Here is the summary of what has happened between me and this girl. She used to be my friend’s girl friend for almost 4 years. How ever they broke up since my friend did not have an intention to marry this girl and the girl wanted to settle down believing that my friend had enough time to know her and decide. (I am not sure why since she has a very nice character and she is very pretty).
After they broke up they continued to be very good regular friends and they still are.
Recently, she moved to the city where I live and my friend asked me to make sure that she is not lonely here. It also worth mentioning that I knew this girl since 4 years ago and we never really have any interaction till recently. Following my friends request I contacted this girl and we hanged out couple of times since one month ago. She calls me about 2 times a week and we talk about regular staff. Recently I think I started developing feeling for her because I get annoyed of why she is not calling me more often or why she some times seems too cold (I never told these things to her because we supposed to be regular friends and this is normal for regular friends). (Although I am doing the same thing to her because I think both of us from past experiences learned how to control our feelings and it is hard to know what is going on in her or my mind). Now my question from you is
1- Do you generally recommend such a relationship or you think I better move on before anything happens between us?
2- When I remember things my friend has done for her I always think it is very hard to impress this girl (although she really appreciates my friend’s efforts and still I believe she likes him very much)
3- I am not even sure if I can get over the fact that she has been my friends girl friend for such a long time am I being narrow minded or most of guys are like that? Even she is telling me about her other dates after my friend. On one hand I like her truthfulness on the other hand I tell to my self that she already dated a lot of people and she gathered a lot of experience (it is good for her but not sure if it is good for me too)
4- what do u think are we doing now? Are we dating or is it called hang out?
2007-10-31 21:56:14 · 13 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you should worry about what it is called. It sounds as though you are falling in love, and the important thing now is to establish how she feels. Best way to do this is spend quality time with her, talking and listening to her.
If she is not in love with you - no problem (except a broken heart for you - sorry) but if she is attracted to you, then you will have to think about what you will say to your friend. Don't forget - he rejected her, would not marry her, so he cannot complain too much ! Maybe when he asked you to keep an eye on her, this is what he wanted any way !
2007-10-31 22:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Form what you have said, I think she sees you as a friend only I'm afraid. if you want to test the waters, but risk losing her as a friend, you should make a move (tell her how you feel, or ask her out on a "date", try to hold her hand, that sort of thing.)
Sooo, you have 2 choices, accept her as a friend only, or make a move. Otherwise the whole situation will drive you nuts !
2007-10-31 22:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by Helene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hanging out and being friends, but if you want more than you need to open your mouth and tell her. If you are going to be jealous of the other people she has been with, that will cause a problem. You have to be realistic about her life before you. If you can't get past these feelings, then you will only cause more problems for you, and it will never work out.
2007-10-31 22:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whew!
You think about this girl a lot and I think you should forget about your friend right now and think about that girl. I can almost guarantee you that your friend would do the same in your shoes. In other words, you don't forget each other but you each think about the girl.
Just be cool. As time goes on the truth of your situation will become obvious. Don't question things too much.
2007-10-31 22:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Temple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she was interested in you .then things would have already happened by now just keep the friend ship and go hunting for miss right if not you are going to be the x friend plus it will cause hard feelings for you and your buddy that she was dating and you will be the bad guy ..move on brother!
2007-10-31 22:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u say that she is of good charactor and she never crossed her limits,then go ahead and share ur feelings with her,UR friend is a past,make up ur mind and propose her or try to find her feelings toward u,if it is positive, GO AHEAD and marry her and b HAPPY in ur life, BEST OF LUCK.
2007-10-31 22:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by prahlad d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your workin on this means you have feeling for her-your not dating but the past is the past. Stop working on it and just enjoy her and see what happens or let it go-don't think so much.
2007-10-31 22:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by ARTmom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I think she probably just sees you as a friend and is grateful for your help in getting her settled into a new town.... she could be very hard to please (if your friend found it difficult to impress her).......I think you guys are just hanging out.
I guess you could always ask her.....but then that could make/break the friendship....good luck
2007-10-31 22:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by SHELLEY BELLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live it out mate. If it clicks, then one day you both will smile about this blog otherwise you will smile alone.
See just ask her straight. Girls like it when you ask them out straight instead of guessing. Ask her and if she says no thank you, forget it. there are other girls in the world.
2007-10-31 22:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to get out of her. I think you feel too sypathized for her truthfulness. But that is not to be believed. Start thinking fresh and hang on for fresh ones and not for the odd ones.
2007-10-31 22:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by JANARVIHARAN 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋