I was spanked when I was young when I misbehaved, so were my friends and all of us have turned into law abiding citizens with good jobs and a good sense of right and wrong?
I'm not talking about a beating to the kids but a few spanks across the backside.
2007-11-01 02:57:45 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes my children will get spankings, and I am a firm believer in them, I got my butt busted when I was little ( and when i say busted I mean a little pat on the butt - let me tell you though, i thought it was the end of the world)
you don't have to beat your child to make them understand, most of the time when you spank a child it doesn't really hurt them, it hurts their feelings, and they are more scared than anything, they are wonderful actors and actresses and can exaggerate everything....but they will remeber it as the worst spanking in their life, LOL
I don't believe in leaving a mark on a child, that is abuse, but their little tushes are made tough and can handle alittle discipline.
**and it depends on what they have done as well, the "crime" has to fit the punishment...sometimes taking toys away, or time out can be sufficient, but if it is something that was really bad, it can take a spanking for a child the realize how wrong they were. it's a life lesson you are teaching them, so consider how well you want them to remember it.
2007-11-01 03:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by mrs smith 2 · 8⤊ 3⤋
CHildren need some kind of serious consequense when they misbehave. Spanking isn't the only option, but SOMETHING that works needs to be done. People today have NO idea how to parent. Just watch Nanny 911!!! People have lost control over their children!!
I have no problem with spanking. But parents should try to never do it when they (the parent) are angry. Even if that means sending the child to his room for a bit and THEN spanking him a bit later.. the child needs to know that the parent is in control of their own emotions.. That's the major difference between spanking and beating.
2007-11-01 03:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly P. Tofu, E.M.T. 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I believe that there are different levels of discipline that applies to a child's diff age levels. Spanking is part of it in their younger years primarily to get their attention or to keep bad behavior in line so long as it does not inflict harm or injury on the child. They easily come to understand that what they have just done is wrong when spanked. I also believe that it is important to couple spanking with a firm but loving talk with the child after the spanking to affirm the parents' love and concern for the child. The lessons learned and the child's understanding of the parents' love stays with him/her long after the smack wears out.
2007-11-01 04:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Marquez 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with a spanking. I would abuse my child but if she misbehaves and I tell her no 1 or 2 times and she doesn't listen then a tap on the leg will do. If something happened terrible, then they need to know it was wrong. And some kids just don't listen.
2007-11-01 04:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Every child is different. I have one nephew that gets spanked and he is the worst, and the other gets spanked very rarely because he doesn't need it. I think the biggest mistake parents make is consistency. If you say get down from there or you'll be in trouble don't wait till he does it five times and then explode with hitting, stop him after the first one and discipline him right there
2007-11-01 03:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes I was spanked also, and turned out just fine. These days children are so out of control because if a parent spanks their child the child will turn them in. It is outrageous!
2007-11-01 03:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by BB 4 · 11⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok to spank them. I got spanked when I was a kid and I turned out fine.... I think there is a difference between spanking and beating...
2007-11-01 03:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by mylittlejoe 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My 9 month old gets a smack on the leg in dangerous situations (trying to touch an outlet or a house plant) or if he's throwing a fit to get his way, (like in the middle of a diaper change or if he wants on the store floor to crawl around). Most of the time he knows that me saying NO! is enough, But a quick little smack on his thigh reminds him real fast.
I was spanked, so was everyone Ive ever known. The only people I know who hit other people, or are out of control are those who were beaten, but more so, kids who were only told no, and it was never acted on.
Theres a time and a place. But its certainly not when you're angry, or when the child is over tired or overwhelemed.
2007-11-01 03:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 8⤊ 2⤋
My mom spanked me a few times growing up and I actually preferred that to the YELLING she did! I turned out fine though. I think if the situation calls for it, a firm swat on the bottom is okay. I don't think I would full out spank my daughter. I also do not want to yell at her like my mom did, I think that affected me the most. So, when they get old enough I think time outs and other forms of punishment (i.e. taking things away like TV time, etc.) are more effective.
2007-11-01 03:02:17 · answer #9 · answered by jatay 5 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Nothing wrong with that... I was never spanked by my parents or anyone, but I do believe that a few spanks will do the job.
Now... if you go over board and actually hurt them.... then that is completely wrong, the idea is to get the kids to listen and keep them in line
2007-11-01 03:02:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 1⤋