I was a major player 3 years ago... the word commitment would always leave me laughing. Back then I met a guy (Bryce) through work and i was going to play him like the rest. We met up and 5 minutes through our conversation i got a call and i had to leave (it was to see another guy(aaron) which i realllly wanted). Anyway i got heaps and heaps of calls and messages from bryce saying i was so rude etc. etc.
and for the first time i actualy cared. So i pretty much left aaron and scheduled a proper date with bryce.
The things bryce said to me really changed my life... i completely stopped being a player all thanks to him (i owe him for that) Anyway we continued to be friends for a whole 2 and a half years he'd tell me crap about him and his gf and id tell him crap about how boring commitment was lol.
I really looked up to him as if he was my big brother. Then things changed during this year. He always use to talk gentleman like, now he talks trashy and only saw me if i was going to eff him.why did he just change?
2007-11-01 04:11:55 · 26 answers · asked by Blondie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has turned into a sex addict possibly. They become secretly obsessed with porn and think only about sex. It makes them degrade women and he sounds like he is suddenly disrespecting you now. It might be worth checking in to. Google sex addiction, it's very interesting and there are TONS of men who have this problem.
2007-11-01 04:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was with you all the way till the end. Why did you have to "eff" him in the first place? Were you guys "effing" all this time or is that a new thing? If so, maybe that changed everything. It seems to do that to a good friendship.
I don't know what to tell you. I just felt compelled to give some kind of answer because I understand the "changed man" syndrome! I've been through it myself except I wasn't a player. I've always had commitment when it came to sex. But it seems a man will pull you in, behave like the perfect gentleman, say all the right things and be attentive and gentle. Then once they've got you moved in and settled, they turn into someone completely different! The attention goes away and turns to irritation. Their speech even changes from soft and kind to gruff and uncaring. I don't know why this happens but it happens to a lot of women!
You said he taught you a few things about yourself. Maybe you should just take what you've learned and move on and be thankful for the lessons learned.
Good luck sweetie! I hope I helped at least a little!
2007-11-01 04:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by DramaMartini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like karma came back to bite you in the @$$. Be kind to people and treat them fairly. If you are going to be a player - be fair and honest about it at least. But I am not going to bash you here. Sounds like you are really upset about this. Did you and Bryce end up dating? You said you looked up to him like an older brother? I'm not quite getting what you are saying here? I would suppose his change of attitude has something to do with one of the following though:
a - outside influence (something happened or a series of things have happened that you may or may not know about) that has caused him to change his opinion and thought process about you and probably relationships in general. There's not much you can do about that.
or
b- maybe he feels like he has you where he wants you now and is really showing his true colors. That would suck.
Either way - best of luck - please treat people fairly.
2007-11-01 04:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he WAS a respectable guy out of friendship, but once you effed him, you effed up the previous relationship (friendship) and turned it back into what your problem was all along (effing player). Sex without love is trash, so maybe once you gave it up, he saw you in a whole different aspect, and treated you how he saw fit. Dr. Phil says that people treat you the way you ALLOW them to treat you. If this is a problem with you, then maybe you need to schedule some talking time with him. Good luck and I hope you can get the friendship with him, the way it was, back.
(P.S. please dont take the effing stuff personally...I was only going by what you wrote...and im not one to judge, and I dont personally know you, so I have no right to speak ill against you)
Best Wishes
2007-11-01 04:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by friendsnfreebies 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cuz he's lost all respect for you. Usually only trash would knowingly sleep with a guy who has a girlfriend already and from his experience you were a man eater in the past and trash comes out of your mouth such as commitment is so boring and he's like a big brother to you, so why would he think you're not trash; who besides trash would have sexual relations with their big brother? I wouldn't be surprised if no other ugly adjectives doesn't pop into his head too.
2007-11-01 04:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Šωèé†íé♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've changed in the time you've known him, so why is it a surprise that he'd be capable of change, too? Granted, it doesn't sound like he's heading in the positive direction you were, but this might be something he feels he needs to get out of his system, or he might have other friends that aren't being a good influence. If his behavior's worrying you, let him know.
2007-11-01 04:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by MM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i would have to say that he might have gotten scared that he might be falling for you and not really sure what he should do. I've had guys that did that to me and i know it really sucks. They were the world to me and then they just changed. But you also have to think that there is probably somebody else out there for you that is better and will treat you like a queen.
2007-11-01 04:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by daddys_ladybugangl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that his gf has issues with your friendship and wants him to end it, although you'd think he would've mentioned that before this. It's also possible he ran into someone who knew you before and who told him you were a player, and he may think you're playing him like all the others. The second one is the most likely.
Have you asked him why he seems to have changed?
2007-11-01 04:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Bill F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you told the story its all there
you developed respect for each other
then you lost it=-some day consider looking for honor and marriage
why pay for milk even with respect when you can get it elswhere till the cow runs dry and the bull moves on
you have changed for the better now take another step forward
David in Jesus amazing grace, the sweet pea John chapters 10&3
2007-11-01 04:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be many reasons behind it etc:maybe he has just broke up with his gf and that his gf is a player like you who has been playing him for so long or he really love you but dare not confess to you but you treat him like a big bro.the only thing you could do now is to confront him and talk to him and find out the truth from him.
2007-11-01 04:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by rootbeer_118 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋