actually i have a boyfriend but he not normal a normal person(he disable).
I really love him so much.But I have obtacle from my family exspecially from my father.
My father give reason that my boyfriend haven't a good job (not stable).Yes that's true but
for me he that's not the problem because my boyfriend already working & we will get the income to support our live.
So I don't know, which the issue now whether my father not agree we marriege because he disable person? or
he not a rice man or their (my family) shy to receive because he is disable. But for my brother, he girls friend is from rice
family. My father very agree untill he never critic his girlfriend and my father try to save asset for my brother for his marry
with his girlfriend. Is't fair?I'm very sad..please help me how to making my fath
2007-10-31 20:06:53 · 10 answers · asked by akilq 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am sorry for your issue but for anybody to make sense of this you need to learn how to write. I would suggest education before marriage in this case because you don't even know how to use the spell check feature and you can't even talk in a complete sentence.
2007-10-31 20:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by wditt2 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your father has your best interests at heart. This guy who is disabled may be working right now, but will he be able to hold a job in the future? Will you have to support both him and you and any children you may have? Who will be able to look after the children while you are working? Are you sufficiently educated to have a good income to support the family or are you going to rely on welfare from your husband?
Will you wish you hadn't married him in a few years?
2007-11-01 03:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first things first, what is more important to you? your family? your love? money?
It is true that money is the most vital thing for your survival in this society. Family is also very important. In what way is ur boyfriend disabled?
In my opinion, if he is able to support you or your future family (kids and all), that it should be ok. Just explain to your family why being with him is so important to you. Also tell them what your future plans are. Eg, how you are going to support yourself and whether there will be any problems in the future.
Also.. you have to see whether being with your boyfriend is practical or not.. Marraige involves 2 families. not only between 2 people. It is important that both families agree to the marraige. If you can see that being married to your boyfriend will bring you many problems, i think you should really think about it. if your boyfriend really loves you, he should respect and support any decision you make.
It all boils down to what is most important to you. Family? Money? Love alone? Use these things to help you decide.
2007-11-01 03:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by totally_doofus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad just wants what he thinks is best for you. He probably wants a good loving man that can financially take care of you. Is is fair? No, but you would want the same things for your children later in life. Maybe marriage is too soon for the both of you. Maybe he needs to show that he can care for you financially. You may also want to see what lifestyle you are getting into. Just because he's disabled doesn't always mean that he can't provide. You have options. Take it slow. Ultimately the decision is up to you. It would be your marriage and your life. Good luck!
2007-11-01 03:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by sieni32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Question first: Do YOU have a stable job?
Coz if your father worries only about your financial situation once you get married, then you can argue that YOU can support yourselves. Besides, when you grow old and gray, money won't matter to you anymore. There's more to life than material things. And oh yeah, PRAY about it.
2007-11-01 03:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isnt fair, try talking to your father and tell him that you really love this person and life isnt all about money for you, and that you have found something way more important than money, you have found happiness.
I wish you all the best
xxx
2007-11-01 03:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Massimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone tell you who you can love. You do not need any ones approval to love someone. You are the one that you need to make happy. Your father is not the one that has to live your life. Do not let him make your decisions. I would not even try to convince him anymore. Follow your heart.
2007-11-01 04:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it not fair that your father is like that. if you are age 18 or older and love this man you can get married without your father consent. God bless you.
2007-11-01 03:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by married & still inlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Against all odds. Follow your heart.
2007-11-01 04:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for ur boyfriend and tell him to do something (job).
and help him.
when he will stable,then u can marry him.
2007-11-01 03:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by ANIT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋