HAVE A 5 YEAR OLD SON, THE YOUNGEST. NOW WE HAVE A BABY COMING AND IT SEEMS HE DOESNT WANT TO GROW UP, HELP!! HE HAS ALWAYS BEEN THE BABY IN THE FAMILY AND DOES NOT WANT TO GIVE UP THAT SPOT. HE WHINES ALL THE TIME AND CHOOSES TO USE A HIGH PITCH VOICE WHEN ASKING FOR SOMETHING. LATELY HE PEED THE BED. WE'RE TRYING TO GET HIM TO GET READY FOR WHAT'S COMING BUT HE DEFINITELY DOESNT WANT TO GIVE UP HIS SPOT. PLEASE HELP WITH ANY SUGGESTIONS
2007-11-01 06:14:43 · 4 answers · asked by Gerard W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The best way to help anyone understand what they need to do, is to "get them busy." When you get through having him "help" you with everything, he won't have the "time" to throw tantrums. What he will do, is "throw down." which means he will be tired and contented with his rest. This training worked well on me as a child. All the other children that have been introduced to this "process" have adjusted quite well because of it. Peace, Love and God Bless.
2007-11-05 05:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by In God We Trust 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Read stories to him about babies. There are a lot of excellent stories to help young children deal with new additions to the family. Get him involved in the preperation work. Bring him shopping with you to pick out toys for the baby or give him a job to do when the baby comes such as getting the diaper when it's changing time. Let him know that he won't be loved any less because of the new baby.
Make sure that when the baby arrives still give him some quality one on one time with you and his daddy.
Good luck
2007-11-05 12:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by sugarbear1a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boundaries. He is 5, he is old enough to understand what is going on...which by the way, he does very well or he wouldn't be throwing this on going tantrum struggling to maintain a space that by the way...isn't even vacated yet....the baby isn't even here.
You will need to sit down and have a very big boy talk to him. Also...not making such a big deal of this new position will also help. Sort of let him know...big deal...you know, down play the situation a bit... that might help.
2007-11-01 13:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by Michele J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 5yr old is smart enough to know he will no longer be the baby. Try to involve him in the preparation of his little brother/sister by getting him to help with the nursery, picking out clothes and toys, etc. Getting him all siked about being the big brother may also help. Let him know there are benefits to being the oldest.
good luck and congrats on the new addition to your family!
2007-11-02 11:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by creolesongbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋