There is this girl that won't leave me alone. She keeps hitting on me and It's getting really annoying. And kinda ceepy. She is giving me letters and telling me how we are gonna be together and that she is planning things. I have told her several times to back off, but she just comes on stronger. I don't have a clue anymore.
2007-10-31 23:47:26 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
seems like you've already been polite to her.. time to get mean... believe me when i say... you can call most girls anything and it won't usually make a lasting impression except for C*nt... for some reason 90% of women and NEVER forgive you for calling her that.. even when me and my sister have our little name callings in jest once in awhile we won't use it. Then point out her ever little flaw in a huge public display to humiliate her.
Or, like one guy said.. play her little game too... fine out every little bit of information you can on her and become stalker like... ask her to marry you, tell her you two will elope... pick her up that night drive out to Las Vegas go to a chapel... go "get something rfrom the car" and drive home and leave her stranded there lol... (that'd only work if you lived close to las vegas... and weren't afriad of getting kidnapping charges)
Or... just have sex with her and be REALLY REALLY bad at it.. lol. drooly kisses finger the inside of her thigh instead of where you should dont move at all durring sex and when you finish scream out HAPPY BIRTHDAY GRANDMA!!! or Yes mommy i'll be a good boy from now on!! I promise to do my homework oh yes mommy yes!!! that'll creep any woman out lol
2007-11-01 00:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Insomniac Tryin to Help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is most definitely a bad case of 'Bunny Boiler' you've got there! Refuse to speak to her, don't be nice and feel sorry for her if that's what you're doing at the moment. You've warned her already. Don't take the letters, or if she insists, just rip them up in front of her unopened. If she sends them to your house, post them 'return to sender'. Just totally blank her and hopefully she will get the message. Next step is a court order if she is a total freak!
It kind of reminds me of a friend though who is schitzophrenic. She obsessed about someone thinking she was her best friend, and also kept sending her letters and ringing her all the time. The more that this other woman told her to leave her alone, the more my friend kept saying "aw, she's really lonely, when she tells me to go away it really means she wants me to keep calling her, but she feels embarrassed to ask me". I'm not saying this girl is mentally ill, but it needs to be nipped in the bud asap.
2007-11-01 06:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by QueenBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate you seem like your in a tough situation. You have a stalker on your hands. She probably even has these crazy shrines and pictures about you in her room and all. Pushing that aside you need to get drastic with this girl if she's cramping your style.
1. You can do alot of things and that will only just get her even more eager. I would start off completely ignoring her in every way.
2. Spread a nasty rumour about her
3. Say that if she keeps this up that you will totally and utterly never talk to her again.
4. Get another girl that you know to pretend that you and her are together and make that crazy stalker see you and your pretend girl holding hands or you know something that couples do.
Hope that helps some
2007-11-01 07:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by Johny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell the harasser what they have done--name the behavior. Be specific, straightforward, and
blunt.
Demand that the harassment stop.
Don't make excuses for the harasser--hold them accountable. Do not pretend nothing has
happened.
Make it clear that everyone has the right to be free from sexual harassment. Objecting to
harassment is a matter of principle.
Stand your ground and stick to your own agenda. Don't respond to the harasser's excuses or
diversionary tactics. Do not allow yourself to be manipulated by others into backing down.
Remember, the harasser's behavior is the issue--not your behavior.
Reinforce your statements with strong, self-respecting body language: eye contact, head up,
shoulders back, a strong, serious stance. Don't smile. Timid, submissive body language will
undermine your message. If the harassment continues, repeat yourself if you have to.
Respond at the appropriate level. If the harassment was physical, combine your verbal response
with a physical one (i.e. grasp their arm firmly while saying "No!")
Talk about the harassment to others. Staying silent protects harassers.
2007-11-01 07:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your question quite simple accually if no-one else can answer it. If you have a boyfriend this should be the right thing to do. So, for starters? Let her but don't force yourself to let her so i would suggest that you should be around your friends and family alot and invite her over so that she is trying to get that close to you, you should then spray it out really loud as you can so everybody gets your attention and then say what you have to say. Then that way evryone's looking at her funny so they'll feel sorry for you and at the same time break down in sorrow but don't cry your heart out.
2007-11-01 07:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer for this situation. It depends on if you are willing to publicly humiliate this girl to get her off your back. When someone has strong feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way, somebody is going to get hurt. If you feel you can't live with her constant fawning, and you have no qualms about hurting her feelings, let her know she is annoying in a very public way. She'd hate you but she probably leave you alone for fear of more humiliation. Good Luck.
2007-11-01 06:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
''Indifference is the strongest force in the Universe, it makes everything it touches meaningless, Love and Hate don't stay a chance against it'' (The Snow Queen)..
There's nothing worst than indifference, ignore her, don't say or do anything, if she talks to you don't listen and be like 'hun, what? I wasn't listening sorry'', don't open her lettres, don't look at her in the eyes, yawn right in front of her, you get the picture......
2007-11-01 06:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Josephine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is that unless you are ruthlessly mean to a girl some girls just dont get the hint. let her know that if she dont back off you are going to get a restaining order on her.. be mean and brutal.. sometime that is the only way. Just make sure that you dont cross the line. good luck with that stalker!
2007-11-01 06:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a girl friend.
Or a girl pal to escort you everywhere you go.
Let your stalker have sleepless nights.
Go out with more female friends or relatives.
Some girls might get pretty workup and result in a burnout.
Jealousy can be very tiring.
2007-11-01 06:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by PearlSea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is this happening?
Work? Complain to HR or your boss.
School? Avoid her, ignore her, rip up letters in front of her without reading them, post them up on a bulletin board for all to see.
2007-11-01 06:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋