2007-10-31 20:44:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
my mother in law slapped my husband(17 y/o boyfriend at the time).ALOT
2007-11-01 01:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Megan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK their is a few things that are dependant on how i would react i think
A) if he is under18:- i would be telling him to be sleeping with one eye open as he might wake up as a she... then also if the girl is going to keep the child then i would be making him get a job and make shore he is paying the child support if he is not living with her. that is the primary thing don't let the babies suffer course he and she child not keep there legs closed!
B)if he is over 18 :- then really he owns his a** and that is not my bossiness as to what he does if he is not taking care of his responsibilities then i would be having a go at him for that but other then that not much you can do hay
2007-11-01 05:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd stand by him. If he didn't have a job I'd help him find one. I'd guide him so he can learn to budget his money with his girlfriend. I'd support him with whatever he needs help with. I'd also give him a stern talking to about parental responsibility, sticking by his girlfriend's side, providing financially for the child, and his future. I think if a parent gets angry at their son they're just making it worse. Pretty much he'd know I wasn't happy about the situation BUT know that I will always be there for him.
2007-11-01 07:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is imperative that there is no anger expressed. You may feel like screaming blue murder but you must bottle it for now. Life is a gift, your son and his girlfriend they together with good counseling must come to the decision to keep this gift or reject it. You must be prepared for all the changes of mind that he will go through as he tries to come to terms with the result of his actions. Most important he must finish his education and be encouraged to do so.
2007-11-01 03:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by Dr.MPB 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Go and see her parents straight away!! Discuss the options but ultimately its the girl and her familys decision whether you like it or not. They will probably carry the most of the 'burden' if you know what I mean. The son may just have to start growing up real quick.
2007-11-01 06:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would be there for him, unconditional love. I would let him know he needs to be responsible, at least get a part time job, keep going to school (if in school), and save up for the baby and the baby's needs. Then, when the baby is born, get a paternity test to make sure. If the baby was his, be responsible, take care of the baby's needs. That would be my grandchild! Loved unconditionally as well.
2007-11-01 05:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by SAK 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wowsers! Well, I'd congratulate him, get together with the other parents, plan a wedding asap, help them find a basement suite to live in -- and send them on their merry way. Would totally love the grandchild, but leave them to fend on their own as a couple.
2007-11-01 08:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Advise both, your son and his girlfriend.
Are they ready to raise a child?
Abort and guide them to the correct path. Ask them to concentrate on studies and find a stabil job. Once they are stabil , then had a grand wedding.
Mummy, hold their hand and don't let them ruin their future.
2007-11-01 04:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sha S 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
panic at first...
but no matter what i just got to cool down..because i know they need me now..!
first of all....get myself prepared to be a grandma that knows all...talk to both of them (together)...see what's their planing
and how true it is that this girl is having my son child..
if they got no planing..or they plan to gets married...then talk to the girl parents..and see what should we do next.
be positive..and supportive.
since things already happened...
no point yelling at these youngster..
if the girl doesn't wants to get married then lets her decide what her own life..
2007-11-01 04:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by nightowls 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ild make it very clear to him that he has to take on responsibilaty for the baby. Ild go to the girls hous, sit down with her and her parents, then we would all come up with a plan togeather on how to help these young people get their lives togeather so they can be good parents.
2007-11-01 04:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋