How can I Know for sure my Boyfriend is cheating?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been on and off our relationship for the last 2 years. Before the relationship I was warned about him from some co-workers. But i decided that he deserved a chance anyway and went for it. At first things were great. We always talked, we went out everywhere, and did stuff together. But as time went on that went down hill. Some of my friends have even accused him of flirting(he is a sales associate), and trying to hit on them. We broke up for a long period of time, but then we got back together after he apologized, now i in school a good distance from home and him. For awhile things were fine, but he's started acting funny, he lies and says he's called, he hangs up on me for unexplained reason, i email him and he claims now to never recieve them. he logs on IM late hours at night when i've gone to bed, and i feel like he's starting to cut me off. I suspect that he might have another relationship, but how can i be sure? PLEASE NEED SOME ADVICE

Answer 1

Sorry, Sweetie, but you already know in your heart what's going on. If he's doing that stuff to you, you have your answer. He probably wants to break it off with you but can't actually say it. Do yourself a favor and dump him. You need to concentrate on school and get good grades so you can support yourself and make yourself beholding to NO man. NO man who lies can be trusted - I mean, what does that say right there about his character?? If he really respected you, he wouldn't pull that crap. I'm telling you this from experience as I've had to learn some of this stuff the hard way which caused me a lot of heartache and self-doubt. I'm stronger for the experience though and KNOW what to look for and KNOW what I'm willing to put up with and what I'm not. No man will EVER put me through that crap again because I'm not going to put up with it. NO man is worth putting up with crap that makes you doubt yourself. Bottom line, what does your gut tell you? People can give you advice, but you're the only one who knows what's best for you and your situatuon. Me, personally, I never would've given him a second thought if my friends had warned me about him before I even started going out with him. Some reputations are incorrect or exaggerated, but some are truthfully earned. Good luck!

Answer 2

If you both tell each other everything and you trust each other then you should have no problems. The problem is that if others are trying to kill the relationship then you both have to have the willingness to make the relationship work. If you have the same feelings after a week you need to talk it over with your boyfriend explain why it hurts you to hear about this stuff. You should make sure that you get your point a crossed but don't come off hostel. I wish you the best of luck, everything will work out as it should.

Answer 3

Do you really need to know if he is cheating in order to give up on him?? He has so many OTHER negative traits already, it should be EASY to dump him. WHY wait and wonder if he is a cheater too - -

You were warned, and you ignored all the signs - - OK, so you made a slight mistake in judgment by thinking he would change for you - that's OK - - you tried, and found out the truth. Give the guy the boot, pick up the pieces and move on. We ALL make mistakes - that is part of how we learn.

Answer 4

For all the reasons you just stated, you don't need to be sure you need to realize it's time to move on. You should make up your own mind that if you can't trust him and he isn't being what you need him to be, you don't need him.
I know that once you decide you don't need the misery, you will feel better, If you find out he isn't cheating, but he is still doing the things you complain about, do you still want to call it a relationship?

Answer 5

bottom line: whether he's cheating or not (and honestly, there may never be a way of finding out for sure), if you are not being treated respectfully, how YOU feel you should be treated, then you might want to accept that it's not meant to be anyways. If you are in school, chances are there are many fish in the sea who will want to treat you how you deserve to be treated :)

Answer 6

I want to say that hes already cheating based on all the evidence you just stated, but maybe you should just talk to him, and ask him up front, if he gets really defensive, and angry then thats probably a sign that he is in fact cheating. You can also have your friends check in on him, which is going to make you look crazy, but if i were in your situation, i would want to know if my girlfriend was cheating on me

Answer 7

confront him about it.. sweetheart you deserve waaaaaaaaaaaaayyy better than that and he is not the only person for you... if his not cheating he obviously ain't treatin you right so either you break up with him and move on or let em continue to act like a jerk and deal with it... i'm not here to mess up a relationship but from what you have written here your relationship with him is already mess up....let it go he ain't worth it. its two ppl that builds up a relationship not one.

Answer 8

Who cares if he's cheating. The fact is he's treating you badly and that's enough reason to drop him. Why do you have to wait for cheating confirmation? You deserve better then what he's giving you now. Dump him and focus on your school and friends. Focus on your own life and be free!

Answer 9

You could always call that Cheater's TV show, they could help you out. And you would get paid. Just ask him to be honest with you. And, if you feel that if you ask him to be honest and you arent going to get an honest answer, then he is not the man for you. Solves your problem either way.

Answer 10

1 + 2 = 3 yep figure it out total up the fishy behavior compare it to an open and honest person and voila..what is he doing that makes him have to lie? cheating of course