I've been with the same man since highschool. We've been engaged the whole time. I just turned 25 two weeks ago. We're very much in love still. I couldn't imagine my life without him in it. For the past couple months, the idea of a baby has been driving me crazy. I want one. But I am scared, I mean totally frickin petrified of it. I've been pregnent before, but we lost it- I remember how absolutly sick it made me-. I had to go to the hopsital cuz I was soo dehydrated- couldnt eat/drink anything- not even an ice cube! I am soo worried something may go wrong. And what if i'm not a good mom? I know I have some mental things going on but I'm soo scared of not being everything my child and husband would need. Is this just normal stuff or am i being crazy???
2007-11-01 06:38:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
ok , Steve C: I dont realy care for comments like yours. sorry but i know first hand exactly how horrible this world can be for kids-& it scares me to death. I do what I can to help this world. But I will not deny me my right of having my own child.
2007-11-01 06:57:29 · update #1
yes there comes a time in a womans life when she starts to feel the need or want for a baby! This does not mean baby all the time though. What I mean by this is that maybe you just want something to take care of! Or it could mean that you are just wanting a change in your life in order to be satisfied! this is normal. Everyone has doubts about being a good parent, but odds are, when and if baby comes along your parental instinct will kick in and take over!
2007-11-01 07:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by lexichic66 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Geez...we all have those thoughts...I think that the woman or man that thinks they are going to be "great" parents and NOt worry that they will do something wrong...well they are the ones I worry about!! LOL
As for the baby clock you talk about...I think that since you've been with the same guy for ever...and you're getting older it's completely normal to want to have a child. Just make sure you're married first. No offense and I'm not saying that single people can't raise children....but it's easier to have "parents" raising a child. Plus most people find it harder to leave a relationship once a ring is on the finger. (the other way...they simply just have to walk out the door)
But yeah....if you're seriously scared...you can find all kinds of great books about raising children etc that you can read between now and when you actually have one.
Good luck.
2007-11-01 07:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Sunshine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally! I was in the same boat as you...my clock was ticking HARD since Feb or so!
I have been with my husband since middle school, married when we were 19. We are 27 now. Our entire family has been waiting for us to be pregnant for YEARS. We finally did it this year and we are due in April.
Your fears are totally normal...I am 16 weeks and still terrified about the baby and if I'll be a good Mom and everything. But I am also SO happy!
2007-11-01 06:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by Tawn 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand .....I'm about to turn 27 and I don't have any kids...But my fiancee and I want kids but not after 30...he says he doesn't have to be too old for his kids....lol anyways...my clock is ticking and the worse thing is that I work in a pediatrics clinic and I see new babies everyday and I get to hold them and talk to them and that makes it worse for me!! I also think the same ..if I am going to be a good mother? but u know if u love them and protect them u both will be just fine!!!! good luck!!
2007-11-03 06:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by caldermg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, my clock is ticking too. It is even worse now that I had a m/c earlier this month. Go for it sister!
2007-11-01 07:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Also, worry about what kind of a world you are bringing this kid into, it is already massively overpopulated and overheated. The way the population of the earth is exploding out of control, I see bad times ahead for the human race.
2007-11-01 06:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 7⤋