I've been in a 5year relationship ..which we recently broke up about 5months ago. we still stay intouch..due to the fact that we still love each other. Due to destiny, he got arrested about a month ago..for doing what he wasn't suppose to..so for the love that i still feel..i'm there for him..emotionally, mentally and financially. But the worst to this is..i just found out..a girl that i don't know is expecting his CHILD! she called me stating she's two months pregnant..and that he's the FATHER! besides being devasted and hurt..I really wanna kill him! he admitted to the possiblitiy of being the father..but he's not sure. i'm so hurt..should i abandon him now? he has another year in there. what should i do?.
2007-11-01 08:05:20 · 7 answers · asked by LaCaballota 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You weren't together two months ago, so he didn't cheat on you. That's the one good thing you have going for you.
On the other hand, he wasn't smart enough to use protection (or use it properly). He now has to own up to the fact that he may have (may have? she's that awful that she's with two guys at once?) a child with this woman.
Be there for him as a friend - don't support him financially. You owe nothing to him, even if you love him. If you think you can be with him, knowing what you know, then good luck. I hope it works out for you. But if you're holding on to him coming out of jail and being with you again, when he has new responsibilities, I'd work hard to put those feelings aside.
2007-11-01 08:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I know that it may be hard, but if be indeed does have a baby on the way, you need run, not walk away from that situation because it only gets worse as time progresses. Let him handle his business, do his bid and raise his child. You have so many other things that you could be doing instead of waiting around for a man who wasn't even honest enough to tell you that he had baby on the way. He doesn't care about you or her right now because he's locked up. He only cares about who is gonna accept his phone calls and put money on his books. I know it may be hard, but you can do it. I did!!! Lot of luck!!
2007-11-01 15:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by arrizona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... this is a tough question. I think that you should follow your heart. At least he admitted that he did sleep with the girl. I understand that this must be hard for you but if you really love him and know that you can both get through this then give it a chance. You never know after she has the child you two can make sure if it is his and you go from there. At least you will be able to say that at least you tried and gave it a chance.
2007-11-01 15:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by bnm0044 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made his choices...(sleeping with another girl...doing something to land himself in jail)...and now he has to suffer the consequences of those choices and actions. If you keep him in your life, you will also suffer the consequences of that choice.
I'd feel as if he had disrespected me and basically abandoned me by making those choices, so I'd get rid of him.. You will have a year without him around to move on, get over him, and find someone that does respect you and make you happy. Why should you have to pay for his mistakes.
Good Luck...you are worth so much more than he has given you!!!
2007-11-01 15:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a gf already or will when he gets out and a child on the way with her. His responsibility and loyalties are to his child. If the child isn't his that isn't up to you to figure out. He is using you and sucking you dry and playing on your emotions and feelings for him. Tell him he should have thought about needing you when he was in bed with her.
2007-11-01 15:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your loses and go on with your life. His actions, both legally and personally, will have a MAJOR impact on his life FOREVER!!! Move on with YOUR life without him.
2007-11-01 15:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run. Run away as fast as you can.
2007-11-01 15:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by Steve is cool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋