calls don't help... they keep things vulnerable and open... i mean it' s like pouring salt in an open wound
2007-11-01 08:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has to be the most difficult thing in the world to endure.
I lost my Love in August. I tried to win her back, but she said no several times.
I was losing my mind. If I would have thought that she would take me back, I would not have moved on. I would have done anything to keep her. But, in my case, I HAD to move on. I dated 7 women and found one to date exclusively. Actually, I think this one is at least as good, probably better than the one who dumped me in August.
My heart still misses Kim at times, but I have moved on. It makes it easier for me to take it slow now.
Life DOES go on.
2007-11-01 08:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by Alvin York 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The smartest thing you can do is get a new life. Either:
a) you like your new life so much she won't matter, or
b) she realizes what she lost as you rebound and the catbird seat is yours. Why be the one who loses the decisions all the time?
So go get some hobbies and date again. Forget her for awhile.
2007-11-01 08:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time.....if you're meant to be together, you will be....if not, then someone else will come along, and you'll know you're ready to move on. Cherish your memories of the former gf, but don't dwell on them or try to relive them with the new love....that will only lead to disaster! Good Luck to you! :)
2007-11-01 08:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Melly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love of your life is subjective. Yes it hurts but such is life.
Step away and concentrate on your life. If it is meant to be later it might. But odds are as you go along you will change and see things for what they are. It took me until my early 40s, to be who I am and know who I am to find my true love of my life.
2007-11-01 08:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on for the time being. focus on urself. change what you think caused the break-up. be successful and don't be sad. don't let her know she still has you wrapped around her finger. act like you don't care anymore and that you are confident with yourself and your life. hang out with girls and tell her if she asks. make urself seem desired by women.
2007-11-01 08:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by Wind 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋