i just got engaged and i was just wondering how soon should you set a date?
2007-11-01 08:18:48 · 35 answers · asked by hot*stuff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There's no time that's too soon. You can set it right away if you want. Congratulations, by the way!
2007-11-01 08:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on how long you plan on being engaged. If your wedding will be fairly soon, like within 6-8 months from now, you may want to set a date as soon as you can, to make planning easier. However, if your wedding is around a year or so away, for now you could just set a general time, like pick a month & then later you can set your actual date.
2007-11-01 09:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by sunflower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Set the date now. I always thought being engaged meant that the couple had decided to marry and picked a wedding date.
Why bother getting engaged at all if you are not ready to start planning the wedding straight away.
I dont see the point in getting engaged and waiting 5 years before setting the date. I would suspect committment problems with one party or the other.
Long engagements are often the ones that end in divorce not long after the wedding.
2007-11-01 11:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well, we set our wedding date for a year after we were engaged. I planned our wedding so I needed all the extra time!
Even if you don't set a date right away you can still start planning :) There are so many details that need attention it is nice to be able to stretch all the work out over an extended period of time.
Its a good idea to send out save-the-date cards about 4 months in advance(or longer if your wedding falls on a holiday!) And we sent out wedding invitations 1 1/2 months before the wedding.
Also, there will be people wanting to throw you and your fiance wedding showers :) So they need plenty of time to plan those as well!
Congratulations!!!
2007-11-01 08:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by bethany b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We set ours for 3 months after we got engaged and no its not because I was pregnant because I'm not but because it was very important for me to have my brother at the wedding (hes in the army) He had scheduled time off in December so we picked the weekend he would be visiting. He gets shipped out to Iraq in February and wont be back for 15 months at the least. But we set the date a week after we got engaged. Congratulations and best of luck and wishes.
2007-11-01 08:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by nicki 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's no set rule, but people will ask you that right off announcing the engagement. The date is usually about year after the engagement, but then, it could be shorter or longer, too.
2007-11-01 08:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by mithril 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We actually had our wedding date set before we were 'officially' engaged. Of course we were older, and I think that the man who is now my husband had the date set as soon as we started 'going together' but because of the lifestyle we had then, I really didn't know that we were going together until the afternoon of the next day, when he knew in the early morning of the day before.
To be practical, our wedding was easier than most, because we had no money to spend and invited only 40 people to the wedding, but 150 to the reception. The TOTAL COST of all of this, inclucing the minister and his wife (it was in the evening on Valentine's Day on a state ferry, so we felt we had to invite her, and she loved coming, since she never got to attend any weddings her husband had performed) was $75. We spent $50 on the food for the reception (our caterer was my husband's friend, and did that for free ... and he could create WONDERS for little money), and $25 was spent to buy ferry tickets for friends who couldn't otherwise afford them, plus our 'attendants.' Yes, it was extremely inexpensive, but it was a BEAUTIFUL WEDDING and the happiest day of my life ... and it now costs my husband money every Valentine's Day, because we ALWAYS do 'something involving the water' ... and last year we went on a five day vacation for our anniversary ... but for you, I'd say that the time to 'set the date' is when both you and your fiance are ready to 'settle down.'
2007-11-01 08:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Kris L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no rule for a specific time line. It depends on the two of you and the circumstances in your lives. It also depends on where you live. Some cultures (like in the US) tend to get engaged and plan their weddings one to two years in advance, while in other countries, a wedding can be planned in a short a time as a few months.
But most importantly, the timeline for your particular wedding should be decided only by the two of you! Good Luck!
2007-11-01 08:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by Guera 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it depends. my sister waited 2 years to set a date. i know someone who set a date a week after they got engaged for the next week after that.
2007-11-01 08:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by Tamara B 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I got engaged this june and am starting to plan for June of next year. I think 1 year is typical. But there is no rule that says it must be a certian length of time. Its whenever its right for you and your fiance.
Congrats on your engagment!!
2007-11-01 11:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Within a month or two, certainly. You get engaged when you know you are going to get married. Warning signs go off when you see a couple who are engaged for years and years...why not just date if you can't commit to a date?
2007-11-01 08:22:15 · answer #11 · answered by JenWales 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋