...been together nearly one year, and he keeps telling me he needs more time to get things organized...I do believe him as he just recently bought a business and it has been a rough go of it starting out. Yet, how long must I wait, and how can I press him to "hurry-up"? Or what could I tell him to do for me as 'proof' of his intentions to committ? Help!
2007-10-31 18:45:53 · 22 answers · asked by 2much_luvin' 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You probably cannot. And you shouldn't. This man obviously thinks of you as second best and unbelievably you go along with that assessment. You deserve someone of your own. He's not it. Move on.
He bought a business INSTEAD of leaving his wife. He's not trying to organize things for you. He is organizing HIS life. Think more of yourself and spend your time getting your own life in order.
PLEASE remember that the woman who does marry the man she cheated with, will always have to remember that she is married to a man who will cheat on his wife. Why would you want that? Treat yourself better than that. You deserve a man who loves you, puts you first, and would not cheat on you. Please go out and find him.
2007-10-31 18:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by treebird 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Having been there and done that....You need a heckuva lot of patience if it ever DOES happen ! I had to hear the same thing as you, and wait about 10 years.Are there kids ? That will make a difference. In the years since we have been together, it hasn't been that great. I might even go so far as to say (at times) that it wasn't worth it.
Get your own life, find your own friends.
If it's meant to be it will be.
But you will have to wait longer than you would like. Married guys don't hurry out of anything!!
2007-11-01 01:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Carol K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What goes around comes around!He leaves his wife for you then he'll leave you in future for someone else too. A guy who cheats on his wife would cheat on you to.
Think about your future what do you want your future to be?
You'll never find happiness if you break someones heart and life. This guy is definitely not doing the right thing. First his cheating on his wife. Second his doing absolutely nothing to hurry up things. So bottom line....your just a time pass. Leave this guy and find someone that you deserve.....and NEVER EVER try to break up a family!When you realize what you've done you'll never be able to live with yourself. Do the right thing.....
Its your future...make it or break it!
2007-11-01 02:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by V Bond 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u one stupid women. yes i said it, i talk plainly and that's what i think
what makes u think that once he is with u he wont up and leave ur a.ss for someone else??
LOVE?? i hope u didn't just think that, he loved his wife didn't he?? so don't even bring up such crap.
but if u wanna wait for something that might never happen, or getting him and losing him in the end go ahead. but u going to be one sorry sucker.
and before u start thinking many couples where happy after a divorce..u need to look at that percentage real good!!!
2007-11-01 01:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try to break with him and not asking him to break with his wife. I think he won't be leaving his wife no matter what you do, because they are married and binded, your just a play thing for the guy and a past time. He may love you really but still a mistress is/and will always be a mistress.
2007-11-01 01:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by freya vida 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not agree with this sort of relationship. The man is married! You should not be involved with a married man. He is cheating on her with you and how do you know he wouldn't do the same to you! He could be sleeping with you one night and then then goes home to his wife and does the same thing. Getting involved with a married man is so wrong and you should be ashamed of yourself. Marriage is a commitment that he made to his wife and why should you pressure him to break that commitment with her and start one with you? Maybe he feels bad about everything and still loves his wife. I suggest leaving him alone, find a man who is not married, much less complicated!
2007-11-01 01:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you think it's really not right for him to deceive his wife any longer and you aren't going to help him. He has three choices: leave you alone, leave him wife, or you tell his wife.
By the way, bitc*, do you realize you've ruined some poor innocent woman's life? Do you know how painful and abandoned she's going to feel? What's she going to tell her kids? "Sorry, you don't have a Daddy anymore. He found a woman with bigger **** and ran away." You don't want my opinion, I know... just remember you have to live with yourself at the end of the day.
2007-11-01 01:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
people like you and him are just bits of s**t. i hope the wife catches you two out and you both end up with nothing but empty love and his wife ends up with everything, including the business which has had a bad start only because he is probably riddled with guilt. ha! then he will end up cheating on you. like the look of your future with this MARRIED MAN??!!
2007-11-01 02:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by kori_shelby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if it happens that he leaves his wife for u, u can be sure he will leave u also for another woman. If that would make u happy, keep trying hard. Maybe u can go kill his wife , and somebody else will kill u and take ur place.
2007-11-01 01:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing, you are his back up girl... If anything ever happened to his wife, he still has you... doesnt that make you feel low?
and for two, he does not love you back, no matter what he says, because if he truly did, he would have left his WIFE for you a long time ago...
and for three... why are you trying to split up a relationship, you shipwrecker...
2007-11-01 01:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋