I was recently led on by a girl, who flirted with me and exhibit nearly all of the behaviors associated with being interested in a guy. When talking to hear on one occasion, she said she had a boyfriend (I never asked about this at any time). In my mind she lied about having a boyfriend, or she has a boyfriend but also like to flirt with other guys (led them on, etc.) or she is genuinely interested in me but already has a boyfriend. None of these are very positive in my mind and are cause for me to stay away from her. Nonetheless, for future reference:
Which one of these explanations do you believe to be the most accurate? If you say none, Tell me your take on the matter.
My other question is why do I seem to have such bad luck with women, and would it be a good idea to just stay away from them and stay single?
I apologize for this question being so long. Thanks for any insight you can give me.
2007-11-01 02:45:43 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As I said before I'm not talking to her anymore regardless.
2007-11-01 03:13:20 · update #1
I had bad luck with women for the first 22 years of my life... well, you could say I still am, my first girlfriend and I broke up. I am working on a second gril, but I don't know for sure how that is going. Anyway to your questions...
The first girl I dated is one of those that flirts with everyone. It is truly annoying, and hard to put up with. If she says she has a boyfriend, she is probably telling you the truth. She probably does like you, but honestly it isn't worth the stress and pain. After you start dating, you think you can handle her flirting with everyone, she may not even mean to, but it is just how she is. Big hearted and nice to literally every one. If I were you I would steer clear of her. This is one of the few times I will actually say to stay away, she will probably end up just hurting you, even if you get into a relationship with her. Good luck, do what you think is right, it probably is.
Addition...
I had given up on trying to find a girl when I found the first one that I really clicked with. It was worth it, she helped to make me a much better man, I have more faith in myself, and have a much higher self worth because of her. Sorry for the edit, I had forgotten to tell you were I was going with the beginning of this reply. (ADD)
2007-11-01 02:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by stormdog3269 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't specify what you meant by flirting. I talk with men, listen to what they have to say, ask pointed questions, smile and laugh at their jokes - and I have a boyfriend. I'm not flirting with them; I'm just trying to get to know them. I want to be friends with them. I want to be the cool girlfriend who gets along with all the guys. In that sense, she could be completely serious about having a boyfriend.
If she's flirting with you by rubbing up against you, saying what she wants to do to you, asks you out and then doesn't show up ... that's a whole different can of worms. If she does have a boyfriend, she's nasty and you should stay away. If she lied about having a boyfriend, she's still nasty and you should still stay away.
Either way, I think she started to get your interest and knew it, and decided to cut that off - as in, she's not into you. Whether the boyfriend story is a lie or not, the bottom line is she doesn't like you in that way. (And depending on which of the two flirting scenarios fits, you'll know whether or not to continue speaking to her.)
If you have bad luck, look elsewhere. Have more confidence in yourself. Love will hit you when you least expect it, so stop looking for a while, pick up some fun hobbies, and make new friends - both male and female. One of them might introduce you to someone great.
2007-11-01 02:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off... there all sisters.... always keep that in mind...
Well...my advice, she's doing what women do, messing with your head man, they love that, and i know every girl reading this is like whatever..but its true, they love the games, just like we love to chase them, they loved to be chased and they love throwing up roadblocks.
Sounds like this girl is into you, but she has a boyfriend...so i guess you have two options...be the guy who tries to steal anothers girl...not really recommened...or wait it out..try and turn the tables a little bit...how.... not really sure, don't really know the full story.
I guess you just have to kind of sense it, you know what I mean. peace and good luck
2007-11-01 03:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by tiipotter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she likes you but it slipped about her boyfriend. I can not explain why you have bad luck with girls I don't know you personally to say that, but I don't think you should just stay single. Relax and take it ease just be yourself and date when the right one comes along you will know it.
2007-11-01 02:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um jsut because a girl flirts with you, doesnt mean anything.
She could be flirty.
I am more shy around guys aqnd don't flirt as much.
Find another girl. I sure hope shes not the only one.
Plus why would you want to date her, and know she flirts with people?
2007-11-01 02:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by baby_rost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋