I am having a $100 dinner per person along with drinks, appetizers, and so forth. I have a huge family and so does my fiancee--totalling about 200 persons on both sides. The total guests are 300. How can I get relatives to help fund my wedding because they are all affluent, but I am not working and fiancee just landed a job, so $$ is questionable right now, but we want to keep up with Jones's as all my relative's weddings were lavish.
2007-10-31 20:48:29 · 18 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
In Italian weddings it's automatically an insult if guests don't give envelopes of money to the bride & groom at the ceremony... This is because everyone knows weddings are expensive, and if they are going to enjoy the food and entertainment, they should chip in. Just tell everybody your wedding is Italian style. lol
2007-10-31 21:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by principessa_510 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I just went to a wedding and via word of mouth it was known that it was cash-only. There was a slot, and everyone gave a card with whatever amount they deemed to give. Out of 200 people, only ONE person brought a gift.. and boy did they look like an idiot.. so word of mouth is discreet and apparently very effective. A lot of my friends gave $170 each.. but I only gave $100 because I didn't knwo the person that well and that was my max that i'd pay for attending a wedding anyway.. I never asked anyone to spend that much!
2007-11-01 03:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not something you do, asking a relative to help fund your wedding ( your parents should be helping you out anyhow). Try aiming for cheaper meals, (we did the cooking for my wedding for about 300 ppl) and as for drinks, don't do an open bar, or limit it to a certian amount of money. But asking for handouts for you wedding just sends signals "They aren't prepared for this, can they really make it later?"
2007-11-01 03:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Pit Bull Owned! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your preoccupation with superficiality and materialism is disheartening. No, you shouldn't make others pay for your wedding. If you can't afford it yourself, tone it down. There's no need to "keep up with the Jones'", as it were. A marriage is a celebration of the union of two people, not an exercise in excessiveness.
2007-11-01 03:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by cliche_guevara9 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well... part of keeping up with the Jones' is going in debt because you've chosen to be just as shallow as they.
Suck it up and charge it.
Hopefully your marriage will last long enough to pay off the wedding!
With a superficial attitude such as yours, I doubt you'd last long together.
2007-11-01 04:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by stevemeister 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have a raffle or a smaller less expensive wedding..LOL
EDIT: I eloped to Vegas, and it was a blast, then my dad gave me the money that he would have spent on a wedding, we invested it and has been the gift that keeps on giving.
maybe that's a alternative to put in the think about corner.
2007-11-01 03:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Instead of a dinner, have a buffet with cocktail snacks. I saw it done at a very posh wedding.
2007-11-01 04:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by Bibs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my tradition everyone that attends the wedding gives the bride and groom money as a gift anyways.. so i don't know what your gonna do.. seems like you have nothing of the sought
2007-11-01 03:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Elope
2007-11-01 03:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't. Why should other people pay for you to keep up with the Jonses. Have the wedding you can afford or don't get married.
2007-11-01 04:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by LillyB 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋