I'm looking for answers only from women who have had their "to be" go with them to pick out their wedding dress, or at least let them see pictures of you in a wedding dress.
I'm just curious. I showed my fiance several dresses I really liked, I didn't try them on, I just let him look at them on the hanger. How many women have done this?
I'm also thinking of trying on dresses and getting a picture of them on me. Then showing my fiance the pictures and seeing which style/length/etc he likes, then picking one out (not telling him which one) so it'll be a little bit of a surprise.
2007-10-31 21:13:19 · 11 answers · asked by Terri 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't care about "tradition" or "bad luck". He's not going to see me IN it unless its in pictures with many other dresses that I have tried on.
2007-10-31 21:45:22 · update #1
Thanks to you both. My fiance and I have been looking at dresses (without me in them) but the models are like size 2 (I'm far far bigger than that) so its hard to picture me in certain dresses, and I'd like to take a pic of me in the dress so I can ponder about it instead of getting caught up in the hype of trying on dresses and the salespeople trying to get me to buy it.
He's already given me great ideas on what he likes and does not like and they are pretty much spot on with me (I love this man!).
2007-10-31 21:58:37 · update #2
I did this exact thing! There are so many options out there it's hard to make that "ultimate" important decision. I found a few I liked and had pictures of me wearing them but just couldn't decide. So I showed them to the person I ultimately wanted to impress (my fiance) and got his feedback.
Luck won't keep you married, dedication, love and commitment will. It's a big decision and if you want him involved, go for it!
One thing though, don't tell ppl you know if you do this. People tend to open their mouths even when they are not asked their opinion and it's probably going to be less than supportive.
Congrats and good luck!!
2007-11-01 12:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by iheartbayley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend told me he does not want to see me in the dress until the wedding. He doesn't even want to know he wants to be surprised. lol! So That's what I'm going to do. Hopefully when he see's me he won't pass out or sob really bad. I think it's nice that we still keep a tradition like that so it will be even a more special day for two people. It just depends on the two of you if he doesn't mind then go right ahead and let him see the dress on you.
2007-11-01 03:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Before I went shopping, I showed my fiance pictures of dresses I liked and didn't like so that I could get his input. I want to wear something that makes me feel fabulous, but I also think it's important for him to think that the dress is beautiful. He didn't go shopping with me, but I did show him a photo of me wearing the dress (my friend took the picture with my phone.) And frankly, my fiance has Style!
I'll also go with him when he's ready to shop for a formal shirt and tie to go with his suit.
I think it's a good idea for you to each get the other's input.
2007-11-01 04:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by SE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on people!!!! I did everything by the book the first time around and the marriage still failed!!! This time my future " to be" went with me and helped me pick out a dress that we both thought looked best!!!! I think it is perfectly fine! Good luck
2007-11-01 00:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by daniegirl917 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I told my fiancee that I don't want him to go with me when I try on dress but he saw all the dress I had picked out in the book and we even went to the store together to check a few of them out in person. I'm not in to the bad luck thing either but I don't want my fiancee to see me because when I walk down that aisle I want it to be a surprise which one I picked out and want him to be like wow she is so beautiful to me and hopefully shed a tear. That to me is priceless.
2007-11-01 02:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i'm rather sorry to hearken to approximately your chum. i assume provided that there will be no reception, DJ, and so on and so on, you do no longer could be as strict with a number of those "unstated regulations" and "traditions" of the marriage... So i could in all danger go forward and throw that bachelorette social gathering. Even ff the marriage gets postponed for yet another year, you have already fulfilled your accountability, and that i doubt you would be envisioned to throw a 2nd bachelorette social gathering besides ;) That reported, i'm a form of screw-the-custom-permit's-be-extremely- useful chum, so if she replaced into my chum, i could in all danger make a simpler grant. You reported she does not have funds for the marriage, best suited? So what i could advise is that rather of diluting the marriage with those form of factors we will not arise with the money for, why no longer in basic terms do one factor and try this one factor precise? i could grant, case in point, to forego the bachelorette social gathering, yet in rather spend the money I had set aside for the social gathering to purchasing her a marriage cake and common decorations rather. she would be in a place to throw an ordinary potluck in the park (the visitors can convey dishes rather of presents), and the social gathering would be festive adequate with a appropriate wedding ceremony cake, some lovable confetti to throw, and a few super song to bounce to (mp3). this might sparkling up some subject concerns you had at as quickly as - for one, you may nicely be confident that "something" is served on the marriage ;) additionally, being incredibly straight away in charge for a factor of the marriage additionally will make certain which you will push your chum to genuinely struggle by using with the marriage. i'm additionally puzzled why you and the bridesmaids are envisioned to purchase clothing... if the marriage is so low funds and there is not any photographer in sight.. is that even mandatory? could no longer she in simple terms permit you already know her sought after coloration and then have you ever adult males parent something out from what you have already got on your closets...? Sorry, it is in simple terms me questioning out aloud....
2016-10-03 02:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by hagensee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't do "tradition" or bad luck either, if you want him to have a say in your dress then that's your choice, nothing wrong with that.
2007-11-01 00:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are fine and it will be good just as long as you both are fine with it. I would want to do the same but I know how my beau is and he wouldn't want to see anything, even if it were the stockings lol. Congratulations!
2007-10-31 21:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think on your wedding you should be at your best and i know you also wanted to know which designs your BF would like but i think it would be better if you choose something for yourself first. this is your GRAND DAY so have fun and be BEAUTIFUL..your fiancee might like something you dont really like or doesnt compliment you....so THINK about you first coz im sure he will like which ever dress you would end up wearing.....be beautiful and be happy it would radiate and it will make you the most beautiful person .....congratulations and best wishes
2007-10-31 21:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by silly me 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a superstitious person, so I really don't think it matters if he sees you in it. Of course, i don't get freaked out by black cats and don't knock on wood or throw salt over my shoulder or even wish on falling stars. Don't sweat it.
2007-11-01 01:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by Allison P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋