How can I get my 2year old sleep in her own bed (PLEASE HELP)?

Question

a couple weeks a ago my daughter started crawling out of her crib so we went and got her a toddler bed . but she will not stay in this bed for anything screams loud like theres no tomorrow its awful so i caved in an now she goes to bed with me in my bed and shes fine quite i can even leave my room and she will stay in my bed no problem i dont get it what can i do in order for to feel good and be ok with going to sleep in her own bed everytime i try to put her in her bed i try to leave and shut the door for a few mins an if and only if i can rush out the door without her catching me she bangs on the door so hard and it is loud. one more point before she discovered that she could crawl out if her crib it was perfect everynite in her crib no later than 8:00pm asleep by 8:30 please help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

no disrespect to any of the answers but i dont think anyone understands how my child is acting when its time for bed she will not relax if its in her bed read a story she wont lay down

Answer 1

Put her in her bed, tuck her in....

when she cries, leave her!!
When she climbs into your bed, pick her up, bring her back to her bed, and put her back..
KEEP doing this..doesnt matter if it takes 30 times, eventually, she will give up...You dont even have to say a word to her, just keep putting her back in her bed
Yes, it will take patience by you, but if you dont have patience, she wont learn!

Answer 2

She is learning if she screams long and loud enough she can have anything. The more you give into it the longer and louder the screams get for less and less important things. This is a great age because she is learning independence. But it is the most important one for teaching and the hardest for parents setting boundries. But what she learns now she will know the rest of her life. If you can get through this and teach her how strong and smart she is because she got through learning to sleep in her own bed in her own room she will be better because of it!

Clean her room and childproof so there isn't much in there that she can get into. Put her to bed when she is happy, NOT when she is tired. Catch her BEFORE she is tired. Close the door. If she gets up to play, let her. If you know she is safe she will be ok. Then she will go to sleep when she is ready. Also make sure she has a routine before that. Bath, book, bed. Play music if it helps. You can do it!! If you can't say no to her when she is 2 how will it work when she is 13? At that age the issues can be life altering. Set yourself up now for future success. Blessings to you and your family!

Answer 3

My daughter did the same thing when we got her a new bed. It's something new and unfamiliar to her. Be consist ant and if she gets up put her back to bed over and over. Another thing that I did was when i put my daughter to bed I would stand at the doorway reassuring her that mommy's still here and I would say over and over "good girl, night night". After a couple of nights doing this I would get further and further away from the door until I just put her to bed and walked out.
Be patient it's scary for a 2 year old to be suddenly put into a new bed. Consistency is the key.

Also develop a routine for bedtime every night. Bath, stories, kisses, bed. Or something to that effect.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You caved in and allowed her to stay in your bed....OUCH....Now you need to put her in her bed close the door and walk away....Let her scream cry and carry on...She will stop...If she comes into your bed you need to pick her up and put her back in her bed...Keep doing this until she stays in her bed....Option two you can sit on the floor next to your daughters bed dont let her cuddle with you or touch you at ALL...You can read her a book and stay there until she falls asleep...Keep doing this everynight and each night move further away from her bed and eventually she will get use to her bed and sleep there....I know how hard it is I went through the same problems with my 3 year old son about 1.5 years ago it was a tough time but he is now in his own bed and he only runs into our room during a thunderstorm or when I get up to leave for work he might pop in to say love you daddy!!!

PS when she does sleep in her own room make sure you give her alot of praise hugs and kisses even if she sleeps a few hours and wakes up postive renforcement works!!!

Answer 5

I had this same problem!! Maybe take her to the store and let her pick out special sheets (i.e. her favorite color...or Princess ones). Make sure you make the bed inviting and comfortable. Use a special blanket or pillow...

What worked really for us....is I let me son fall asleep on my bed...then transferred him to his toddler bed. After a few times of waking up in his bed (and getting tons of praise from mommy for it) he started to go to sleep there too.

You can also try the "Nanny 911" method. Put her in the toddler bed...stay in the room with her and keep putting her back in the bed until she stays. You can rub her back, play soothing music....stuff to help calm her down. And every few minutes move a little bit closer to the door until finally she's sleeping, and you're out of the room.

The key is consistancy. I know it's hard to see her so upset...but trust me it's more emotional blackmail than anything else. The last thing that you're going to want is a 3-4 yr old sleeping in your bed, so you need to get her out of there now. The longer you let it go on, the harder it will be to get her out.

When she starts crying and pounding on the door...go in there and put her back on the toddler bed, rub her back...soothe her as best you can...and leave the room again. This will certainly take time...and tons of tissues...but you'll get it eventually.

And quit caving....as long as she knows that little bit of crying will get her way...she WILL keep it up. It's amazing how fast they learn THAT concept!! LOL

Good luck.

Answer 6

OK! I have 20 month old b/g twins. My daughter got sick a few months ago - just a cold - coughing and whatnot - so she managed to wind up in our bed for about a solid month. Just enough to get her addicted to snuggling with mom and dad.
When we tried to cut her off when she was better - she wasn't having it. MAJOR tantrums. Finally she jumped out of her crib a month ago - smushed nose and all - so we got the twins toddler beds. Thinking MAYBE that would be so enticing she'd stay out of our bed. Think again - now she can just walk in our room anytime. And my husband and I would take turns sleeping next to her on the floor.
I finally had enough from sleeping next to her on the floor - so one night she came to my room - I threw a pillow on the floor and told her she could lay on the floor next to me. She DID! I threw a blanket over her and said good night. She slept on the floor. Granted she woke up a couple times - but no crying really. I just would tell her it's ok. I'm here - go back to sleep. Finally after a week or so - she could sleep thru the night on the floor. Then after a few days - she'd sleep longer and longer in her own bed. Now - knock on wood - she sleeps MOST nights in her bed. Occasionally her brother wakes her up (he has the cold now) and she will come to our room - but she just crawls onto the pillow herself. She doesn't even wake us up now. It's like I wake up some mornings to find her snuggled on the pillow.
I don't know if it would work for you - or if it's something you want to try - but it worked for me. :)

Answer 7

Do not under any circumstances let your kid sleep with you. I had this issue, so I put her in her bed and layed on the floor next to her bed until she fell asleep, then left the room. It didn't take long to get her used to it so I didn't have to wait for her to fall asleep, then finally she would go herself. I also played some soft classical music for her, which she liked, so it was an incentive for her to stay in her room. Your kid absolutely must learn right now to sleep in her own bed. You are the parent. Cave now and you are in for a lifetime of caving, and getting played by your kid.

Answer 8

this is what I have heard works the best.. (nanny 911 lol) When she wakes up and comes to your door, you dont get mad or yell, you talk very calmly and say "no __, you must sleep in your own bed" Obviously she is 2 lol so she's going to get back up and be persistant because alll she wants is you to give in.. You continue.. picking her up, putting her back to bed.. but you stop talking to her after the 3rd time. You don't give her a drink, food, anything she asks for.. You must continue putting her in.. it may take a half an hour-an hour.. or even a few nights.. but eventually it will work :) hope to help

Answer 9

Can you rock her to sleep? Then you can lay her down and if she wakes up repeat the process until she gets used to her new bed. You can also give her your pillow to use or a piece of your used clothing to hold onto that smells like you. (Some children find that comforting.) I used to read my children a story, lay them down, and then sit in their room and sing to them until they fell asleep. I hope one of these suggestions is helpful.

Answer 10

you ever watch super nanny?
you have to be conststant. start off the night by reading her a book in bed while she is relaxing and then eventually ease your way out.
let her cry if thats what she is going to do.
i know it sounds mean but a few nights of this and she will get the hang of it.
if you keep giving into her she will keep doing it becasue she is getting her way.
put a night light in the room if you dont have one already.