Do people ever ask you this at the gym?

Question

after you get out?"are you going to work"?I get that alot because i go there at odd hours 9-11.I get pissed off because people know i'm a musician,but i have to tell them i'm a freelance web designer as well.Why do i always feel the need to validate myself?My brother says that not to worry about it and that they were just making conversation.He said i should leave everything that happens at the gym behind anfd not even think about it.People have been so on again and off again with me,that i don't know how to respond.Could it be that i'm making a bigass deal out of nothing?

Answer 1

Yet another of your boring, repetitive questions which you constantly post under one of anything up to a dozen different names. Give us all a change and ask something different for once that is neither about you being such a wonderful gymnast, a fantastic guitarist, the girls in the gym, Persian women, Iraqi/Iranians in general.... the list goes on and on, just like your questions ^=^

Answer 2

Erm, it all depends on how they're approaching you, chances are if it's light hearted casual manner, then they're probably just making conversation, and if it's in a nosy, confrontational manner, then no matter what they said wouldn't be appropriate, perhaps if these are people who you see regularly at the gym at such an odd hour, they're curious about what your deal is...and do consider they too are at the gym as well, so being there really would be a silly thing for them to hold against you.
Chances are also, you're reacting out of guilt/shame...for some reason you feel unacceptable, and since you feel that you're being judged, you feel the need for validation and essentially end up judging yourself.

I don't know you, it's just a suggestion.
and, I must admit if a complete stranger came up to me with such an inquiry, id' probably be thrown, but so long as it didn't seem aggressive, I wouldn't be bothered by it for too long.

Learn to read facial expressions and body language they're good signals, and try not worry about their motivations, nor assume these people think badly of you.
Even if they know you're a musician, asking if you're headed to work, is still a perfectly reasonable small talk starter.

Answer 3

Yea, you are making a bigass deal out of nothing.
I would ask the same question if I saw you at the gym at that time.
But then again, I probably wouldn't be there at those hours.
They're just trying to make conversation with you.
Even if you told someone "I have no job,"
they probably wouldn't look down upon you anyways.

Answer 4

Why do you "have to tell them that you're also a web designer"??? Why do they even know you're a musician? Why do you have to tell them anything at all?? I think you ARE overreacting and being a bit paranoid, but to each their own.... if you reall dislike talking to other people and "having to answer their uncomfortable questions" then just refuse to talk to them as one of the girls above me stated and VOILA!!! Problem solved.......... people in big cities complain that their fellow citizens couldn't care less about the people around them, no matter whether they're co workers, neighbors, gym mates, etc...... and these people seem to care at leasts enough to engage in harmless conversation and you complain..... geez. LOL.

Answer 5

Yeah,i think you are making a big deal out of people just making small talk with you.You don't have to tell anyone anything about yourself so why you feel the need to i don't know.Just say yes or no without elaborating if it bothers you so much.The gym supposed to make you feel chilled and relaxed isn't it?

Answer 6

I work different shifts and I go to gym at weird time sometimes and people ask me questions like that as well. I was't in a good mood one day and a guy asked me that question and my response was 'Sorry, I get stroppy (bad tempered) if I get disturbed during my exercise' and he stopped. But to be fair, even you work normal hours, they will still ask you 'are you going home to relax' 'are you going out this weekend' in which you still validate yourself one way or the other... oh I'm going to start ranting, but seems like in today's society, we have certain boxes to tick at every stage of our lives and we seem odd if we don't fulfill them.

Answer 7

Yeah I do think you are worrying overly. I think so too that they are trying to just make conversation. You don't have to get defensive and explanatory at all. Keep to short answers..if you don't want to encourage further questions. Even if some people do have a wrong intention, who cares? You know who you are. You are proud of and happy with what you do. Don't worry about them. That's their issue.

Answer 8

Why does it matter that they're asking you those questions.. are you hidding something? If not then who cares. Wow your a musician - thats great dont be afraid to tell people .. Maybe they dont know where you are a musician , maybe they think you go out ... Just dont get offended when they ask you if your going to work.

Answer 9

gyms cost money right? so how likely is it that you would be at the gym if you couldnt pay for it say, on benefit? so i'd say people are just striking idle chit chat. and asking about a job is an easy ice breaker. relax and chill. there is no consipiracy out there to get you hun. just enjoy your workout and if anyone else asks if your going to work, just tell em no! if they dont like it its their problem not yours.

Answer 10

Well, I admire you and anyone else who doesn't have to go towork from 9-5 and can still make a living. I think you may be overreacting just a tad. They probably are just making small talk or they want to get to know you better or they could just be being nosy. Don't let it bother you.