2007-11-01 04:02:45 · 10 answers · asked by oocm 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She can't help it. Get help. Don't try to care for her all by yourself. Make sure she is in a safe place where she cant hurt herself. Agree with everything she says, in the third person. Like if she's screaming at Sally and you're Sally, say "Oh, that Sally, she messed up again."
If she does not live with you, leave as soon as she gets agitated. She's not "with it" during those times.
2007-11-01 04:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough one. My heart goes out to you. One simple answer is patients, which I know is sooooooooo easier said than done. Do you have any help with looking after her. Does she go to a day center that would maybe give you a break and give you the strength to take a deep breath and carry on. The only consolation is she doesn't mean it, any of it. She cant help it and as much as that is of no use to you at the time she is showing her anger, just try to take a deep breath and tell yourself she cant help this and she doesn't mean it. Give her and you some space to calm down and start again. Hope this helps.
2007-11-01 11:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
do you mean *your* anger at the situation, or the mother in law getting worked up?
either way, i feel for you... not having experienced it first hand i can't say. i do know it is important to make sure you have breaks from care, and lots of support...
2007-11-01 11:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't tell us much about your situation if she lives with you or you have to check in on her at her own house you or if its your anger or hers either way you need to tell your husband he needs to help its his mother I don't mean to be cruel but if you take care of her you pretty munch know what she needs so you can do it without hearing when it get to be to much a mp3 player with some good tunes might help
2007-11-01 11:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your anger has nothing to do with anything or anyone but you. You are choosing to be angry. No one can make you angry... you make the choice to be angry... or the choose to NOT be angry. Take control of your own emotions. You control them not anyone else. How you feel or react to something is how you choose to. You control your own mind... not anyone else.
2007-11-01 11:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by MICHAEL Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to a different town, change your phone number - get caller ID and don't answer the phone, etc... tell your partner you won't put up with the BS or your leaving. Period.
2007-11-01 11:08:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
replace the coffee with cocoa and then when she starts asking about it act like you don't know what she means...laughter is the best medicine.
2007-11-01 11:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by KK 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her off, release all of your feelings. Keeping them inside will make you feel worse. Trust me giving her a piece of your mind will make you feel hella good. :) Don't settle for no one's crap!
Goodluck!
2007-11-01 11:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Latina111 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you just find the love and the caring inside yourself. sometimes it's hard, but the compassion is there and you just need to pull it out b/c they just can't help it.....but you can:)
take care.
2007-11-01 11:11:08 · answer #9 · answered by joey322 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you mean your MIL is being nasty to you, there is not muhc you can do about it. Remember that she is not herself and is unbalanced.
2007-11-01 11:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by It's a secret 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋