my parents nag me and my siblings about education/school blah blah blah. i understand that they want me to get good education so i can have a better future, but i think all this nagging with expectations could possibly make an opposite effect (f-ing up in school)! my siblings and i are freakin' adults, but our parents treat us like children sometimes which is so sad. im 18 and cant wait to move out, so i can be independent and succeed in school without such pressures.
does anybody feel the same way?!
2007-10-31 17:31:19 · 12 answers · asked by hunny111805 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no im not a spoiled fkin brat. i actually forgot to mention that my parents don't show any interest in the other areas of my life...they put on a mean face and scare me.
2007-10-31 17:38:07 · update #1
some parents are freakish overachievers and don't wish to see their children make the same mistakes they did. As someone in the field of education, I find that to be a serious flaw in most parents. Their kids tend to turn out stressed and develop warped views about their grades. To them a B is a D. And a B means they won't be leaving the house for the next three weeks. If your parents come from an ethnic background they could be trying to prove something about their culture. If your parents are professionals, they might want to see their children succeed as they did. Whatever the case, it's not totally healthy to push a kid to the limit, and berate them when they're only trying their best to impress them. I would strongly suggest sitting down with your parents and talking to them about how you feel. How you feel stressed, and don't feel like you ever have any fun. And that you understand they want a good future for you, but you're still young and have needs. Sometimes a kid just wants to be a kid. Good luck. And I hope you get some rest.
2007-10-31 18:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because your parents want you to have a good education, so that when they're old, you'll be able to support them. Don't question for a second that most parents have purely selfish drives behind their desire for a child and love for that child.
The problem with pressuring young people to do well in school is that no one bothers to mention that high school is not important for success later in life or in post secondary education. High school is quite optional, but not knowing that and then screwing up in high school can make you feel hopeless about your entire future!
Your parents treat you like a child because they're afraid to let go and go on to the next stage of parenting, the stage when children are adults and don't need mommy and daddy so much anymore. You'll find that as soon as your able to support yourself, your parents will keep their mouths shut, not because they agree with your behaviors or ideas, but because they will be terrified of losing you. They're not afraid of losing you out of love though, it's because a large part of any parents identity is just that, parenting and without it, they have an identity crisis to go through and it's easier to avoid it.
What can you do now? Do what you wish to do with your life and if later you decide that education is the right path for you, you can still go to college or even become a doctor even if you did drop out of high school or pull D's all the way through high school.
2007-10-31 17:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do it because they know without an education, you might as well live in a trailer court with a beer guzzling, pot bellied gun rack in the pickup truck redneck with 5 kids stringing along behind you all 9 months apart and thinking you got it so good because you got a new toaster oven for your birthday. Education = success. Moving out and being "independent" isn't the fary tale fantasy-come-true you think it is. It is very hard. Not saying it can't be done, but it isn't easy.
2007-10-31 18:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Their looking out for your best interest. Experience tells me that if you move out too soon so you can be independent ... you will probably regret it. I understand the suffocating feeling, but you need to deal with it a while longer and finish your schooling. By moving out, what do you gain? Are you going to ignore your parents? They will still want you to succeed in school, all that you will end up doing is adding a lot more pressure on yourself that will distract you from things you need to do. You will need to worry about rent, transportation, food, insurance, ... etc.
2007-10-31 18:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by workathomealot 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We always wanted our children to do their very best, but not to the extent of nagging or making life unbearable for them. Like you said, it CAN have an adverse reaction if constantly is being brought up & thrown in your faces. Is there some way you can all get together & face your parents & tell them what you've stated here. Ask them to give you a chance to prove yourselves w/o them having to call it to your attention as frequently as they have been. Just ask for a change to prove yourselfs & you'll show your appreciation by your marks. Hopefully that w/be of help to you.
2007-10-31 18:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sue C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They nag because they where young and where f-ing up them self and learned there lesson and they think you should listen to them because they know . But little do they know your just like them they didn't listen either and there parents probably nagged at them to . Change the cycle go to school become someone and don't nag your kids . Simple as that
2007-10-31 18:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by dad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do it because they care about you. You should be glad they don't just let you go by and mess up without telling you that you did. If no one was there to tell you, then you would end up on the street somewhere smoking the hippy lettuce or something else you shouldn't be doing.
2007-10-31 17:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by nodine410 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember, nobody's perfect in this world even our parents commits mistake in anyway like giving advise to her/his children.But, its not bad to let your ear close that you know your parents is out of boundary in giving advise, we knew that they do that for our own sake, but sometimes over reacted/exaggerated. Its important that you superficially convey to your parent that you are listening to his/her advise with smile in that way you show to your parents that you respect them. Once your parents is in good mood or not nagging you talk with them, and tell them how your real feeling, you tell with them that you are not young anymore, just tell to them what you want in life to accomplish just ask them to support you and most especially tell them that you love them very much. Sooner or later as time goes by I don't know how long it is your parents will let you decide with your own even theirs because you gain their trust.
2007-10-31 18:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by Ven 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's the same here ! İ'm sick of it, it's not a matter of life and death ! İm already going to school, but i had enough of their lectures because of them i. dont wanna go anymore and they still blame me !!!!!!!!
2007-10-31 19:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.....this sounds kinda familiar. my gf is going through the same thing. wondering whats up with all these wierd parents
2007-10-31 17:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by abominusprime 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋