Why do people think that spanking is the only way to have well behaved chilren?

Question

Why do people think that spanking is natural?
Why do they think that it has 'the way it has always been'?
Spanking was brought to the Western world with religion and is not profound in other cultures where there is less crime.... I dont' understand why people hit their children and defend their parents for doing it to them. I dont' get it...

2 optionsl:
-give birth to a child and spank, or slap it (using words like 'with an explanation' or 'softly' or 'open hand' to justity it)
-or have them run wild

What about all the other options out there... why to peopel justigy this?? I have 2 kids and they are wonderful students and repsectful and never spanked. I don't get how peopel do that. I was spaned. I remember how it felt and so I didn't pass that on to my kids.

Answer 1

the problem is that parents dont have enough education for themselves and just the minimum to educate others... so children rise dumb and spanked. thats a vicious circle.

we are in 2007 but typical average people aren't far from people who lived in 1800... just take a walk and talk to ordinary people. this fact is pretty clear.

Answer 2

Are you aware of what discipline is used in the countries that use other forms of correction and have less crime as a result? Some, if not most of those kids probably wish spanking was an option. Get off your soapbox, stop judging and be content in your parenting without shoving your opinions down our throats.

Answer 3

Wow, talk about a generalization. Everyone disciplines in their own way. I don't believe spanking is the ultimate evil that you obviously do, and I was abused as a child. On the other hand, I feel that the most effective discipline involves natural consequences. I'm happy that you've never had to spank your children, but that doesn't mean your way is the only right way.

Answer 4

First off, there was no western world until religion motivated people to move there and occupy it. Get your history right, that sort of thing is just annoying.

Personally I have never known a child that wasnt spanked who didnt later have issues. 15 years Ive been working with kids, so I think thats long enough to know the end results of a few. in fact, one of the kids I used to sit once in a great while, who was never spanked (we were never allowed to tell him no, or make him do anything, as per mom's orders) just slit the throat of a police officer- who was unarmed and not provoking him.

If it worked for you, great. We'll see how well you're kids really turn out, and how much the contribute to society.

I can remember being spanked, I remember it hurt, but I also remember I knew full well I was going to get it when I was in the act of deciding to misbehave anyway. I was never so scarred by it that I couldnt see the purpose of it.

Theres other ways besides spanking, and I personally think spanking is the final resort after routine, discussion and time outs are exhausted. But in my experience I've never seen a functional result of no spanking.

Answer 5

super mom, I know that spanking is not the anwser to raising
kids correctly but the way the government protects kids it makes them feel like we as parents are not suposed to tuch them, I have 2 boys so I know what youre talking about

Answer 6

Because it is.. WOW.. Since spanking became taboo, we have kids killing, kids joining gangs, kids robbing, and basically KIDS GONE WILD. So dont spank, go ahead, teach them that there are no cosequences to their actions. Im sure we all appriciate the mess that north america is in with the WILD KIDS.

Answer 7

Because back in my day I walked three miles to school both ways in the snow without shoes and got spanked and kids were so much better behaved than they are today.

Answer 8

if your children continue to behave without being spanked, it sounds like you really don't have a problem. each child is different. some children will simply behave from the discipline of removed priviledges. others must be spanked (not beaten) to understand that wrong is wrong. in any case, correction is needed to steer a child in the right direction.

Answer 9

I agree with you. So many people on here seem to think that if you don't spank your children that you are just letting them run wild and have no discipline at all. I believe that in most cases spanking is just an easy way of thinking that you are disciplining your child. Real discipline is hard, you have to be at it all of the time. It is much harder and takes real consistency bu teaches your child SELF DISCIPLINE which is the only kind that really matters in the long run.
My 3 children have never been spanked, but are well disciplined children. If you want to raise someone who is going to slit someones throat later on in life, try smacking them around as kids and see what they learn from that.

Answer 10

well I was well disciplined when I was younger and I feel I've turned out just fine. At times it was with a spanking, a firm conversation from my parents or just a disapproving look from my parents but I do agree there are many forms of discipline- it all depends on the child and what he/she takes to.

Answer 11

My best friend and I each have boys 2 months apart.
They decided to raise their kids without spanking. We chose to spank.
At 3 years old, mine knew how to act it public. His would scream and pitch fits. When I asked him how long he would allow his son to do this, his reply was, "Just ignore him. He'll stop eventually."
Well, over time, he changed his parenting approach. He began to spank his son when he misbehaved, and now his son is well behaved also.