we've been chatting online && talking on the phone for a few months now. he thinks i'm 18 and we plan on meeting in real life and i don't know what to do. :( i love him sooo much and i don't wanna blow it with him. what should i do?!? i'm NOT telling my parents. =[[[
2007-11-01 01:55:59 · 69 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you'll blow it with him, when he finds out that you've been lying to him, and when he realizes that if he tries anything with you, he could go to jail. Oh yeah and good job not telling your parents, seriously, if he rapes or does something stupid to you, they will support you all the way. Besides, love based on lies is way more fun. Thanks for the points.
2007-11-01 02:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Chatting online is actually helpful in our life especially when we feel alone and nothing much important to do. We learned alot of things through here, know far places, other tradition, learn experiences, met other people off course, new friends, other fall inlove... and thats what happened to you. You fell to someone you hardly knew personally.
Im not against on anything, but you're asking for an answer right?
As you've mentioned here, you are only 15 years old. I wonder if your parents knew you've got an account here on yahoo and how you acquire one, parental consent maybe?. Now, at your age the only use of internet is to help you with your study.
For now, better tell him your real age.
2007-11-01 02:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 and my wife is 19, turning 20 in 6 days. I met her online, but your age difference is really great, not to mention that you've been lying to him about your age. I know for a fact that relationships started with lies never last because after the truth is found out, and the truth will be found out eventually, that one cannot trust the other. Not to mention all the freaks that are out there. Honestly, do you ever watch dateline nbc? It would be smart to break it off now, not to get anymore involved than you are. And if you both really do love each other and you are genuine then love will find a way, but don't force it. I lived in South Carolina, my wife in Oklahoma. Love found it's way with us, but you're young and there's a bunch of hot guys out there waiting on you. Please don't do anything you would regret.
2007-11-01 02:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by chadb4184 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say you love him, I don't believe that... you haven't met him. The same way you lied about your age, he could be doing the same thing. Meeting someone online is extremely dangerous and I would not do it if I were you. Chances are he is a creep who may have intentions to do very bad things to you. be careful and tell your parents. If he is sooo great why doesn't he have a girlfriend or wife? I'm sure you can meet someone your own age or slightly older but 28 is just creepy.
2007-11-01 02:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ben M 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Most of us have had the experience of having our emotions run away with us and blinding us to the cold hard facts, but here they are:
It is ILLEGAL for him to have a male / female relationship with you and he could go to jail.
Most 28 year old men would not be seeking a relationship with an 18 year old - red flag.
If / when you tell him you are 15 he should end communication with you, if he doesn't MAJOR red flag. You need to end it.
It will be difficult for you to end this on line affair but if you don't I can guarantee you are in for a world or hurt - please don't put yourself through that.
What if you are both 'fudging' in your ages? What if he is really 35? You have no way of knowing.
PS Check out this article & watch the videos at the bottom:
http://insidedateline.msnbc.msn.com/archive/category/1035.aspx
2007-11-01 02:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be very care. I'd say let it go. It's probably just the hormones raging. For Pete's sake u are only 15! U are going to put him in a lot of trouble by not telling him your age. If u looooove him as u think u do, then why hide stuff from him? Why are u planning to put him in jail? Aren't u goin to loose him anyway if the authorities find out? It;s your call, but I'd rather u don't make headlines the wrong way.
Tell your parents or someone. You don't want the cops to issues amber alert because of you!
Snap out of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-01 02:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Ayo A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will be brutally honest. This "28" year old man (if he is even 28) is not looking for romance. He is looking for some action. Be careful! Please do some research before you decide on doing anything else. Unfortunately, there are have been numerous reported and unreported instances of disappearances, murders, sexual assault of many young girls AND boy's who have been in similar circumstances. Please be smart about this. Tell your parents or a responsible older adult. If you decide not to heed anyone's advice and decide to follow through with this meeting, I suggest not doing this alone but taking two or three other trustworthy friends to this meeting.
2007-11-01 02:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please do not meet this man. You are too young and its too easy to be persuaded online that this man loves you. I have heard so many horror stories about men online. There is a woman who was in my area who met a man online, they never heard from her again. Its so dangerous. Women of all ages can get caught up with men online and think it is real. I would honestly say 90% of them are horribly disappointed. You are too young. Please you have your whole life. I know you feel its real but hes almost twice your age. That man has been around the bend and he could be arrested for rape. You do not need to be in a mess. After he sleeps with you he could dump you like a hot potato and you could end up making such a horrible mess out of your life. Listen to me. I got pregnant at 18 I married but if I had to do it over I and I have said these things to my daughters, do not rush love. Take your time. Educate yourself. Do not put all your efforts in men before your time. Worry about you. Go to school, travel explore, hang out with your friends. Trust me your whole life is ahead of you. Do not mess it up with a man who could literally be your father. And next time tell the truth. This man could be placed in prison and its all your fault for being dishonest. You do NOT know this man, it is way too easy to lie and be anyone you want on here. Take your time. Use your head. You sound mature enough to realise you are making a booboo now also realise you are too young and its a huge mistake. Talk to an adult. Please tell someone. If something happens to you no one will know. The woman that disappeared near me was talking to the man for SIX MONTHS and she never came home. Please dont.
2007-11-01 02:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
O my gosh I saw you on tv. Lifetime movie to be specific. Lying girl think she is in love with an older guy just cause she thinks he understands her and she wants to meet him and not tell her parents.
Anyways in the lifetime movie, the guy kipnapped her and the little girl wanted her mom and he said no. Poor mom didn't know what was going on and was so worried.
Do you want to do this to your parents, even if you do plan on meeting the guy tell our friends or let people know and you know he is tries anything with you that he can say you said you are 18 yrs old so don't make the guy get in trouble for you because you are lying.
I hope you get this.
2007-11-01 02:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Y_aurora 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are 15 He is 28! You do not love him you are being played by him. You need to tell him your real age. If he still insists on meeting tell your parents and report this person to the police. If he still insists on meeting after you tell him you are 15 he only wants one thing. To molest you and possibly worse. You are infatuated with a predator who sees you as prey.
2007-11-01 02:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by CHRISTOPHER R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you r being really stupid, the first thing u did wrong was try to hook up with a guy on the internet. second, u told him u were 18 when u r 15. third, u didnt tell ur parents tht he is 28, and he wants to meet u. and 4th, you said tht u would meet him.
u r a dumb ***!
2007-11-01 03:25:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋