So I asked a question about abortion and got a bunch of answers that really didnt even address my point but there was one moron in particular that stuck out.
She stated that men had absolutely no say in the desicion to get an abortion or not and that all men should just butt out. Now I understand the courts perspective on this but are there women out there so shallow that they wouldnt even talk to or discuss it with their partner? I mean c'mon I am all for a womans right to choose but... shouldnt the other half at least be included in the debates?
2007-11-01 00:47:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Some women may not include the man who got them pregnant but then again that may depend a lot on the circumstances surrounding a pregnancy; for example, a pregnancy from a one night stand likely wouldn't have the male involved in the decision. I would say the majority of women would include their significant other in the decision.
2007-11-01 01:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by genaddt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do think men should have a say but ultimately it is up to the woman. The mother is the one who has to live with either decision for the rest of her life. It is possible for a man to easily walk away from either outcome, be it abortion or a baby.
Yes, a man can regret an abortion, but it's not the same as when the woman does. On the other hand, it's not fair for a man to request that a woman has an abortion for the same reasons. Having an abortion does not always "fix" everything (or anything).
I had an abortion 2 months ago because my boyfriend wanted me to. Part of my reasoning at the time was I was the one who missed my pills, so why should I make him have a kid when he doesn't even want it? I was too scared and cowardly to stand up for my baby and I regret having an abortion more than you can ever imagine.
2007-11-04 02:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legality has nothing to do with what people "should" do. Legality deals with rights.
Ultimately, you'd hope that every relationship was one in which the couple could discuss it together (and one in which the pregnant woman is not the victim of molestation or rape)
But the fact is that this does not always occur, and even when it does, it doesn't make a woman's body any less HERS.
If a man has any say in the decision, it is because the embryo possesses half his DNA, which of course means that the woman has at least that much say as well. However, the woman owns her body and her partner does not. Period.
2007-11-01 19:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes the other half should be included in the debates. But then again the woman who doesn't want to have the child is forced to carry it and go through birth not the man.
Unfortunately it should be a decision made before sex but isn't. Then there wouldn't be a need for abortion if everyone were using protection.
2007-11-01 08:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Girly Girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, let me state that I'm pro-life. But I agree, and I actually think pro-choice women have a double standard. On one hand, they say it's "their body, their right to do what they want with it". So they feel they don't even have to tell the father about having an abortion; they can totally disregard the him.
But, if they choose to keep the baby, again they don't have to talk to the father, but of course they'll be the first to run after him for child support -- which of course, he should be supporting. But they only want the father in the picture if it suits their purpose.
2007-11-01 09:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by kaz716 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think men should have a say when it is their child/fetus; but otherwise, I'm not sure. It does seem somehow screwed up to me that women can decide whether they want an abortion or not, but the guy is just stuck with whatever their decision is. What if he didn't want to be a father? Too bad, you get 18 years of child support. Or, what if he was willing to raise the child himself? (And the birth control issue is moot by that point for both of them.)
2007-11-01 08:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course the man should be included. She didn't get pregnant by herself. It's her final decision, but, damn... if you're not even going to discuss it with your partner, why the hell do you even have a partner???? To me, that's just a F*ck buddy and you should have been more responsible before you had sex. Yep, that answerer is a moron... and will be a lonely moron if she keeps that kind of attitude. What honest man is going to want a woman who doesn't include him in Everything in her life? I don't know of one.
2007-11-01 08:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by River 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think men should have a say in the issue of abortion. I'm a chick, but if I was a guy and my wife or gf aborted my child without telling me, I'd be livid. If you think of that baby as property that someone else makes decisions for, then the man who contributed half the dna to make it should have as much "ownership" as the mother.
2007-11-01 07:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lamborama 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dear jamus: I read your next question and as far as I see people are answering your question here. Now as my answer to this question:
Generally speaking I am not for abortions but there are some situations and I respect that. But: Yes I think women should talk to the father, [in most cases]. It is the mother's body but it is also both the mother and father's baby.
2007-11-01 08:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by just because 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off let me say I do not agree with abortion.
That said (and I have been in this situation) I think the woman owes her partner at least the respect to ask his opinion .She has the ultimate decision.
In my case my GF asked me ,I explained my feelings and she decided to go ahead. Even though I disagreed I supported her choice.
I think I would have been bitter if she did not tell me and later I found out.
2007-11-01 08:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by an-noy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋