How did you know that the one you chose was "the" dress?
Has anyone NOT had any "omg this is THE dress I'm going to be married in" feelings?
I've tried on dresses, and have really liked them, but none scream "MINE". Does it mean that it is not THE dress for me?
My wedding day is in June 2008, and I'm feeling rushed to find a dress. Everywhere I've read, you need to get it more than six months out, and I've got less than 8 months!!!
What if I can't find a dress that screams "MINE"? Did your dress scream "MINE"?
**deep breath** I'm fine, really.
**twitch**
2007-10-31 22:08:28 · 11 answers · asked by Terri 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Amzy... haha thanks. I do not intend on being a bridezilla. I've mentioned to my bridesmaids and to my parents and fiance that if I ever act like a bridezilla to hit me over the head with a rock!
2007-10-31 22:16:13 · update #1
Deenie... LOL... sorry!
2007-10-31 22:17:54 · update #2
Madame, thanks! I was freaking a little because some places say you should get it a full year in advance! I think that is only if it needs to be special ordered and if you plan on doing a lot of alterations (which I want to do as few as possible).
2007-10-31 22:26:21 · update #3
Olivia... LOL! Thanks!
Thanks all for the lighter side of things :)
2007-10-31 23:24:05 · update #4
I think the whole wedding dress thing has gotten completely out of hand! Everyone always talks about the dress being "the one," and it's absurd. You're not marrying the dress, you're getting married IN the dress. As long as the groom is "the one," the dress can be any dress that makes you feel pretty. I got the "I'm really getting married!" feeling in every dress I tried on. Wearing a white poofy dress with a veil does that to you - it's certainly not going to give you the "I'm going to the supermarket" feeling.
Brides need to stop putting so much pressure on themselves to find the "perfect" dress. You're wearing it for less than a day - focus on being sure you found the perfect groom - everything else is just details.
2007-11-01 02:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
OK, stop twitching. Do you look at your husband-to-be, and scream, "MINE!" ? If you do, that's good enough.
Choose a dress that looks good on you and makes you feel confident. I really think you still have time. If worst comes to worst, you can look up some patterns and have your dress made by a tailor. I went to Thailand and had my wedding dress made (kind of a mistake, because while it looked good on paper, I hadn't tried on any dresses, so it looked so-so on me. Then again, I've got a so-so body!). I think it was only like 500 bucks for silk and a really well-made dress. And they had it ready in like a week.
So, if you know what looks good on you, and what you want, take a pattern, fly to Thailand, and get it done. You can have a nice break while you're at it!!
I don't know why you have to get the dress so early, though. The body can change so much in 8 months . . . . But, check with your favorite dress-stores about the real deadlines.
And relax. Even though I wasn't totally in love with my dress, my pics came out pretty good, and my marriage is still going after 13 years.
2007-10-31 22:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by Madame M 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, personally I think a screaming dress might be a little distracting when you're trying to get married =P
Seriously though, if you can't find one you absolutely love have one custom made. Custom dresses will cost you about as much as a nice off the rack dress, so there's really no reason not to.
Thats what I'm doing, because the dress of my dreams is completely impractical at all (by which I means it will be held up mainly by double-sticky fashion tape), but I want it, and I have to have it, so I'm getting it.
Call around and meet with some seamstresses in your area to see if they can help you out.
Best of luck!
2007-10-31 23:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
haha, I like the twitch. Okay, first of all you still have time, no worries. Second, you will find a dress, it will just take some hunting. I had my heart set on a dress, I thought it was the best one in the world. When I went to try it on, I hated it. I was so upset because I thought that was the one that I wanted. I started just trying on all types of dress and then found the perfect one for me. Don't give up hun, you will find it!
2007-11-01 02:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by vaya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was getting really frustrated because I could not find The One. I did not like ANYTHINg.
Then I picked up one dress on a whim, totally didn't think it would look good and as soon as I saw myself in the mirror, I just KNEW.
Keep searching and do nto settle for less.
Sometimes the dress you least expect you will like is The One.
Seeing a dress in a picture is one thing but trying it on can sometimes be something very different.
2007-11-01 02:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tried on tons of dresses before I found mine. Here is a tip. After going shopping with my mom and maid of honor I decided to go it alone. They were directing me to things I didn't really care for and steering me away from what I liked. It wasn't intentional but i knew they liked the dresses way more than I did.
So go shopping alone. Try on a bunch of dresses and see if you find anything. That is what I did and I found my dress. I did take them back after I found it just to make sure. They agreed it was beautiful.
Also, try on all styles and fabrics. Not just ones you think you like/don't like. Go in with an open mind and try on lace, and satin, and poofy, and strapless, and halter, and sheath, etc. Good Luck.
2007-11-01 12:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by JM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't find what I wanted in bridal shops either, nothing was "me". So I stopped looking at dresses and found a dressmaker to make me exactly what I wanted. You must have some ideas about what you like and do not like, how about sitting down with a dressmaker and having her make you the perfect, bespoke dress that screams "ME!"
2007-11-01 00:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-23 05:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh oh. it's okay. Really. I found a dress on my first try but that doesn't happen for everyone. Keep looking and it will find you just do your hubby to be and your family a favour and don't become a dreaded bridezilla. You still have time!
2007-10-31 22:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by Amzy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why not design your dress and have it made just for you? I am designing my own dress and will have a seamstress carry out my vision. Don't freak out, you'll be fine. you've got time and believe me, you'll find your dress.
2007-11-01 17:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Pretty Woman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋