I shouted the wrong man's name during sex ??

Question

how then hell can i make it up to him ? he has not mentioned anything to me but he's been a bit off.

yes we did ''finish it off''
no im not playing away he's the only one.
and he is ''Curtis'' and i souted ''Ben'' so cant really get outa that one.

Answer 1

Oh man thats almost funny..... and i think its a good idea to pretend ya gave his man hood a new nick name lmao oh man thats funny

Answer 2

If he had shouted the wrong woman's name during sex, would there be any way he could make it up to you? It's a hard thing to get past.

Here are a few ideas you might try, depending on the guy and what kind of relationship you have.

Tell him you feel really bad - that he's a great guy and it makes you sick to think you might have blown it with him by doing something dumb.

Tell him he is the guy you think about and the guy you really, really want to be with. Then show him that - you can probably think of some ways.

Tell him you want to fix it but you don't know how. Ask him if there is anything you can do to make it up to him. Even if he doesn't come up with anything, it might make him feel better to know you are trying.

Make a game out of it. Tell him that tonight, you'll be any woman he wants you to be.

If he doesn't forgive you after all this, then he doesn't. Forgiveness has to be given, it can't be earned - all you can do is make it easier for him to forgive you if he wants to.

Answer 3

Was it an ex's or just some fantasy man? If it was an ex and he knows it was an ex, I would be pretty upset about that. I would just sit down with him and apologize and ask him what you can do to make up for it. Reassure him that it was a stupid slip and nothing was meant by it. Tell him how good he made you feel and your brain was going in a thousand different directions etc and was not thinking straight. And just don't shout any names out during sex again. Try "more" "yes" "faster" or something like that..

Answer 4

You my dear had a Freudian Slip. Ask yourself why you called out another man's name. Is it an ex-boyfriend, or someone you have met recently that you can't get out of your mind? If your honestly not looking somewhere else, then I would talk to him about it. Just tell him the truth. You have no idea why you said it, you don't have feeling for the other man and that your sorry. If you leave it, your man may begin to think, and his thoughts might lead to some nasty places (like thoughts of you cheating). You cannot let this one be, regardless if he's saying anything or not. Just because he's not talking, doesn't mean he's not thinking.

Answer 5

Girl, you've got work to do. You've got to make him feel like he's the only man you've ever known. He'll probably know that you're just trying to make up with him, so you have to be sincere in your efforts. Dinners, massages, mind-blowing sex when he wants it.....or, you could just apologize and promise it'll never happen. That's one of the biggest mistakes a lover can make, calling out the wrong name, so you'll almost have to beg for his forgiveness if you decide to talk about it. Good luck!

Answer 6

WOW! Sounds like you made a big mistake right there!
So he's your b/f and you yelled another guy's name so you cheated on him? Right? Or was he just a old b/f and you still have feelings for him and you were imagining that it was him that you were having sex with? You must not care to much for your b/f? Or you are just one of them girls that like to go out and have sex with any guy they can get their hands on? But whatever it was he is never going to be able to forget that and I really don't think there is anything that you can do to make him forgive you!

Answer 7

he does this so he can experience like he has no blame. if he can blame then you he doesnt ought to take heed to you call him out. truthfully, only %. his **** and tell him that when you consider that he made his emotions sparkling and concise the different nighttime approximately your habit and his desire to paintings so as to no longer see you which you felt it maximum prudent to make each little thing extra professional. supply him his stuff and tell him that the legal specialists would be contacting him in some days. adn which you deliver all your ultimate to heidi or frodo or whoever else he decideds to finally finally end up with. existence is to brief to stay with a prick. it hurts now yet your 33 thier is somebody extra advantageous out thier for you. dont waist yet another year in this douche. his strikes are indicative of someoen who has no desire to stay jointly or that he even respects you. why even positioned up with it.

Answer 8

hey don't worry about it. You can try to explain and admit that you messed up.

The best part is, you are a dead fish in the sack. You sound like you really get into it. That is cool, and I bet he likes that too.

Besides, I bet he (like you) has been with other people. Or does he think he is your first and only.

If he thinks that, then dump him anyway

Answer 9

As a man, I agree that this would be pretty devastating.

But, that is not a particularly constructive comment in and of itself.

It seems that being silent and pretending it didn't happen is not working for you. And if he is like a lot of men, he might not be comfortable initiating a conversation about "feelings." I don't know your partner, but many men might not even have the words to express what they are feeling at times of stress, and only know how to express themselves with anger (or by sulking).

So, I would suggest two things. One, you initiate a conversation about this, in which you have to be prepared to talk about what significance this other name has for you. Two, you might need to help him talk about what he feels.


One technique for the latter is to use a list of "feelings words." One such list is at this link:

http://eqi.org/cnfs.htm

(or google "list of feelings words" to find others.)

That web page simply lists "negative" feelings words, but it contains a link to a page with a more comprehensive list of feelings. In many marriage retreat weekends, as well as in counselling sesssions, couples are asked to look at lists like this and find words that describe what they are feeling, and then to talk about it. It lends to better discussions than ones initiated by general statements like 'I feel lousy".

The list might help each of you to talk about how you feel about what happened.

I wish you the best.

Answer 10

How the hell did you manage to do that?!!!

Youve got to reassure him that it was just a sort of accident and suck up majorly and encouraging him in the bedroom as soon as possible (preferably without saying another guys name) so that he can get over it.