I broke up with her, she begged for 2 weeks for me back, I hooked up with another girl and then realize i love my ex. She wont take me back why? She said when I moved on so fast she realized she meant little to me and decided to move on herself too but thats not true i love her
2007-11-01 03:31:55 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it stook 2 weeks to hook up with the new girl but i was drunk
2007-11-01 03:37:34 · update #1
Of course she won't take you back. Next time the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence you will head out again. What you forget is that the grass on the other side of the fence needs watering and fertilizing too. Take good care of what you have and it will flourish. Remember attracting attention of someone new is easy...even I at 61 can do it...the hard part is keeping what you have interesting and alive after years of being together. "Life is not passion, life is not pride, Life is a journeying, side by side". Mmm
2007-11-01 03:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with her for a reason - it may have been a bad reason - or a stupid reason - or just the wrong reason but by doing that you forever changed your relationship with that person. You can glue a cup back together after you drop it but it will never be the same - it will be more fragile, it may leak, you may taste the glue in every cup of coffee - it will never be the same mug again. You could never have the same relationship with her no matter what, and if you are the cup in the story she doesn't want to taste the glue of another woman on you... if she is the cup she knows how fragile she is and she doesn't want to give you the chance to break her again.
Either way your relationship is unfortunately over and hopefully you have learned something from it that you will take into your next relationship.
Oh the part about why she begged you so long, that is totally normal - it is like when your a kid and your parents take away something you love - you scream for it and scream for it and then all of a sudden you realize you are not changing there minds and getting it back and then you dont want it anymore.
Good luck to you!
2007-11-01 10:40:41 · answer #2 · answered by mraandmisse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You hurt her...badly.
You are so far into the back of the dog-house that it may be a *long* time before you reach daylight.
As to whether she will be worth the kind of effort it would take to win her back...that'll be up to you.
First things first...sit down and figure-out WHY you broke it off? If it was something that just built-up over time, it hasn't gone away. It will still be there after you get back together. (Think about Fran Drescher...attractive woman, great bod, great brains, but that nasal voice...>shudder<)
Secondly, if it was for a fight or a "What was I thinking" decision...people will argue, and they can become *very* heated. The closer the two of you become, the more likely one or both of you will pull-out one of those barbs that hurt the most and use it in a fight. Most are willing to take the risk, because the benefits usually outweighs the risk.
Whether you choose to pursue (do NOT stalk), or choose to release...I wish you luck.
2007-11-01 11:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hooked up with someone else and she got upset. she felt hurt that you could move on so fast like you didn't care about her. Then, when you realized that you had a good thing, she wouldn't have anything to do with you.
now, if you really want her back. prove to her that you can be faithful to her and that she is the one you love. find someone with a truck that raises the bed up such as a dump truck or trailer. write a huge note on paper and attach it to the bed of the truck. when you pull up to her house, raise up the bed telling her how sorry you are and that you want her to know that you love her. hand her a dozen roses and ask her if she will go out with you again.
if that doesn't work, give her some space but you stay away from dating. call her in two weeks and tell her you've been miserable. tell her that you can't date anyone else because all you do is think of her.
good luck
2007-11-01 10:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by thedadof7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did you break up with her? Did that change, or do you just miss her? Don't keep your life in a holding pattern just because it is more comfortable. Sure being single can suck, but apparently so did being with her. So get out there and find a new girlfriend--the old one is a waste of time.
In the unlikely event that your breakup showed you that you really love her, I'm sorry. I don't believe that your hookup shows that she means nothing to you, it meant that you are trying to move on. Before trying to get back together, give it some serious thought--if this thing has already run it's course, let it go. If she's the love of your life and you want to marry her, tell her why that's so. But if you just miss her, move on.
2007-11-01 10:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said it your self, she begged you for two weeks and you wouldn't take her back. She came to realized that she meant so very little to you, as you found it so easy to turn your back and walk away from her with out a back ward glance.
Now that she has come to her senses after two weeks of being rejected after begging you, now you want her back. It sounds as though she has had enough, and she is moving on just as you did.
Do you really expect her to now come running back after all the begging that she did, and all of the rejection that she got trying to make your see that she'd made a mistake. She finally woke up and saw that you'd really moved on, so now she has moved on as well.
Except it as she has had to do, stay moved on with the girl that you found. Don't add any more insult to her injury, let her go on as you did. Games belong on the play ground and not in relationships.
2007-11-01 10:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is probably acting out of anger because you hurt her when you broke up with her. I went through the same situation with my ex. I was with him for 1 1/2 years but have known him for 6 years and i figured maybe if i break up with him then he will realize that he is going to lose a great girl and straigten up a bit but it back fired on me and a month later he was begging me to take him back but i told him it was to late i have moved on. It has been 2 years since we broke up and he calls all the time because he wants to still get back together. We have both had other relationships since the break up but both of our hearts lie with each other and now we are going to work things out. We are going to take baby steps. I know i was the one that broke up with him and it is a reverse situation from yours but same scenario. The only reason i didn't take him back was because i was so hurt at the fact that he chose going out and his friends over the person he loves and told me it would be better to take a break then realized he wanted me back. Your ex is probably very hurt and maybe if you open up to her and tell her why and how sorry you are she will start to consider it. Love is a very funny thing.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-11-01 10:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by spleefarella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that you "hooked up" with another girl so quickly hurt her. If you had just been out on a date or something non-physical, she could have been more receptive to the idea of you being with her again. But by having relations with someone so quickly, most likely made her doubt any feelings that you had proclaimed for her. Next time, just go out on a date or two, don't sleep with someone to get over the breakup and then expect the ex to welcome you back.
2007-11-01 10:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by yogurt777 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you were able to move on so quickly made her feel as if she meant nothing to you. She probably felt terrible know that you could go on and find another girl with out thinking about the relationship you guys had. That makes her pissed. I would say, wait it out for a bit, if she truly loves you, then with time, and with you contuning to tell her your feelings with out being too overbearing, then you guys will be back together in no time...
hope i helped
2007-11-01 10:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by kenson b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that she probably feels betrayed because of you hooking up with another woman. She was begging to get back with you and you weren't sure what you wanted. That is probably why you hooked up with someone. But then you realize that everything went wrong and you want to be back with your ex. You just need to explain to her that you were in a weird place in your life and you just needed some time to yourself. But now you realize that she is what you want in your life. Keep trying to talk to her and explain to her that you know you made a mistake but that is over now and all you want in life is to be with her. I think you just need to keep trying and explain that you know you made a mistake but all you want is her. I hope everything works out for you!!! Good luck!!!
2007-11-01 11:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by daughtryrocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋