my ex works at a bar ( thats why he is my ex ) i went there
last sat night halloween party.. got really drunk and told his
boss the owner who i know well. that i think he did drugs
he is really mad at me i found out and so i sent a text msg
saying how sorry i was also sent one to his boss
NO REPLY BACK but he did send a msg to my friend saying
he accepts my apology is that good enough?
i want him to send one to me not to my friend..
did i do the right thing?
2007-11-01 04:32:05 · 21 answers · asked by flyermikey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all if you want to fix your drunken antics be brave enough to do it in person. Tell your ex's boss that you were not thinking clearly and didn't mean the things you said and that you will never again drink so much that you have to regret what you did the next day.
Seriously, a text message? How old are you?
2007-11-01 04:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by ashley g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by apologizing. If they work at a bar, they (both him and the boss) know that some stupid things get said under the influence. You've done your part. Whether or not he forgives you is his decision. There's not much else you can do but apologize again, and again until he forgives you, but that might annoy him even more. Give him some time to cool down and then see if he gets back in touch with you.
2007-11-01 11:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your under 25 and insecure with yourself. Think clearly before you do something that could change the future of someone.
You need to tell him in person you are sorry and also a text message to a boss even if it is a boss of a bar is so immature. Write a formal letter stating that out of a jealous and insecure rage you lied to him to hurt your ex and you wanted him to have no ill thoughts toward your ex. THEN LEAVE IT AT THAT>>>>
2007-11-01 11:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by halfptnohio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh the things we do when under the influence! I know just how you are feeling and it sucks, right?! I think your apology was the right thing to do. The fact he's accepted it ought to be good enough. Don't push it and expect too much from him. You did a crappy thing and you owned up to it. Try to let it go and be glad what you did didn't cause more damage. He'll come around.
Live and learn my friend!
2007-11-01 11:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by DramaMartini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, drunk people who blurt s*** out like that are not cool. Secondly, what's been done cannot be undone. You already tried to fix it and from then who knows. Why is it so imperative that he tells you?! You did worse by telling his boss something you shouldn't of have. Obviously he does not want to talk to you if he told your FRIEND that he accepts your apology. Get over it.
2007-11-01 11:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by coby300 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what you could to mitigate the damage, why do you need your ex to send YOU a message as long as you know everything is OK? Are you trying to get back with him, is that why you went to the bar where he works in the first place?
2007-11-01 11:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, that was the wrong thing to do, but it's likely that the boss doens't put much weight into it. the boss could probably tell you were drunk and if the ex still has his job then it doesn't really matter. let it go, it sounds like no one is as concerned about it as you.
2007-11-01 11:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by ashley f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it wasn't cool that you told his boss... but, I can understand. All of us partiers have done stupid things when theres a little alcohol in us *blushes*. Sounds like he will be okay with it. He probably doesnt want an appology through a text. Try doing it in person... but, not at his work.
2007-11-01 11:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by apologizing. He forgave you in his own way. You dont get to choose how he forgives you.
Hey... Did it ever occur to you that you may have a drinking problem? People who do and say things that they regret have a problem when drinking. Think about it ...so you dont get yourself in such a mess again.
2007-11-01 11:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Ernie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got really drunk and tried to cost him his job; now you want your ex to make you feel less guilty about your actions and cater to your emotional issue stemming from it by contacting you and forgiving you for this.
Aint happening. Consider this a lesson learned. What a selfish expectation.
2007-11-01 11:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by Phil M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋