WHat should i do?

Question

I'm 20 years old...i've never gone out never....what i mean is no clubs no parties no social events i can't even to the market by myself.. my dad doesn't let me do anything i can't hang outside with my friends cuz he is spying me from the window. All throughout high school the only events i went to was the Prom and Grad Night cuz he left on a trip. He don't let me work.. only study and i feel stupid cuz i do go to a university but i'm messing up cuz since he is not around to be telling me what to do i skip class and go out with friends i haven't risked much because i still have good grades i do have a bf but he doesnt let me go out with him alone my cousin always has to go with us im tired of it i feel trapped i feel that im not enjoying life i heard that the best times of our lives are when we are young but i never did anything :( well my bf has asked me to marry him and i we have been together for 6 years and counting but i don't want to get out of my dads prison to end up in his

ive worked before but he told me that if kept on working he would not let me stay in the house so idk what to do

Answer 1

He sounds overly protective he probably wants whats best for you. And he figures this is the best way.

Answer 2

Don't do something you'll regret just to rebel against your dad. He sounds a bit overprotective, but he's been there all your life, right? Sounds like you're on the proper route in dating by having a chaperone. I know it may seem old-fashioned and restrictive at times, but trust me, in the long-run you will be thankful that you and your boyfriend are getting to know each other slowly. Don't rush into marriage with anyone, especially having the 'cooped' up feelings you've been experiencing. I would recommend reading "Choosing God's Best" by Don Raunikar. It will save you from making some dire mistakes.

Answer 3

Move out, even if you will have to be broke, tons of women do this and make it at 18. As long as you don't screw and get prego, you will do fine. If you ever got prego out of marriage you would need your family again.

Your dad isn't being a healthy father. A real father teaches you how to survive in the real world, not keep you in prison. I can understand him being concerned about all the crap in the world, but he should have been teaching you skills on how you avoid it yourself, no parent should treat their kid like they are a remote controlled toy.