gay paranoia?

Question

if i am 26 now, never had a girlfriend because of a severe dermatitis and obesity problem - does this make me gay?
i have fixed my obesity problem by indulging in drugs (bad i know). But it is only recently i have fixed my dermatitis issues - because i really need to get myself a girlfriend. I need my confidence - bad skin and smelly foot is a turn off i know.
but what prompted me to snap out of it and fix my issues, is the fact my friends and family think i am gay - given i am 26 and never had a girlfriend.
I go to brothels when i can afford it ... it keeps me sane. i masturbate frequently. my problem is i become very shy and self-conscious around women i find attractive. in close contact i get very aroused too - especially when theres sex in the air.
i am pretty sure im not gay, i can get erections thinking of curvature on women. i love women.
but its my friends/family which are causing me to stress, could i be living a delusion?

why havent i ever bothered to fix my dermatitis and weight issues, why hasnt the sexual desire for women ever forced me to do it?

i have always thought i would never overcome my dermatitis and weight issues when i was in my teens.

but now that i am so old, people think im gay, i can all of a sudden fix those issues?

if i was gay, then why would women turn me on? and why would guys not do anything? why am i confident around guys and not women?

i think i have just been an idiot, been too lazy to fix my problems - filled the void with drugs (marijuana + ecstasy) and every-day friends ...

i live by myself now and finally miss the female company - because i have no friends around (who were all guys).

i dont know i guess its fair for them to think im gay i suppose. but i am pretty certain im not.

can someone add to this, for the sake of my sanity?

Answer 1

I think you are just introverted and self-conscious. Maybe these problems you have named aren't really as bad as you perceive them to be and the only reason you have never had a girlfriend is because you are too self-conscious to approach girls. Everyone has things that they don't like about themselves, and often these issues that seem so horrible aren't even noticed by others or at least not to the degree you suspect they are.

Girls that are hyper-critical of appearances are crap girls anyway.

I am almost positive that if you were gay that you would know it, but being straight, I can't be sure :) Seriously, I wouldn't worry about it either way. Just do what you have to do to improve your own self-image and you will find someone.

Answer 2

You're not gay.

If you were attracted to other men, or having sex with other men, then you'd be gay.

If you don't have a girlfriend, that makes you SINGLE, not gay.

If your friends and family think you are gay, tell them flat out that you are NOT.

You know that you are attracted to women. You know that you find women beatiful and you love to be around them. You know that you want a girlfriend.

Don't let someone else try to tell you what YOU want. You're not gay, you just haven't met the right girl yet.

I'm married, I'm overweight, Yes, my feet stink, yes, I have bad skin. But my wife still loves me. She's not going to leave me just because my feet stink!!

But i didn't get married until my mid-30's. So don't beat yourself up, you have plenty of time to find a girlfriend.

BY THE WAY, STOP USING DRUGS TO FILL THE VOID!!!

Having a drug habit and visiting brothels are both bigger turn-offs to women than a few extra pounds or stinky feet.

Clean your life up, and good things will come to you.

Answer 3

You're not gay. You're a healthy, heterosexual male.

You are just inexperienced with girls and, therefore, a bit self-conscious.

You have to jump in there and make contact with one girl. Invite someone to coffee. Let her do the talking. People love to talk about themselves - lol - so you don't have to worry much about conversation. Pop up with a question every now and then.

After you do this once, your confidence will grow, and you'll feel comfortable around girls. Give it a try.

Answer 4

You're not living a delusion. You are self conscious to the point that it interferes with pursuing and attracting a girlfriend. Your family and friends, whom you probably don't act self-consciously around, do not understand that and assume your lack of girlfriend must be due to you not being attracted to them.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

you are so not gay...but even if you were it's nothing to ridicule yourself over.Gay people rock and no I'm not gay but almost every friend I have is(donna and sue,paige and brigit,donnie ray and bob) and they are ALL good,decent,perfectly normal people they just dont have sex like I do...so.But anyway you just need to gain some confidence in yourself and you have to put yourself out there-it's not gonna be perfect every time but one time it will be and that will be when it's all worth it.

Answer 7

dude, don't worry bout women, some men will never find love and thats the end to it. Hanging out wiht friends is much more important then searching for something thats not there. Don't be depressed over not finding love. Enjoy whats out there for you (friends).

Answer 8

well dun worry, i had tht problem too. its not to say u r gay but u jz sorry to say, not good in social skills when it comes to gals. u hv low confidence n its time to socialize with gals 1st b4 having any GF. understand gals 1st thts the most important 1 k.

Answer 9

You're 26, an adult. Tell your family to go screw.

Love Jack

Answer 10

You are not gay, your own bodily responses tell you that, so don't listen to what anyone else says.