My ex gf n i had been on a break for a bout a week. It was a mutual breakup, we both took it hard, but remained good friends. I found out a week later she had made out with a girl. She admitted to this n said it was the only thing that happened that night. I accepted this. About a month later she told me that same night she made out with another girl. She blamed it on being drunk. This made me very mad because she had never lied to me before(or me to her). She would have destroyed me if she found out i made out with anyone after our breakup (which i have yet to do!) I dont think it matters if she made out with a guy or girl. Everything has been a one way street with her, i never get mad if she goes out or drinks, she bitches me out if i have 1 beer. Do i have a right to be mad? Should i even talk to her? I hoped to get back together with her one day but i dont know now.
2007-10-31 18:57:10 · 20 answers · asked by bassfisherman4now 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she's your x no you've no right to be mad. & also You don t need her in your life . she's no good. if she's this way now, imagine how beiing married to her would be!!
You do not want this. She sounds like a selfish child who just cares about fullfilling here own wishes in spite of the pain of others who care about her! get away. too many other girls out that'd appreciate a nice guy!
2007-10-31 19:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by AnnaMaria 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you angry about ? That you are unable to dominate your gf? that you are unable to yell at her for something which looks unjustified to you , but may be perfectly all right from your gf's point of view! Wake up , you say you have a break up: that means you no longer have the right to object to any of the things your gf does. Move on , mind your own business .You have no rights to be mad. As far as talking to her is concerned, talking or not talking won't change either your or your X's point of view, nor would it change any of the happenings in the past.If you really like her and hope to get back with her one day, give her some space to be herself. Take this opportunity as an eye opener for you.Both of you need time, understanding and tonnes of efforts to get back together.
2007-10-31 19:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about how you feel. Tell her everything thats bothering you but in a nice way. Explain how her actions hurt you just as much as they would hurt you if the situation was reversed. Do you love this girl? If so tell her you love her and was hoping to get back together with her one day and see what her reaction is. You do have a right to be mad if she gets mad at you for things that she is doing too. But she is your ex girlfriend and you can do whatever you want and she has no say in it. She's hurt you by doing those things so why can't you do the same thing?
2007-10-31 19:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have every right to be mad i think where on a break is just one way of saying u dont want to be around eachother no more , you can love some one but letting them go sometimes is for the best , if you really love her then stay away for awhile , if she chooses to come back then u try again ,but for now just give her time to realize what she has done .
2007-10-31 19:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by lovlyislndgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't try to make it even just by getting mad because she gets mad at you. you need to be the bigger person and don't sink to her level. you should man up. if she's gay, then maybe you can say "peace out" but if shes not and she made out with a girl then theres no reason to be mad. its nothing. you guys are on a break. you guys shouldn't be talking to each other. let her do what she wants and just ignore whatever she has coming for you.
2007-10-31 19:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by lady hiphop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't be mad at her. But don't be her friend either. She sounds like she's very self-centered, and selfish. She wants to control you but she doesn't do a very good job of controlling herself. I would never consider dating someone who used being drunk as an excuse for inappropriate behavior. If you choose to drink you are still responsible for your behavior. ALL of it!
I'm assuming you are a guy. She's making out with girls. That's not because she was drunk. That's because she is not heterosexual. Doesn't sound like good girlfriend material to me at all.
2007-10-31 19:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by treebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No need to be mad because you guys were not together. Just keep that information in your memory bank. The choice to talk to her is up to you, but don't do it if you think you can't handle being around her without starting to pine over her. She is obviously not the ideal girlfriend at this point in her life and may never be.
2007-10-31 19:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by catmoosebear 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like its time to move on,your ex sounds like a person who wants to have that no commit commitment relationship with you and still enjoy the freedom of being single,and as long as you let her do it ,she will ,cause you have allowed her to do soo!it sucks cause you do want her back but giving in and allowing her to do whatever she wants willnot win her over but bore her to the point of no return for you will nolonger be a challenge anymore but rather a pushover and women dont like being able to defeat their men .and if it dont work out for ya then better it happened now so you can move on to someone elsethat will make you happy instead of worry and wonder.good luck
2007-10-31 19:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by denisemar2tin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one hand, you should. Cos obviously she don't care for you. It seems like you are the only one who is still hoping to patch up.
On the other hand, you shouldn't be angry with her cos you are on a break. She can do whatever she wish & YOU should too.
Anyway, count yourself very lucky. From this incident, you are able to see who she really are. I hope this will make it easy for you to decide whether or not to get back with her.
2007-10-31 19:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's a player -- likes to get drunk, make out with whoever is around, then blames the alcohol and not herself.
Is this what you want?
2007-10-31 19:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by equal_opposites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋