Ive done posted so many questions tonight to make heads and tails out of this guy. Neways my bf brokeup w me bcuz I chatted w my guys friends on the internet they was only friends. He got mad brokeup w me and moved out. I still love him and want him he still comes around was I wrong or was he? Is he worth even trying to be back with? If he is wrong how can I brake him down to start talking to me about it?
2007-10-31 19:17:27 · 8 answers · asked by chevylovebug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you for asking. Neither of you were wrong and both of you were right but the both of you are just not compatible enough, it's that obvious. You're obviously the type who's more open to having guy friends and it's my guess that you would not feel threatened if he in turn had his own group of other female friends with whom he socialized with over the Internet. With a username like "chevylovebug" you sound like a wild one, lady! And the fact that he broke up with you and moved out indicates he's a lot more conservative than you are. I'm just surprised that he still comes around at all? Probably to see if you've changed any? Someone who's not willing to tolerate having a girlfriend that spends time going on the Internet to chat with other guys needs to find a more conservative girlfriend whereas you need to find a guy who's more open-minded about open-relationships and who doesn't feel threatened that you spend time on the Internet chatting with other guys. You say your guy friends are just friends, but I can't help but think that every once in awhile some degree of flirting enters the conversation. As far as your ex is concerned I believe that he thinks it's only a matter of time before it goes beyond flirtation. Even you might agree that the odds of you ever meeting someone else with whom you might like better than your ex sky rockets in comparison than if you were strictly a one-guy gal compatible for a one-woman man? I believe he sees your behavioral interest as the equivalent of you having wandering eyes where you're always looking at other guys as though you're always trying to keep your options open to "upgrade" should the opportunity ever arise or else why would you be so interested in other guys instead of devoting more of your attention into your relationship with him? I still say there's nothing wrong with either of you but it just so happens that the two of you are just not compatible enough for a serious relationship together. Sometimes it happens that way. However, I wish the both of you well. And again thank you for asking. Tsark out.
2007-10-31 20:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Michael Tsark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems a little more immature on his part than yours. I would just let him blow off some steam and when he starts missing you he will be open to talking about it. Man, I sound like a shrink! But seriously, apologize to him whether you think you're right or wrong. It OBV struck a chord with him! And if you value your relationship then you can give up the chatting to make him happy. But if you think he's being controlling and psycho...that's a much bigger problem!
2007-11-01 02:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by NIKKI C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to "break him down" to get communication going, you've got a problem! Your actions (both of you) seem immature to be trying to live together. I'm sensing that neither of you is ready for a serious relationship of that kind. However, the internet causes a lot of friction when you use it to chat with the opposite sex. You need to be talking with your boyfriend.
2007-11-01 02:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong, what do you think?? Would you want your guy to "chat" with "other" women on the internet when you are involved with him? how would you feel? Where would your trust be?? So stupid but so typical of scumbag american women. Common sense would tell you if you want to actually keep a man, something that few women want to do these days. you dont fart around on the net with other men. dummy
2007-11-01 02:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by Misunderstood 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on what you was chatting about. but i dont think it was enough to move out on. talk to him when it blows over cause if ya'll meant anything to each other ya'll are going to miss each other and ask what he felt about but only you know if he is worth it or not im not there you are
2007-11-01 02:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by anamara_88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means he love's you that much that he cant stand for you to hav male friends incase they try to take advantage of you or you start like them more than you should. use both need to sort something out, 1. you need to get your own friends to talk and female's at that, 2. he needs to have trust in you, go and sort your problems out maturely and think of his feeling for a change.
also MISUNDERSTOOD MAN you seem to have a problem with woman, not all of them are like that, i'd do anything to keep my man cus i love him with all my heart.
2007-11-01 02:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Vixen19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how u were chatting with the other guy...there are levels of chat intention...friends, flirtiness, intimacy...can be alsmot as bad as cheating sometimes. so theres not enuf info ure giving us to answer correctly.
2007-11-01 02:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by gaga_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's both of your faults.
and communicate!
2007-11-01 02:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋