My nephew gets up at 8:00 a.m.and by 9:30 by sister-in-law makes him go back down for a nap. She usually fights with him to get him to go back down. Finally he will fall asleep after awhile and sleep for 1 to 2 hours. Then he gets up and a few hours later maybe around 4:00 in the afternoon she makes him go back to bed and usually he is not tired and she fights with him again. Usually after awhile, he goes to sleep because she spanks him if he does not want to sleep. This happens all the time. Finally he will give in and go to sleep and sleep for an hour or so. The she makes him go back to sleep around 8:30 to 9:00. She also spanks him then if he doesn't want to sleep. I told her maybe he is getting too much sleep, she disagrees. She thinks he is just overtired and that is why she has to fight with him to take his naps. How many naps should a 15 month old get? Could someone give me some tips on how I could help her with this. I hate that she is spanking him to much. (Sleeps all night)
2007-11-01 04:45:17 · 15 answers · asked by Laughing with you not at you 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Naps and amounts of needed sleep will vary from child to child but many 15 month olds are ready to have just one afternoon nap.
If she is having to go so low as to spank him to get him to cry himself to sleep then he obviously doesn't need to two naps. Especially if she is trying to put him down within a couple of hours of waking up.
If he is tired he wouldn't fight it since naps are already established in his routine. I have 2 kids under 3 and have never, ever had to battle them because I followed their cues on what amount of sleep they needed and we have full nights of sleep with 1-2 naps a day depending on age/sleep needed.
He is getting older and your sister in law just needs to realize he doesn't need the amount of sleep he used to. I know she may be used to it as well to have those down times to herself but she needs to adjust and quit doing this to herself and child.
It breaks my heart that this poor baby is being put into this situation everyday - it isn't healthy.
Maybe you could suggest to her to at least try going to one nap a day and see if it is easier to get him to go to sleep without such an emotional experience.
2007-11-01 04:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My 19month old only takes one long nap. He'll wake up about 7:00-7:30 and stay up until after his lunch. Then, I'll put him down for a nap about 12:30-1:00 and he will fall asleep pretty fast with a sippy cup and sleep for about 2-3 hours. Then I keep him up until 8:00 for his bedtime and bythen he is tried and falls asleep easily. He never gives me any trouble when it comes to falling a sleep. And he does sleep through the night. Sounds like the sister-in-law just doesn't know how to handle her child, she shouldn't be spanking him, poor baby, i'm sure she's putting him to take so many naps so that she can do whatever she wants to without having to deal with her son. She needs to spend sometime with him to instead of making him sleep his childhood away so that she can have time alone. She shouldn't of had him if she wanted to be by herself.
2007-11-01 05:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by mommie2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Around the age of 16 months, most toddlers will switch from two naps a day to one longer nap. He may be ready to do one afternoon nap. About him fighting sleep and having to be spanked, I'll end up with hate mail over this, but most kids will fight laying down for a nap or bedtime and will fall asleep faster when disciplined - not that spanking is the answer, that's not really what I mean, but life is not all sweet and pleasant and you can't always say "oh sweetie, it's time for bed, why don't you lay down and fall asleep with a smile on your face?". It just won't happen that way!
2007-11-01 04:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by casw1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My one year old is a terrific night sleeper, goes 11-12 hours at a clip, so her daytime naps aren't as long as some. She takes one about 2-3 hours after she wakes for the day (sometime between 9:30 and 11) that last about 30 minutes to 2 hours, depending on our schedule for my toddler that day. Then, she takes one around 2 pm for 1.5 hours. If she could, she would sleep for 2-2.5 hours in the late morning, around 10/11ish and that would be it for the day, but my older child's schedule interferes, so we're still doing the two shorter naps per day. Just follow her lead, when does she get sleepy each day? Start putting her down then, consistently, and it'll become more routine for her, she'll get predictably tired at the same time etc. If she's a good night sleeper, she won't need as much during the day and vice versa.
2016-05-26 21:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 12 months. she does take 2 naps a day for me. she is usually up about 7am and takes her first nap between 9:30 and 10:00 amand sleeps for at least an hour to an hour and a half. she takes a second nap between 3 and 4 pm for about the same length of time. napping has never been an issue but i did notice that if i only give her her milk bottle at nap or bed time she goes right down for me. i dont know if thats a comfort thing or just coincedence. but also at her 1yr check up the dr said that she should be taking 2 naps a day.
2007-11-01 05:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is a different issue...
My one year old son sleeps about 2-3 hours a day and it is usually somewhere between 11-3. He has just recently transitioned to this once daily nap and it really helps... he sleeps better, and by the time bedtime comes around, he is tired again.
2007-11-01 05:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by amber 18 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
we had the same problem my sister who works 3rd shift was sleeping during the day with my nephew. My nephew is 13 months.
He would get up at 8 am and she would make him take a nap at 10am he would sleep till 12 then eat lunch then at 1 pm she would make him sleep till 2pm then after dinner usually about 5pm she would put him back to bed. he would sleep till 7pm then go to sleep for the night at 9pm.
now that my mom has temp custody of him he goes to bed about 7:30-8 and sleep all night
he wakes at 8 am and takes a nap about 11 am that last till 12:30 then he eats lunch and plays untill 2 then takes a nap till 3. and that is all he sleeps.
this is all the sleep a kid that young needs.
2007-11-01 04:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by favorite_aunt24 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
15 months is borderline ... some kids do take two naps then, others take one longer one. There's not a right answer. Some kids desperately resist naps no matter how tired they are, so it's hard to tell from that alone. Since he's only sleeping an hour or so at a time for naps, though, she can probably make her own life easier by weaning her son to one nap and spending less time trying to get him down....
2007-11-01 04:52:21 · answer #8 · answered by ... 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, well first of all, I don't think you should be spanking such a small child... Spanking should only be used for life threatening or harmful behavior under extreme circumstances.
You may have a very hard time telling your sister what to do when it comes to her baby. My child slept similarly to this at your nephew's age, but every baby is different. I would try to suggest to your sister to consolidate his two naps into one after lunch. If you think it's possible, try to tell her how it concerns you that she is spanking your nephew so much. I mean, if she's spanking him on a daily basis several times a day for normal everyday behavior... what's she gonna do when this boy is a defiant 2 yr old?! Maybe she just needs a wakeup call, and hopefully you can be the one to give it to her. Best of luck to you!
2007-11-01 04:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by Amy G 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He should start moving to one nap a day around now, if he wasn't already. If he wakes up at 8 am he shouldn't be going back down for a nap so soon afterwards. He should start going to one nap a day. My daughter goes down at noon and slept 2 to 3 hours at that age. Now she'll be 3 in Jan and still goes down at noon and sleep until aroun 1:30 or 2 unless we had a very busy morning, she sleeps until around 3ish. But no longer than 3 since she then goes to bed at 8pm.
2007-11-01 04:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i have a 1 year old and she is my 5th child she takes one nap a day, spanking a one year old is horrible although so is spanking a child of any age, each child is different with how much sleep they need but this seems very abusive maybe you could talk to your brother or a member of the family who she will listen to, i feel for you and the child good luck, i would say it is none of your business but it is your nephew and this is not about what they eat or something minor it is abuse and you must protect your nephew even if it means being the bad guy
2007-11-01 05:29:16 · answer #11 · answered by melissa s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋