i'm heading to phoenix and my boy friend lives in alabama.. we're both in school getting our bachelors degree.. we've trying to make the best of the long distance but, it's driving me crazy.... i seriously want to be with him .
but the program i'm going to school for...i think in the south doesn't has better a program .then the art insistute of phoenix? help me out!!!
2007-11-01 07:57:38 · 11 answers · asked by tyra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They do work...i promise. I think what helped my and my fiance get through our long distance relationship was treating it like a marriage. The committment level has to be at an extreeme high - how else are you going to trust each other??
The good news is that with today's technology it makes it a lot easier to stay connected. Be sure to get web cams and have a set "date night" each week. Carve out the time for each other and stick to it. When you can afford it, spend a weekend together. It's certainly not easy, but you'll discover a lot about each other in the process.
Deep breaths...if it's meant to be, it'll all work out. Good luck!
2007-11-01 08:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by lilfrisco 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i've been in a long distance relationship for 4 years now. He lives in Germany and i live in California, we started dating at 16 and now are turning 21. We are both in school i'll be done with school in about 2 years him in about 3. A LDR takes a lot of work, communication, trust and honesty. You will never stop missing eachother so dont expect to get used to it. My advice is to try not to make the conversations repetative, you don't have to just talk about how you miss eachother and love eachother you can talk about anything and everything. If you two dont' have one get webcams so you can see eachother online. Letters are always great cause they are personal and its nice to get a surprise in the mail. If you are enjoying the program you are in then stick it out and finish school there just remember that your going to school for your future and thats really important. Good luck and let me know if you have any more questions :)
2007-11-01 14:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by Isabella20 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-23 05:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by favreau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't. It depends on the level of maturity, integrity and commitment of the people involved and the expectations that you have of the relationship.
Set a plan and see if you both want the same. I say if you guys do not have any plans to get married in the future, then do not bother continuing on a LDR. You can get affection anywhere else and there is no need to endure such hardship otherwise.
Good luck
2007-11-01 08:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My now husband and I did the long distance thing prior to our wedding. It was challenging, and very lonely at times, but it is doable. We made a date night once a week (at least), we would put on our web cams and have dinner together. We shared many phone calls and pictures helped us share our world. We made it work.. because it was important to us. If you make sure you have those special things in place , it can last. If you want to switch schools be sure you are doing it for you, not because you are afraid of losing him. If it is for you, you will not be resentful no matter what happens. Be you, and trust your decision. Peace, Ame
2007-11-01 08:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ame 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi! being away from someone you love is extremely difficult. you just have to remember that it is not a permanent situation. it makes the times you are together so much more special. when i left for college, i missed my boyfriend SO much. we were apart for a year, and then he moved to where i was going to school. 3 years later we're getting married. :) i went to a women's college where over 90% of students were out of state. we all missed our boyfriends; some relationships didn't work and some of us are now getting married to those guys we cried every night missing. if you and your boyfriend share a mature love, i think you have a very good chance of making it work!
2007-11-01 08:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They DO work, it takes trust and work but they Do work.
My fiance and I lived 2 1/2 hours drive apart for almost a year before I moved down to be with him.
2007-11-01 19:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES SOMETIMES A LONG AS YOU KEEP IN CONTACT IT WILL MOST LIKELY WORK AND IF YOU VISIT A FEW TIMES A MONTH OR YEAR
2007-11-01 08:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes they can work if you both continue to work at it.
2007-11-01 09:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jai 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine didn't. Finish school first and move closer.
2007-11-01 08:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋