I love this little girl. She is my first grandchild but I am getting horrible negative feedback from other family members. My other son (who is actually her favorite uncle) has said she has no manners and won't even answer him at times. My daughter thinks she is a devil-child who is totally manipulative and only does or says nice things when she wants something.
This is breaking my heart because I want everyone to love her as I do. We have a very close bond and she confides a lot of things to me (such as the other kids in school don't like her). But even with me, she refuses to say hello to me on the phone because "she's busy".
I wish we lived closer so that I could see her more and help her deal with her problems.
Any suggestions?
2007-11-01 06:28:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your granddaughter could be experiencing some emotional problems, or perhaps her parents have simply created a monster? it's hard to tell from here.
You may want everyone to love your granddaughter as you do, but isn't it better to accept her at face value, instead of worrying what other people think?
Perhaps she has a problem which needs attention? Emotional problem? Learning disablity? High end autism? Who knows? Her parents are responsible to take her to the pediatrician for advice and a referral, if needed.
If she is miserable, and having social problems, and if she were my daughter, i'd find out if she needed some sort of help. that's my best answer.
2007-11-01 06:34:50 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a bed time? Does she eat a lot of sugar and junk food? If a child does not get enough sleep and is not eating healthy then they have behavior issues. Do her parents notice how rude she is or do they think she is funny?
My husband and I extended an invitation to frineds for a weeked at our vacation home. They brought there children which I was looking forward to as I love kids. The one child is 4 and a night mare. He broke several things around my house (example My screen door.) and a few other things. I felt it was the parents job to disaplin there own children however they did not think it was a problem. It was 11 pm and this kid would not go to bed. I found out later he sets his bed time. The next moring I got up to make cofee. The little one was eating potato chips at 8:30 am I asked the mother what I could make the children for breakfast? Eggs, Oatmeal, pancakes? The mother's response was I gave him ice cream earler as that is what he wanted. Don't make them anything.
NOw I know why this kid is out of control he does not get enough sleep and is bouncing off the wall all day on sugar. The father's responce is he blames his wife.
Please note, I am not trying to say that your granddaughter is in the same position or your children are bad parents however, there is a reason for her behavior and as a grandmother it is your place to find out what's the problem is.
This situation will only get worse. I would ask your son if he noticed her behavior. She is having problems at school in addition so it can not be everyone else.
Step in grandma as your son and daughter in law might not like it but, all will thank you later.
2007-11-02 02:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first two posts were positive altho it's hard to put your place in order right?
You are your son's parent but the chosen behavior is not your son's behavior see - grandsweetie has to have people around her that will not give her excuses while present. You are her grand*mother* ok...means you've already been there and done the 0-18 parenting thing and she sees you as parent to her parent (family elder). On the other hand, there is your son who is her father and you, grandma who these days people are just starting to get it - grandparents are not cousins or the school bus driver. They don't dump their sons and daughter at 18 either, that's a rumor. By example, the bus driver and the cousin are people who have limited responsibility and time to teach or spend quality time. You weigh it out ...reflect, pray what ever it takes for you to come to a solution. The system does not need another family.
2007-11-01 06:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son will probably only feel like you're butting in and nagging.
Since you're close to the girl and she confides in you, then maybe YOU should talk to her about her behavior. If she's having problems with other kids at school, it might be related to her behavior. It sounds like you're a good mentor for her, so why don't you talk to her about things and get to the bottom of the why she is acting that way and how she can start acting better.
2007-11-01 06:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
HELLO.................. your son and his wife have created this monster, let him know what a brat she is......she doesn't need help she needs disclipine!! I don't think anyone is surprised she doesn't have friends. That alone is a good indicator of what is going on!! If she was anyone else and not your granddaughter, what would you think of her behavior?? You can't change this, only mom and dad and if they don't well the little monster suffers.
2007-11-01 06:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just flat out tell him all that you just told us
2007-11-01 06:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by suan b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋