So to make a long story short i work with this guy and we flirt all the time....
and we started texting eachother only he would text me from his friends phone saying he didn't like his phone...
so we talked and stuff and i knew he had a gf but he kept telling me that he wanted to be with me instead... i told him i didn't want to cause problems in his relationship and that we could just be friends but he ept telling me no it was over... so we kept texting and stuff and then he invited me over to hang out on Halloween so i went over to where he said he was and his gf was there... and i was totally polite and sweet no bitchy attitude or rudeness on my part.
and then i had to go home when she pulls me aside and tells me she was pretending to be him so that she could see how i felt about him.
and she played this sick little game for an entire week and called me a slut for trying to be with her bf....
when i thought they were soon to be over....
was i wrong for that?
2007-11-01 06:41:37 · 43 answers · asked by giraffegirl7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He didn't play me at all he had nothing to do with his gf's sick little game so don't blame him at all he's not a player... she is!
2007-11-01 07:10:35 · update #1
She was wrong for pretending to be him. Obviously she has some serious trust issues.
If I were you, I'd move on. If he hasn't broken up with his gf, then you should respect that they have an ongoing relationship.
2007-11-01 06:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Geni T 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hmm, it depends...WERE you trying to be a ***** and a "scarlet woman"? IF you were, then I'd say yes you were wrong, because her feelings should have been taken into account.
If you weren't, then no you aren't wrong at all. I've been in that situation before, where the guy couldn't make up his mind - and I said I'd support him no matter what (and I honestly meant it) whether he chose me or the other girl. Well, he ended up choosing me, and she hated me for it (even though I didn't intend to hurt her in any way, I told him to do what he felt was right). However...he soon broke up with me and got back with her. That sucked. But the point is, trying to be with him when "he" is telling you that's what he wants and the other relationship is over, if you were GENUINELY interested, is not a bad thing at all. You were just fine, and she was a b*tch.
Edit: Also, if a guy is texting you from a "friends" phone anyway, you should ALWAYS be suspicious because that's not normal...whether he "liked" his phone or not. I'm assuming you never actually spoke (since it was actually her). DON'T trust someone that you can't see, if that makes sense.
2007-11-01 06:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you weren't wrong for the most part. You should learn not to mess with guys that are in a relationship...guys have one track minds and will tell you anything they think you will want to hear. BUT at the same time his girlfriend is a little nuts too, but sounds like she cant trust her guy. And thats why she had suspicion in the first place. You were mislead into thinking one thing, but you shouldn't of persued it, you should of waited until it was over for sure. Also first red flag...if a guy doesnt text or call you from his own phone then that means he is trying not to get caught!!
2007-11-01 06:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by MTE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's in a relationship, it's not over.
As long as he's with her you should stay back. Be friends with no ulterior motives.
Think about how you would feel if some girl was texting/flirting with you boyfriend.
Also he sounds like a cheater. How do you know that he wouldn't do it to you once you two were together.
I would take the honest route. Apologize to her and distance yourself as much as you can with still having to work with him.
2007-11-01 06:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes absolutely wrong... first of all, i may sound critical, but its a fact so face it... if ur relationship started as flirting thing, its going to end in flirtation. Neither of you are serious about it, just trying to get physical cause neither he is satisfied with his gf, about u i guess u r also unsatisfied....nevertheless, if you and he wants just physical go ahead and enjoy each other, but dont keep any emotional ties, also be careful nobody ever comes to know about it, but my advice would be that dont get into any relationship where there is no future. U can have sex and all other exciting things, but not peace of mind. I am felling sorry for both of you. U both dont know what is important in life. Sex and all fun ain't everything when it comes to real life, its basically sharing and caring no matter what situation lies in ur life. Dont go for temparary satisfactions, thers a difference between happiness and peace of mind...!
2007-11-01 06:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by friendsseason9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The moral of the story: It doesn't matter what he says, or what you think he is saying, don't mess with a guy who is in a relationship.
Even though you told him that you didn't want to cause problems in his relationship and that the two of you could just be friends, you still went to hang out with him, not knowing his gf would be there.
Yes, you were wrong.
2007-11-01 06:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. This guy is a scummy if you ask me.
1st red flag:
Texting from his friend's phone. Yeah right, you don't like your phone, get a new one. To me, it shows that he has something to hide from both you and the current GF.
2nd red flag:
The girl is twisted. She had her own agenda I bet. I suspect that she suspected that he was talking to you, so she was playing with your head. Possibly cause problems if you ever got together with her guy.
Conclusion:
Run the other way, don't turn back. There's so much baggage and drama, don't get involved.
2007-11-01 06:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by ridewithgdotcom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best thing i can tell you is the guy pulled a good one you, he was maybe doing it with several girls then sort out
his best choice..
starting a romance with people you work with or at work, most times coming back at you and you have still be around them.
the girl may have been doing her friend a favor, but it wasn't nice how you were treated and if this was done to her she wouldn't like it eighter.
hey, there are lots of good guys out there, let them come to you and you can play hard to get and see if they really like you
good luck
2007-11-01 06:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by cliffie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess what the girl was hoping you to do is, in response to hearing about them breaking up, you would not try to become his gf, but still want to be just his friend.
But yeah I agree that that girl has major jealousy paranoid issues.
But on the other hand she was right about you liking him more than a friend, wasn't she?
You should try apologizing and explain what you've told us.
I hope it all ends well for you. :)
2007-11-01 06:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by Labrynth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because he was playing games with you and it makes his girlfriend just as sick for trying to play a game as well.I bet you he told her that you had a crush on him and she wanted to show off.What a B****.Sorry he even did something like that to you.Don't bother talking to him anymore or to get him back flirt with some of his friends or with another guy in front of him.
2007-11-01 06:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by alexandra n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, if i was in ur place, yeah, i would kinda feel guilty about supposedly "flirting"" with a guy who is taken. But then again, it wasnt ur fault, cuz u fell for a sick joke that almost anyone would. But still u knw, u shud have avoided the situation cuz then it would have ruined ur reputation.
2007-11-01 06:50:41 · answer #11 · answered by thousand_miles37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋