Would you bring a gift too? Or do you think standing up and spending all of your money on this wedding is enough? Or I was thinking of just giving what my plate costs. What would you do?
2007-11-01 07:04:18 · 16 answers · asked by Ultimate Guitar Hero! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I was recently the matron of honor in my best friends wedding and I would have to say yes, still give a gift. A wedding gift is a token of your blessing to couple. If you are in a wedding party that means that you as a person mean a great deal to the bride or groom. Even the simplest of gifts is a good thing!
2007-11-01 07:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by lexichic66 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should give a gift anyway. Accepting the honor of being in the wedding party does not absolve you of having to get a gift. You wouldn't know what your plate costs unless you were rude enough to ask, and you didn't take into account entertainment, flowers, and everything else that goes into a wedding. Just get a gift that you feel is appropriate for how close you are to the couple.
2007-11-01 14:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Katie G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should still give a gift to the bride and groom. Not to sound rude or anything. But your standing up for them at the wedding is an honor not a gift to them. And just giving them money to cover the cost of you plate would be wrong thats not a gift either. If they wanted that they would have asked. Buy them something . You don;t have to speen alot ... Buy them something you know they need for their home or buy some candles and candle holders for them ...
2007-11-01 14:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by dollbaby2407 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have always given a gift. Its just that, from the heart not a payback for the cost of the plate. I understand that being in a wedding is very expensive, however that kind of thinking is tacky and thoughtless. Give a gift that doesn't break the bank, but shows that you have thought about who they are and what they would like/need.
2007-11-01 14:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by Dusie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I plan on giving a gift, pending my funds are not already tight as I'm paying for my own wedding and then paying for the dress, other accessories, assisting with paying for the shower, etc...
If funds are tight, I plan on getting them a nice card and informing them a gift is on its way.
Its my brothers wedding, I'm a bridesmaid.
Those standing in MY wedding do NOT need to bring me a gift, as a wedding gift is never required, whether they are a guest who can or cannot come or a member of the wedding party.
If funds are tight, the bride and groom should understand that and be happy that you said "yes" to standing up beside them on their big day. They should also feel your present to them is your presence.
2007-11-02 02:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gift generously. That's expected from a member of the bridal party.
You can cover the cost of your plate and then some. I know that being a member of a wedding party is costly, but a gift is in order.
Good luck
2007-11-01 14:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course you have to bring a gift! Unfortunately it is expensive to be in a wedding but the gift is not something you can scrap. They will expect one. $100 is enough.
2007-11-01 16:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being in the bridal party is a honor, and the expense you incur is part of receiving that honor. It does not excuse you from giving a gift.
Yes, you should definitely give or send a gift, the same as you would if you were just a guest. If you can't afford the expense of being in the bridal party, that is a separate issue and one you should discuss with the bride/groom.
2007-11-01 14:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'd still give a gift...
usually the bridesmaids all chip in together and get a good gift for the couple.
2007-11-01 14:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was a maid of honor in a wedding and my boyfriend was the best man, they didn't have their knife set yet for cutting the cake so we went in together and got them those, with their names engraved in them, and told them that was our gift to them. I would give them something that would help with the wedding :)
2007-11-01 14:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by Tommy's_Sweet_Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋