I wrote "I thought I would give what I would have spent on flowers do something to make you smile"
This was 3 weeks ago and she has not said thank you.
She lives in my neighborhood and I have seen her since.
I personally gave her the card so I know she got it. Should I say something or let it go?
2007-10-31 22:43:58 · 10 answers · asked by Liz 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Please just let it go. I'm sure you gave the money out of the goodness of your heart. Don't ruin it by bringing it up to your friend. She may still be having a really hard time coping with her loss.
2007-11-01 06:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by chase5764 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go, at least for now. I'm sure your friend is grieving a great deal over her grandma passing away. It probably just hasn't occurred to her to say thank you for your gift as she's in too much pain. Perhaps when the pain has begun to lessen, she'll remember and thank you for your gift. Remember, these are not normal "gift-giving" circumstances, perhaps a donation to any particular charity the deceased or their family holds dear would have been a better idea. That way you get some kind of recognition, at least from the charity.
Having mourned too many people in my own life, I know first hand that it doesn't get any easier...cut your friend some slack.
2007-11-01 05:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some people dont read the cards write away. I've heard a custom where some wait until the anniversary of the death,
Also its customary to send out thank you note 2 months after a honeymoon. Maybe funerals have similair guidlines.
Is it really that important to you? "Look at me, thank me, look at how thoughtful i am"
you just ruined the thoughtfulnes of something when a person is going through a bad time.
On her behalf, "THANK YOU"
2007-11-01 11:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by zorro1701e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. You never know what goes on it someone's head. But maybe next time, donate that money to a charity in honor of the deceased. Many charities will give a letter of thanks that you can put in with the card.
2007-11-01 05:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you give your friend something to make her smile instead of Money?
Anyone can give money but it takes a bit of an effort to give a present......
After someone dies you need people around to support you...
So why don't you go and spend time with your friend since she lives in the neighborhood.....
2007-11-01 05:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by hahahippy 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Let it go. Giving a gift with no expectation of return is wonderful.
I agree with previous answerers who say that she might be too distraught to write a thank-you note. That doesn't mean she isn't grateful.
2007-11-01 19:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You expressed your personality and thoughts when you did what you did. She has a different personality and way of thinking to you. It would have been nice to get a Thank You, but it was your decision to give it, and did you give it with strings attached. So, ouch, but dont make a thing of it.
2007-11-01 05:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by pete the pirate 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
personally i don'think that theres any excuse for bad manners grief is one thing but part of being an adult is doing things thru the pain and heartache i too have lost alot of people my brother 1 month ago but to not even acknowledge your kindness is rude sorry
2007-11-01 09:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by gidget 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just let it go. Maybe she is having a hard time dealing with the death.
2007-11-01 05:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by misscapula 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes having a hard time, let it go.
2007-11-01 06:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by arabian_kisses08 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋