I was artificially insemenated...can I find my father?

Question

I was born in LA and my mother didn't want to get married to have a kid so I was artificially inseminated and I really want to find my biological father. I live in Arizona now and all I know about him is that he was tall, jewish, smart, blonde hair/blue eyed, and of russian/polish descent. I'm also underage and I don't know of any legal restrictions regarding the situation. If someone could give me a good place to start that would be helpful, thanks!

also, with regards to some peoples answers, my mother has passed away-i'm adopted.

Answer 1

First of all, it was your MOTHER who was artificially inseminated, not you. That's how you were "conceived." But other than that, I agree with the others--wait until you are 21 and you can claim any and all records about your birth. Most of the time the donors in these situations didn't want to be found, so they were listed as anonymous donors or were given a number. Your father may or may not have been one of these men.

Answer 2

You have every right to want to find and to try and find your biological father - regardless of age.

If you know where the procedure took place, start there. As another member mentioned, check with donor registries. They should have the information you need to at least get started. Ask where the 'donation' was made. Don't be afraid to ask a lot of questions. The worst they can say is no. They may say it in different ways and even try to discourage you in your pursuit. Don't let them.

On the other side, your biological father has the right to not be found.

Answer 3

http://www.donorsiblingregistry.com/DSRblog/index.php
Surprise, surprise. It is NOT totally impossible, as SOME donors have agreed to be identified. (hey, doing genealogy, news stories like this are high on my radar).
Legally speaking, I do think this is something your mother would have to be involved with, as to releasing of info. That would be true also in an adoptive situation.
If she is comfortable with doing so, she can investigate this registry which works initially to locate siblings from a certain donor. The records exist, but are strictly voluntary.
The next step would be IF (and that's a big word) the bio father is willing to be identified. SOME have made that choice. I don't want to get your hopes up... but it is possible. Be realistic about the odds, and see what mom has to say.

Answer 4

Don’t listen to what people say. You find your father if you want to. I know I would most definitely want to know if I had a daughter or not. You will never know until you try. Hay he may accept you or he may not. But what is important to know is that you have given him that choice. Otherwise he may never know. You may not become part of his life but at least he will have to acknowledge the fact that he has a daughter.

A good place to start would be the clinic where you were inseminated. They may have records their about your fathers sperm. Or hire a detective to investigate for you.
Wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

Wait till your twenty one. When you become of age, you will have all the wealth of knowledge in your hands and able to deal with the acknowledgement or the disappointment.

The other person may not want to know particularly if he has another family. It may become disruptive to this family. Talk to your mother.
Good luck

Answer 6

The man that provided the sperm that allowed your conception to take place KNOWS he is somebody's father .. but does that mean he wants to KNOW the people who he fathered .. POSSIBLY not want to ever have any contact with them..that is something you need to prepare yourself for.

Answer 7

hardly